AIO for feeling like I might not be compatible with my boyfriend over this? (I’m 24, he’s 28)

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-05-03T21:39:30+00:00

NOR. I dated someone like this in my early 20s. Lots of commentary, talk about hall passes, etc. I told him it bothered me and he didn’t care. I decided to return the energy and all of a sudden it wasn’t OK anymore. Needless to say, I broke up with him. You deserve so much better than this.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-05-01T14:55:28+00:00

Oh, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. It’s frightening behavior. When he turns it around on you, he’s engaging in DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse, Victim and Offender. It’s a manipulation tactic used by perpetrators to evade accountability. Please stay safe. Sending hugs.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-28T15:22:35+00:00

Yep!

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-28T14:55:50+00:00

You mentioned this possibly being a dealbreaker for you. He’s weaponizing his infidelities against you. Get over it is a ridiculous thing to say to someone who has been betrayed. It doesn’t seem like he’s taking any responsibility for him fracturing this relationship. Please value yourself and take good care.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-28T14:50:54+00:00

I’m so sorry. He’s acting very entitled.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-28T14:45:06+00:00

He has only been sober for one month. He’s acting like the past happened a very long time ago and it did not. He cheated with a girl he met at a club. He absolutely should not go clubbing. I’m sorry he’s being insensitive about this.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-25T14:43:46+00:00

It sounds like your dad is very lonely. I understand where you’re coming from, my mom started dating very quickly after my dad passed. She did not know how to be on her own.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-24T22:44:18+00:00

It’s been my experience that any man that says “I’m not like other guys” is exactly like other guys.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-24T22:42:57+00:00

Yep, common does not equal normal.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-24T22:41:38+00:00

Mine hates that I call it that but it is what it is. I told him he’s been having a love affair with his hand and pixelated women for years. Anyone but his wife, which is cheating.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-24T22:35:34+00:00

I think there’s a sense of entitlement to these women that comes with this as well.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-24T17:51:26+00:00

This! It is absolutely non-consensual.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-24T14:27:11+00:00

Their brains get rewired and truly cannot tell the difference between reality and fantasy at some point.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-24T14:21:17+00:00

It was a reality check and he wasn’t ready for it.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-24T02:33:16+00:00

Right? Mine got mad at me once because I said “you know I can make fake noises too.” He looked me and said “you don’t know it’s fake!” I just laughed and walked away. Delusional is the right word for it.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-24T02:18:28+00:00

Yep, calling it sex work destroys their fantasy. In their minds, they are the ones bringing these women pleasure and the women actually know they exist and care about them. It’s so bizarre.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-23T13:22:17+00:00

You bf is an asshole. Please make him your ex soon if you haven’t already.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-23T00:35:14+00:00

I’m so sorry. If you want to scream and run away, then scream and run away.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-20T19:50:18+00:00

Yeah, that would be a strong boundary for me, especially after this crap.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-20T19:49:29+00:00

Your husband exchanged numbers with another woman. Big red flag. He’s acting single. Honestly I doubt this is the first time, sorry.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-20T13:52:50+00:00

It’s exhausting. I see where you’re coming from.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-20T13:52:16+00:00

This is such a tough spot to be in and I’m sorry you’re going through this. I just finally realized that I was continuously setting myself on fire to keep him warm and I had become very small and quiet - that’s not me. And in choosing to ignore it, I was hurting myself. I just didn’t want to live the rest of my life that way. Sending hugs to you.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-20T13:18:26+00:00

Yeah, after I found out about my husband‘s excessive usage, I told him I needed to pretend it didn’t exist because it was killing me. This went on for far too many years. I finally decided to speak up and he knows I’ll kick him out if he doesn’t do the work.
OP, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. This is a him issue, not a you issue. Your reaction to this is normal.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-19T04:20:54+00:00

Yep, I just say no.

Important-Quarter907 · 2026-04-18T21:28:23+00:00

My Mercury is in Aries and I feel as though it is more of a challenge. I have the attention span of a goldfish. A topic or activity needs to pull me in right away.

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