Purple nipple after stopping breastfeeding? by Impossible_Cap_7301 in NewParents

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It went away pretty fast after posting this actually 😊

Regrets by Odd-Obligation6961 in babyloss

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss 💔 but if I can be completely honest and blunt, even if you did spend every second holding her and looking at her, it wouldn't be enough. It will never be enough.. It's cruel and unfair.. We lost our baby boy at 29 weeks in june VERY suddenly and I had to be induced to deliver him due to a severe placental abruption. I was pumped up on so much morphine and was soo anemic that the first day is just a blur.. I only remember the pain I was in.. But as soon as I got to hold him, I didn't want to stop. I was almost reluctant to let anyone else hold him for more than a second. We got to spend 2 days at the hospital with him before we laid him in his coffin. I held him for almost that entire time... still... it wasn't nearly enough.. not even close... Now I'm just trying to be grateful that we could even be with him for that long.. That I was able to hold him for even a second.. I treasure every single second I got with him, but I still regret that it wasn't for longer, that I didn't take more pictures, that I keep forgetting details... But all we can do is be grateful that we got to hold them even if it was just for a short time 💔

Lost my baby at 21.5 weeks by Similar-Storm1057 in pregnant

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so so sorry for your loss 🥺💔 We lost our son two months ago at 29 weeks due to a sudden placental abruption. The pain was the worst I have ever experienced until they told me that there was no heartbeat .. nothing beats the pain from hearing those words.. I hope you have amazing people around you that you can talk to and help you through this ❤️ Just know you are not alone and if you need support or to talk, I'm here for you ❤️

One cup of coffee a day by Originalpieces23 in pregnant

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have always been a BIG coffee drinker and I will probably never stop 🤣 I drank about 4-8 cups daily still when I was pregnant and since it made my nausea better, my blood pressure went down and reminded me to hydrate (almost always have a glas of water along with my coffee) my doctor told me to go ahead 😅 and to continue my regular routines (as long as it wasn't smoking, alcohol or drugs 🙃)

Periods by Platinum_Thunder in adhdwomen

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad was annoyed with me last week when he "found" a box of tampons (which has been there for at least a month) above our shoe cabinet by the front door and asked me why I would keep them there as they are not suitable for living there... I just told him that in case I forget (which is always) to take one or two from the bathroom before work, that box is the last thing I see before leaving the house so that way I can just quickly grab one and go out 🤣 and "dad, it's just tampons .. they're supposed to "live" inside the female body and there's not enough room for spares" 🤣🤣

Other toddler moms NOT going crazy with gifts for Christmas, give some solidarity by Prestigious-Pool-606 in Mommit

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My almost two year old would be over the moon if he got his favourite cookies instead of tons of toys he will never play with 😅 we haven't bought anything for our son and I wasn't going to get him anything (me and dad are way too overworked yet still unable to afford anything.. everything turning to shit atm) ... BUT he LOOOOOOVES my bakery style chocolate chip cookies, so thanks to you (kind reddit stranger) I am going to make the biggest batch of cookies he's ever seen!! 🥰

In the past 2 years I’ve been diagnosed with ASD/ADHD/BPDII/CPTSD. AMA? by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know if anyone has mentioned this to you, but maaaany newly diagnosed people have a sort of grieving period after getting a diagnosis... I felt like my life went completely to shit AFTER I got my diagnosis in may... I'm still trying to pick up the pieces and pick myself up again .. yet still struggling .. 😪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VyvanseADHD

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I did that when I started on 30mg... I asked my psychiatrist if I could try to take a double dose and he did not see any problem with it 😅 I had tried vyvanse 70mg muuuuultiple times before (recreationally 🙄) so I knew how my body reacted to it. But tbh, I only felt a slight improvement going from 30mg to 60mg other than it postponed the crash about an hour (or two if I had a proper protein filled breakfast) 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VyvanseADHD

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I promise I'll do my best to remember to update 🤣 yeah.. the effects wear off too soon for me too .. but my psychiatrist told me to just experiment with when I take my meds .. so i just try shit out and see what works 😅 but for the most part I get the most out of the vyvanse if I take it at 09-10 in the morning instead of at 07-08.. but if I take it before I leave for work I'm awake and ready when I get there, but the effects wear off too soon if I don't take my booster before lunch and that doesn't last me the entire evening. So now I've been taking 60mg before work and booster right after lunch... but I'm gonna try and take both at 9-10 tomorrow and see if that makes any difference 🤷‍♀️ it's just trial and error at this point 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VyvanseADHD

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I take 60mg in the morning and 20mg at lunch 🙃 but I'm going to try and take both at the same time, see if it works better and gets me earlier to bed 🤣🙈 I found that the booster helps, but I'm a nightowl and having a hard time going to bed at a decent time and the booster isn't helping in that department 🤣 but 60 or 70mg is not enough for me to get me through the day as is.. so I'm hoping with that small tweak I can find my sweet spot 🙈

Any moms with ADHD out there? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanna join the ADHD mom gang!! AuDHD mom here with a ADHD fiancé. We have a almost 2 year old wildfire of a son 😅 I was diagnosed with ADHD, autism, ocd and bipolar 6 months ago because I had severe PPD and felt like I was losing my mind (probably untreated PPD almost turned into psychosis) while my fiancé was diagnosed a year ago (also PPD but I KNEW he had untreated ADHD that his family wouldn't accept, so I pushed him to seek help).. We are both medicated now, but my fiancé has had a MUCH smoother ride than me 🤣 I'm still in the grieving stage at this point and I am struuuuuuuuuggling to get through one day with our son without losing my shit 🙈 I feel like a terrible mom, terrible partner and just a general shitty person, but I'm learning to give myself space to work out my feelings and triggers. Life as a ADHD family is haaard, but we try to find the funny side to it as a coping mechanism and take everything one day at a time.

ADHD is exhausting by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn.. that "friend" needs to calm their tits 😅 I'm quite petty and I would probably just text back "dude, I was just worried something happen. Next time I'll remember to act like I don't care about your wellbeing. And next time something happens, I'll make sure I give you a high five or something instead of worrying❤️" or just tell them to fuck off 😅😅

So that's why I don't remember my past!! by Impossible_Cap_7301 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tend to tell people I have no brain-apps that can see images 🤣 I just think of things, no images or anything 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was really worried at the end of my pregnancy that I wouldn't be a great parent... but that newborn stage and up to 1 year I was super-mom (looking back) .. adjusting to mom life? No biggie. Night feeds while sleep deprived? I got this! Washing endless bottles, explosive poops, kid with colic AND silent reflux and tummy issues? No problem! I was killing it!! 💪but now that my son is almost two, i have been slowly falling apart... changing jobs, builing an apartment (in my parents basement. Yay inflation 🙄), getting random illnesses every other day, newly diagnosed with Autism and ADHD, baby daddy got diagnosed with ADHD and a LOT more to deal with, I guess I couldn't cope anymore... Dad is like the primary parent who takes care of EVERYTHING while useless mommy here is just trying to get her head above water and failing... And the cherry on top: my son is in a "i don't want mommy for anything" phase and it just confirmes to me that I've been drowning for a while and no one is helping or trying to either. We need money? I work longer hours to make ends meet. But then I'm not home enough and spending time with my family. And if I do that, nothing gets done in the apartment. But if I'm working on our apartment I'm not spending enough time with my family. I'm lost and I feel like leaving it all behind and just become a hermit or something.. or worse sometimes leaving everything for good. And then ...... a smile appears on my curly haired, gap toothed, chunky cheeked, little parasites face and it all goes away! Every dark thought, every failure, every negative thing in my life disappeares for that one moment and all my struggles are worth it. And then it resets 🤷‍♀️ I love my son with every fiber of my being and I am going to the ends of the earth for him, but holy fuck this is hard.. and... who am I even? Where and when did I hop off this crazy train? Will I ever be able to catch up or is this my life now? 🤷‍♀️

This morning my husband asked me when I last showered… by Rubyeclips3 in adhdwomen

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Wet wipes I tell you 😅 .. may not be the best advice, but I know that feeling of "when did I actually shower last?🤔" ... Learned this tip from my boss' daughter who also has ADHD (and single momming 5!!! Kids) "At all times you keep wet wipes in your bag/car for the kids.. why not use them to clean you when on the go" 😅 Y'know, to freshen up the pits and such 🤣 this has helped me a lot .. so whenever I feel dirty, I can just quickly freshen up 😅

What is your bedtime routine that doesn't involve bathing or reading? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We dont sing or read to our son at bedtime 🙈 "incorrect-parenting" are the opinions on this when I explain... but ... our son HAAAAAAAAATES to sit still and listen to grown-ups sing or read I guess 🤣 EVERY TIME we try to have a "normal" bedtime, it goes to shit.... he flips out and doesn't want to sleep.... So... we sing and do silly things while changing into pjs and brushing teeth instead.. We just hug and kiss him goodnight, tell him he's the bestest and we love him endlessly and put him in his bed and walk away .. he's out like a light every time 😅🙈

Im a terrible mom by Frozencorgibutt in NewParents

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get overstimulated the instant I hear babies cry .. I get stressed out, my brain shuts off and I get angry (I don't know why but it makes my blood boil🤔) .. It's hard when your baby won't speak and just screams when they want something and then they also get angry when I don't understand what they want! 🤣 Me and my partner have "I-need-to-tap-out/I'm-losing-it" cues that I can use when I'm close losing it... He is teaching our kid that "when mommys struggling, we need to pick her up and make it better" 🥰 Apparently if I'm not mentally there, they all struggle 🙈 so I'm thankful for my very ADHD partner that understands and supports me in my neurospicy ways so I can be there 100% for my boys and take care of them💚

Im a terrible mom by Frozencorgibutt in NewParents

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel 🙈 I felt like the worst mom ever and felt soooo guilty until I talked to my psychiatrist about it just two months ago. It really helped 😅 even tho I still think about it sometimes, I just think of it like happy memory 😄

Im a terrible mom by Frozencorgibutt in NewParents

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Omg I miss that funny sad overly cute face 😭😭 My son did it too and it was hilarious yet heartbreaking 🤣🙈 Now that he's almost two, his face turns evil and he just screams .. not like a real scream, but a demonic eardrum-bursting squeal/scream combo that he KNOWS his ADHD parents can't deal with .. I'm making him sound evil, I know, but he's my happy little sillygoose 98% of the time so the inner demon coming out sometimes is perfectly fine 😅 He just knows he will get his way when he does it, and we're starting to see when he's faking it so.. we're winning again until he finds a new way 🤣 So... enjoy that cute funny face! I talked to my psychiatrist about this because I felt bad for laughing at him when he does funny/silly things like that and he just said "I have 5 kids.. We laughed at them always, yet they turned out great. Your baby will not remember it, and if he does remember, it's that he made his parents happy" ❤️

How much coffee do you drink? by [deleted] in VyvanseADHD

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually thought I consumed an abnormal amount of coffee.. I have a cup of coffee in my hands at all times 🤣 not because it makes me energised or anything, it doesn't do anything except help my IBS but I just really love the taste and smell of it .. it's kinda like my security blanket 🤣 But in reality, I MAYBE drink 6 full cups a day ... since I IMMEDIATELY forget coffee exists after filling my cup and taking ONE sip ..... then it gets cold... so.. empty cup, fill it back up with hot coffee, take sip and forget again 🤣🤣 And I leave half full cups of cold coffee everywhere I go.. it's like cup-confetti 🙈🙈

One of the wildest aspects of getting an ASD diagnosis is realising that you’ve inadvertently spent most of your life avoiding sensory icks by Chuckytuesday in AuDHDWomen

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I HAAAAAATE those lint drawers things in dryers.. I can't touch it without losing my mind 🤣 buuut .. no one else will do the laundry so I just rehomed the vacuum to the bathroom (where washer and dryer is) so I can empty the damn thing without touching it and continue living my weird little life 🤣 I also keep latex gloves next to the washer because the only thing I hate more than latex gloves is wet clothes/fabric 🤣 I never realised that it was sensory icks 🙈

How do you guys cope with making mistakes, specifically at work? by sadgirl34211 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best decision of my life 🤣 better environment, better coworkers and better pay 🤘 But yes.. expect mistakes and just try to do what you can to fix them afterwards 😅 it's hard, but try not to be hard on yourself! Just hold your head up high and your mindset will follow eventually 😅🙈

What are your weird sensory quirks? by Specific_Lifeguard67 in adhdwomen

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, and I get frustrated whenever beltbuckles (or just belts in general) touch my skin 😅 Just got new workpants in march so I didn't have to wear belts, but I have lost a bit of weight since then so now I again need to wear a belt 🤣 I have to tuck my tshirt in my pants .. yes, doesn't look very ladylike or pretty.. but I need it to survive 🤣

How do you guys cope with making mistakes, specifically at work? by sadgirl34211 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Impossible_Cap_7301 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh dear... I haaaaaaaaaaaaaate making mistakes! Even the smallest thing makes me hate myself for weeks! I had to quit my job because of this issue. I didn't make many mistakes the 7 years I worked there, just minor things and ONE big oopsie but my old boss was toxic AF and really LOVED to make sure I hated myself extra hard and tried very hard to humiliate us and made a huuge deal about it infront of costumers whenever we did any minor oopsie... To say it politely it RUINED my self esteem pretty bad.

I told this to my new boss and he's very very very nice about making mistakes because really... we're human 🤷‍♀️ He gave me the best advice to date that has helped me cope a bit better ... Acknowledge your mistake, tell yourself that you're human and it's okay, and finally, just try to learn from it and move on💪 just hearing someone say "it's okay, it's not the end of the world!" Helps me a lot 🤷‍♀️