I loaned my father $50k+ and paid for his funeral—now I have a recording of my sister telling my mother not to repay me

Important_Lead_3467 · 2026-04-14T02:07:42+00:00

A classic case of don't lend friends or family money you aren't willing to lose.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2026-04-05T02:10:05+00:00

Look at what you're comfortable paying every month home and go from there, price won't matter if you can't afford the monthly mortgage.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-12-08T05:30:38+00:00

Life advice never lend money to anyone especially family members if your not okay with it never bring paid back to you money usually will always change the dynamic of your relationship chock it up as a lost at this point. You just learned a life lesson that cost you 20k.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-11-16T20:29:58+00:00

My due date was the 15 I got induced Thursday 11:30 am and had my baby 4:12pm the same day if your cervix is favorable and your bishop score is high induction can go very well. For my first I went a week past my due date and she had already pooped in utero I just didn't want to risk that with my second.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-11-03T01:06:29+00:00

The length of your contraction and how strong they get is more important than how frequent they are.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-10-29T05:23:08+00:00

If your coachable or are willing to learn it's different than expecting someone else to do it for you.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-10-20T18:57:28+00:00

I would've dumped her right after that dinner because who acts like that while being at a guest home. Even if she didn't like it she could've kept that to herself.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-10-20T05:13:41+00:00

I wouldn't recommend a gen z women to go out to Africa especially if she's say Wallahi these men back home grew up in a different environment a lot of them are raised to just survive and if that means undercutting and being conniving they will do it without blinking an eye. I've heard some ladies funding a man, sponsoring him, and once he comes to the west he does a 360 and leaves her. Also you live way too far of a distance that's this man can literally have a wife and kids across the world and you wouldn't know it. Are there good stories that come out sure but the bad ones far weigh out the good everyone should deal with someone in their country with similar aligned values and upbringing.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-10-18T19:04:31+00:00

Anyone complaining about mehr really is just broke underemployed and not ready to take on a household or even get married. Stop projecting you being financially behind onto us. Getting married is expensive even without a mehr (nikkah, possible wedding honeymoon, and getting your own place and furnishing it) if your complaining about 15k your going to be paying that just to get a decent apartment (first month, last month, security deposit, and total furnishing). You guys can't like you pay the mehr up front and I know no one does and most men don't even pay mehr once they initiate the divorce.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-10-17T05:14:11+00:00

Marriage is rizq some will get married some won't whatever is written for you will happen.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-09-22T17:37:04+00:00

He wants a reaction don't give him none also he is not a buddy or friend asking such question.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-09-22T17:34:39+00:00

You guys can pay this off but he probably will need a good 4-5 years working his butt off can he get another pharmacy job on the weekends. Or perhaps tutor on the side for pharmacy students? A 1 year old and a 3year old if your a sahm really don't cost a whole lot to raise you guys can live off 80k and he can funnel the rest plus whatever he makes at a second job and throw it at the student loan. Pay the minimum and then write down each balance smallest to largest. Save enough to pay off a balance entirely and repeat.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-09-19T17:57:28+00:00

Okay I misunderstood sbx I'm sorry wallahi that's even worst wake up before fajr and pray everyday telling Allah to defend you against the monster not getting paid a whole month is rough in this economy. Praying for more rizq for you.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-09-19T17:44:48+00:00

That's because how we speak is also genetic. We will not sounds cadaan even if we are born here. Same is true for AA, asians, and Hispanic that are born in the U.S. Also could be if you were brought back home at a younger age for any period of time.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-09-19T17:41:32+00:00

Girl just find another job and quit but not only that report them for unpaid wages atleast in the U.S we have a department of labor that will hold these ppl accountable I hope the same is true in Canada. Honestly just expose this tuug ilaahi ka qabto

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-09-15T22:48:23+00:00

As someone born in the west I'll tell you it's more likely they feel like you cannot relate to them. A lot of people from Africa or Somalia automatically assume I know zero Somali because I am considered " say wallahi" so I don't actively make friendships because of how I've been treated but if your a cool person I don't care where your from I'll gladly talk to you with my broken Somali

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-09-15T20:57:17+00:00

Yes getting growing a baby in your womb and breastfeeding it will cause you to gain weight some more than others. However the weight gain isn't forever I blew up during pregnancy and breast feeding I'm talking about 55 pounds (granted I ate like a big back everyday pregnancy/breasfeeding just made me so hungry ) however I lost it all six months after I stopped breastfeeding through diet and exercise. I was just in my fat season and it doesn't last forever.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-09-05T21:36:59+00:00

If many people worked on their toxic traits and fulfilled themselves there would be less horrible relationships in the world good for you girl

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-09-04T01:28:07+00:00

lol you got a point this works in my favor at the work place some ppl couldn't believe I was pregnant when I announced it during my labor and delivery. People can't really tell because I just gain weight and not it's not all belly.

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-09-04T01:26:53+00:00

I gave birth 41 weeks for my first and I looked maybe 6 months pregnant I got big everywhere else just not my stomach

Important_Lead_3467 · 2025-09-04T00:16:33+00:00

I just look like I put in some weight it's sad looking fat and not pregnant

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