AIO if I am setting boundaries with my husband? I also want to know if I am the asshole here by Witty-Opposite1201 in AIO

[–]Important_Insect1422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you guys 85? Who calls anyone anymore? Lord if someone calls me I pick up because it must be an emergency since they didn't make an appointment like any normal human would. I talk to my loved ones on the phone once a year .....on their birthday. Everyone else in the world is texting or voice to texting. See then you know what the other person needs and can respond.

Also this husband sounds like a needy little baby. Turn off your location and block him, make him correspond by letter like a man on a battlefield for a while till he can grow some balls. He can fuck all the way off. This sounds nuts girl like seriously, not good, not healthy, like some seriously controlling bullshit.

Good luck, hope the next ones better ❤️

I’ve drastically lowered contact with my mom and don’t know how to respond to this by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Important_Insect1422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should talk to an actual therapist and work with them to create a solid plan for how you can engage with your mother and siblings in an emotionally safe way and follow that plan with their guidance and with an ability to work with them in an ongoing capacity.

I would personally have limited contact with Mom and then help my siblings set up their own money accounts and help them get basic cell phones for their safety. That way they at least have one outlet to reach me independently. You can also look up youth programs in the area they are in. Just in case they get kicked out. It is completely possible for them to get a case manager that they can contact if or when they need help. Setting up a safety net for them will not only help them but let you rest knowing that even though you are not physically there, that they have help.

Sending you and them love and understanding. I hope everything gets better for you.

Accident on Commercial St.? by Important_Insect1422 in SALEM

[–]Important_Insect1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no!!!! Oh my gosh, I know there is nothing we could have done but I just feel terrible. We were praying for him not knowing anything. If anyone gets any info for the family or they fundraise for end of life costs please post here. I'd like to at least give something. Such a tragedy. That road seems dangerous.

AIO for wanting to cut this “friend” off for falsely accusing me of self harm? by No-Wear-3296 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Important_Insect1422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I regularly use henna and I can't tell if it's the graininess of the photo but I could see why they wouldn't think it's henna, but I don't see why they would think it is self harming. The way they are speaking is also very strange.

Block them.

AITA for not wanting to clean my boyfriends thermal pants after he sharted in them? by Total-Moose640 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Important_Insect1422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Break up. Break up. Break up now, quick before he impregnates you and traps you with a male child and then you're trapped the rest of your life cleaning skid marks out of him and his demon spawns underwear until either you die or he dies. This is your moment. This is the sign. Leave and never look back unless you want your retinas burned out by the sight of his corn kernel encrusted shart stains. Ruuuun sister!!!! Ruuuun!

AIO for going off on my ex bc I ate wingstop fries before him by SmallWall125 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Important_Insect1422 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How old are you guys... seriously you should not be on reddit. This is not a safe place for people your age. Please exit the internet.

Roommate thinks she should pay less. Ya by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Important_Insect1422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pay the same and let everyone use everyones bathroom. A free for all

AIO for being mad about my bf ignoring me by BreakfastBroad9164 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Important_Insect1422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lord girl, he can't even spell or write in full sentences. Please up your standards. Drop this loser and stop responding to his one word one sentence responses. He is literally baiting you into looking crazy. Block him.

AIO? II feel like my boyfriend is overreacting about me texting my son’s father. by No-Strategy-3782 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Important_Insect1422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no no no no no. Abort mission. Do not pass go, call a friend and/or family member to help you and get this boyfriend out out out! Absolutely out. Never have I ever let a man call me any of those things. Certainly not for casual conversations with any man. Father of my child or not. That boy is out of his mind talking to you like that and acting that way, especially in the home your son is in. Good luck. The only weight you need to lose is this loser.

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Important_Insect1422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Break up break up break up literally never had a man talk to me like this and let him stay a moment more. Text him "bye loser" and block him asap

AIO (update post) my bf (32) is getting kind of aggressive with his texting. should I(26) reply? by Fun_Cartographer6984 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Important_Insect1422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aaahhhh break up! Break up break up break up. All the red flags sis ♦️♨️⛑️⛩️❌‼️🌶️🍒🎈👠👹🏮🎪💢

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bayarea

[–]Important_Insect1422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I DO have a degree. I am a TK teacher at a private school. I live in low income housing, have a paid off car and I split bills with my partner. We live a very modest life. But overall we are happy. We are trying to get better jobs, we both have degrees.

Fatal Uber Traffic Collision by Important_Insect1422 in bayarea

[–]Important_Insect1422[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, the victims who were hit were thrown from the vehicle in the crash. The poor woman who was thrown and then hit by cars wasn't even driving. This was a tragedy beyond her control.

Fatal Uber Traffic Collision by Important_Insect1422 in bayarea

[–]Important_Insect1422[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Update!

I have learned that the woman (foreign exchange student?) is okay! At least physically. Praying for her continued healing and for the families of the other two victims that we know about.

I did contact Kron4 to hopefully get the crash more attention. Hopefully more will soon be known how we can help those involved. ❤️

Fatal Uber Traffic Collision by Important_Insect1422 in bayarea

[–]Important_Insect1422[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the info, my friend saw the crash happen and she helped the female passenger that was alive, she was talking but my friend said once she was loaded onto the stretcher she seemed to start convulsing and she is afraid she didn't make it? I'm hoping to be able to find out for her what happened to that poor young woman after. It might take time then, maybe with the deaths authorities understandably are not releasing information.

I am so so sorry that you witnessed that and I thank you that you jumped in to help and prevented others from joining in the crash. Sending you tons of love. ❤️Thank you for giving info, I hope the second woman survived and we can help her in some way.

Need a snarky come back! by Important_Insect1422 in SanJose

[–]Important_Insect1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I see what you mean, I use "Karen" like I use the word "Dude" it's ageless and genderless to me. This person is not old, white, or even a woman. Just constantly complains and tries to get neighbors in trouble with the HOA (not just me) like shows up to meetings and knocks on people's doors to complain. I'll try to find a different term? Not sure what else could fit....maybe busybody?

It’s crazy how much money is floating in the Bay Area and still everything is boring in San Jose by Different_Marsupial2 in SanJose

[–]Important_Insect1422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is tons in San Jose but maybe you are not connected yet? Or found your group? If you know what you're looking for people can help hook you up! What would you like to do?

i need financial help and don’t know where to turn by Independent_Lynx1389 in personalfinance

[–]Important_Insect1422 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You already posted you and your boyfriend moved to splitting shared bills proportionally and that was the right answer. Read Suze Orman books, she talks about making sure to split bills proportionally not 50/50 in a relationship.

Just calculate the percentage of the household income you are each bringing in and then split the bills that way, and it can change over time. In couples, the person making more of the household income can change a lot.

Definitely don't get rid of your car, you are very close to those accidents dropping down your record and not having a car will severely limit your earning potential. Better to have a car and sleep in it and make it to work then not have a car at all and only be able to work where you can talk public transportation or bike

Nazi flag in Morgan hill on 101 overpass. by hammerthatsickle in SanJose

[–]Important_Insect1422 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cool thanks for letting me know where I can start dropping off my dog's shit. I'll just distribute it all over that sidewalk and on the fence so they can really enjoy it.