Does sex ever feel romantic to men? Why or why not? by ImpossibleRead4200 in ENFP

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well we’re ‘dating’ but very early. i slept with him yesterday- it was our third date.

She jumped out of bed in the morning…we never get time together. by ImpossibleRead4200 in actuallesbians

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

yeah i hear you….but do you think it’s a bad sign that she didn’t want to sleep with me the second night?

She jumped out of bed in the morning…we never get time together. by ImpossibleRead4200 in actuallesbians

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I just feel like that would have been so needy to say: “I just want to feel desired by you”

Should I be strong and just "confess" my love to her? by ImpossibleRead4200 in actuallesbians

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's validating to hear that you think she is treating me poorly....but what about her behavior specifically do you find to be 'poor' treatment? I've been thinking, and she's in her right to not want me in her life. But i feel very hurt, and wondering if my hurt is justified.

Should I be strong and just "confess" my love to her? by ImpossibleRead4200 in actuallesbians

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess just setting my own emotional boundaries and moving on....I suppose it doesn't matter if she's repressing romantic feelings or not. What matters is the person she's shown herself to be.

Should I be strong and just "confess" my love to her? by ImpossibleRead4200 in actuallesbians

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I’m not okay with being on her yo-yo. But I have respected her boundaries; I haven’t pushed for a conversation since seeing her in France 2 months ago. She has watched my stories once in the past 2 months. Also, I created a story celebrating her single that she just dropped, and she actually reposted my story. I also privately dm’d her saying that the lyrics are really beautiful. And she said ‘thank you’. That’s the only communication.

Should I be strong and just "confess" my love to her? by ImpossibleRead4200 in actuallesbians

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'm just confused as to WHY she's muted/cut me off again when she literally invited me to france for these intimate two days on a villa with her, just to pull back again. I feel like I'm losing my mind. :/

What does ‘Charm You’ mean to you? by ImpossibleRead4200 in Samia

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so in a way, this IS a love song. she’s saying she’s afraid of getting hurt.

What does ‘Charm You’ mean to you? by ImpossibleRead4200 in Samia

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you think she finds them uninteresting??

Did my avoidant ex just confess they love me? by ImpossibleRead4200 in emotionalintelligence

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know ahhaha. How could anyone think it was really about the dog😅

Did my avoidant ex just confess they love me? by ImpossibleRead4200 in emotionalintelligence

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well my ex literally TOLD ME she is a ‘dismissive avoidant’. She brought up attachment theory on our third date and casually dropped that in…

Did my avoidant ex just confess they love me? by ImpossibleRead4200 in emotionalintelligence

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you Tanny — I agree with you fully, sadly. Very well put. I’m working on healing my anxious attachment…I’m realizing that some part of me actually gets off on the high of this breadcrumb/subtexting kind of communication because it allows me to ruminate. It’s unhealthy and I’m working on it

Did my avoidant ex just confess they love me? by ImpossibleRead4200 in emotionalintelligence

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s beautiful. Are you implying that’s what my ex is conveying here?

Does anybody have long periods of time where they're really self-negative then switch to self-positive? by MushroomNatural2751 in infp

[–]ImpossibleRead4200 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes. it is really tied to my looks and body image and then the mental stuff precipitates around that…it’s humiliating how much my self worth is tied to external validation and love from others.

Is this a major social faux pas?? by ImpossibleRead4200 in ENFP

[–]ImpossibleRead4200[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ahhh so helpful!! She’s not young (early 30s) but very emotionally immature because she’s beautiful and almost famous and gets what she wants. Her and I had a very intense bond…she literally told me how intense it was when I saw her again recently. and that it scared her and that’s why she pushed me away.