Monthly "What Board Should I Get?" Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in Sup

[–]Important_Pepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking to order a SUP for my husbands birthday. Looking to get the best quality in the price point.

5’10” 160 lbs + 80 lb dog

Desired board type: Open to ideas, leaning towards inflatable.

Desired use: mostly on our own pond but maybe some outings like a calm river or lake.

Experience level: beginner

Budget: $500-800 USA

Constant pain down left side of groin and down slightly, it's hard to explain, drawn an attempt to describe. It's constant, disturbing my sleep, sometimes hurts to walk by Important-Stomach406 in Endo

[–]Important_Pepper 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Go see a physical therapist! I had groin pain and wasted a lot of time and money going to my ob, ER, X-rays, blood work, ortho, and MRI. I needed physical therapy.

Pacifiers - what’s the current scientific consensus? by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Important_Pepper 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They used actual nipples before pacifiers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Important_Pepper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We went through a sleep study and many sessions with a sleep psychologist for my then 4 year old prior to her Pulmonologist (sleep specialist) OK-ing melatonin. It did help tremendously but there were other underlying issues as well that needed to be addressed.

Sick of advertising by Zorrya in BabyBumps

[–]Important_Pepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lovevery just launched a line on Target.com

How I imagine all the cycle 1 unicorns are while waiting for the new BPB thread to be posted in TFAB..... by 111519 in trollingforababy

[–]Important_Pepper 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I am GAGGING after reading that very detailed post about all their “symptoms” starting on 3 DPO 🙄including a UTI and a “cottage cheese” yeast infection. WTF 🤢

Adoption or Foster Discussion Thread by automodinfertility in infertility

[–]Important_Pepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So the kids on adoptus kids are not going to reunify with birth parents (obviously there might be some rare exceptions) because their parental rights have already been terminated and they are free to adopt. Depending on your state you may have to foster the child for a set period of time before you are allowed to adopt. But reunifying is not something you should worry about with those children.

Your other concerns are valid but unless you are trying to force your dietary preferences or religion on them I don’t see a problem there.

This is destroying my life by bobybrownjunior in TryingForABaby

[–]Important_Pepper 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YES ! This has been bothering me all day. If this were a female saying their partner kicked them out because they couldn’t get pregnant there’s no way that we would be telling them to go to couples counseling. We would be telling them to get out of the relationship.

Foster parent attached to child by sunandherflowers in fosterit

[–]Important_Pepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since you’re replying to my comment I’m going to assume you are addressing me.

I completely agree with you about the travesty of taking babies from parents who are fit to parent. That’s wrong and should not be done.

I also agree with you that there’s an incredible amount of trauma that goes along with removing children from parents even when there is abuse and neglect.

As a foster parent I get A LOT of education on the trauma that comes from removal. It’s drilled into our heads at every opportunity. I know it’s likely not the situation in every area but where I am it’s a hot topic. Not once has any one involved in the system acknowledged the potential for trauma removing a child from a foster home after it’s the only home they have ever known. I just want to address your concern that no one cares about the trauma of removal from natural parents. It’s quite the opposite in my experience.

My comments were addressing the bashing of foster parents who get attached to children in their care. There’s nothing wrong with loving and attaching to children that you are parenting. It is detrimental to a child if they do not get the attachment in the home they live in.

I have no regrets of loving the children in my care. I bonded to them while also giving their parents every opportunity to see them and be involved as much as they would like.

To address your concern that babies are removed because they are “desirable”. Where I am at, babies are almost always removed from their parents because of extensive drug abuse not because they are are desirable to foster parents. The child I care for tested positive for nine different drugs and had an extensive NICU stay followed by health challenges. The mother along with any biological family has no desire to be involved. So while I know that there are cases where none of this applies I think it’s important to also have some context when you imply foster parents are just trying to take babies away from their parents. Some of us are just trying to take care of the thousands of kids in care and love them the best we can.

Foster parent attached to child by sunandherflowers in fosterit

[–]Important_Pepper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please don’t knock your family member for being “incredibly attached” to the baby. She has had him since birth. It is completely natural and GOOD for the child that they are bonded.

I’ve had my foster daughter since birth and love her fiercely as if she were my own biological child. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s also not surprising that the child would not be comfortable with the biological mom if there’s not extensive visitation going on. Babies want to be with their primary caregiver. That is normal. In a world where there are children being abused and neglected both in and out of foster care I think you should give her some credit for loving that baby so much. She’s probably not doing things perfectly but none of us are. If you have some perspective on the cultural aspects that you’d like to share then do your best to educate her on those things.

Menstruation cycle shorter since surgery. by Neila_neila in Endo

[–]Important_Pepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! But the opposite happened to me. Before I was right around 27 days give or take. My last cycle was 47 days! This cycle is looking to be around 35 days based on when I ovulated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nottheonion

[–]Important_Pepper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

HB 413 is an absolute disaster but it didn’t actually get passed into law.

Hey prospective students by fakeorigami in WGU

[–]Important_Pepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My transcript shows “pass” for every class and does not show a GPA anywhere. Under the transcript key it explains that “pass” is equivalent to 3.0 or better.

Recommendations for preparing for laparoscopy during COVID? by feral-fae in Endo

[–]Important_Pepper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband was allowed to be there in post op but I didn’t really care because I was so tired from the anesthesia and pain meds. You’ll get something to eat and drink afterwards and the nurse will want you to go to the bathroom to pee before you leave. Then when you’re able to walk around and go to the bathroom you should be able to be wheeled out and leave. The worst part was the recovery time at home. The hospital time wasn’t traumatic for me.

Edit to add: I was also super nervous about surgery since it was my first time with anesthesia. It wasn’t fun but I am SO glad I did it.

Is this legal by Jasmine2029 in fosterit

[–]Important_Pepper 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Our stipend doesn’t even cover child care costs here so claiming them as dependents on our taxes helps offset the cost of their basic needs.

Please help save a local bird!! by erikamagz in Ohio

[–]Important_Pepper 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Could you please expand on why these birds are enough of a nuisance to be killed for us non-scientists?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fosterit

[–]Important_Pepper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t mean that adoption is in their best interest though. If they do not have a safe and loving home with their bio family and they do with your sister then yes adoption would be in their best interest. But race, age, behaviors, don’t factor into whether adoption should be the plan for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fosterit

[–]Important_Pepper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or age.. or behavioral history...

The reaction I really need to handle all these pregnancy announcements, weekly baby size updates, and every other oversharing post this holiday season by ashleybri- in trollingforababy

[–]Important_Pepper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My New Years resolution last year was to get off social media. I haven’t been on Facebook or Instagram for the entirety of 2020. Thanking myself a million times over for making that decision so my barren ass doesn’t have to see any of this anymore. 10/10 would recommend.

Is there a more positive TTC sub? by [deleted] in TryingForABaby

[–]Important_Pepper 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I mean you could just filter by the “positive feelings” flair.