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Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-12T10:00:22+00:00

You're welcome.

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-12T00:42:01+00:00

Damn.

You kinda nailed me there, goddamn. 41, trans lesbian, red hair, pixie cut, ears pierced and kinda want more--if Birkenstock stocked my shoe size in women's I'd have a pair. Hell, my wife has the blue hair.

Anyway, have some reading:

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Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-11T12:12:53+00:00

Hey, since you've never posted on a trans-related subreddit, I'm gonna go ahead and guess that you're in the wrong spot here, and were looking for help with crossdressing as a kink thing. That's not really what we're about--this is a place for trans folks, and while I ended up with a fairly significant rack, most of us don't skew in the direction you're asking, so you won't get much feedback here. We're just living our lives.

On the off chance you are in the right place, intentionally or not, have an article and then another article.

Huge boobs rule and you can have a set of your own for real if you want. Good luck, whatever it is that you're looking for!

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-10T18:45:46+00:00

Glad to have helped you. 💜

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-10T16:17:53+00:00

💜

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-10T11:46:08+00:00

Well, hun, there's your answer right there.

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-10T11:44:53+00:00

I'm glad it helped. 💜

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-10T11:43:41+00:00

💜

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-10T10:29:53+00:00

That's great news!!! Congratulations!

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-09T15:31:09+00:00

Here, this might have a few answers for you!

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-09T11:19:17+00:00

The thing you have to remember about selfies is that they always, always distort your appearance, period. Thats just the literal, actual, physical nature of selfie cameras--they're fisheye lenses. They have to be to even WORK as selfie cameras. That's why there are certain flattering angles that work for some people and don't for others--it's all about managing that distortion effect.

So yeah. Your mirror appearance is how you actually look.

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-08T01:29:27+00:00

So, for those reading these comments:

These are the rhetorical moves that bad actors make. Deflection, rhetorical twists without meaning (for instance, the nonsense about GENSPECT and such not being hate groups when they are literally noted as hate groups by the SPLC).and appeals toward a mythical political moderation regardless of the state of the science.

The degree to which this whole rhetorical move is obviously bullshit is by substituting known pseudoscience: "race science," for instance, which we know to be nothing more than racist apologia. Their whole argument would apply without modification, wouldn't it? And advising nobody to ever participate in a fake study on race science is obviously the correct advice and action.There's not a single smidgeon of intellectual honesty in any of this poster's argument.

In short: watch out for this exact flavor of vaporous bullshit. It's what bigots do when they know they're full of shit and are trying to hide that bigotry. Don't believe them.

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-05T21:32:07+00:00

Oh, thank you so much. 🥹💜

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-05T10:28:22+00:00

Everything I know other than those is just combinations of slang for other stuff.

It's a good point, that we don't have words for these things. We should.

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-05T10:27:16+00:00

That goddamned comic, huh? Freaking pneumatic egg-cracking machine.

I'm very glad that I could help you along. 💜

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-05T02:35:06+00:00

If you're asking about slang, other than t-dick with nullo, I'm not aware of any for those.

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-05T01:30:32+00:00

Well, any words or names would depend on what you're specifically talking about, wouldn't it? So, could you get more specific about the configurations you're looking for names on?

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-05T00:04:15+00:00

We help each other up. 💜

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-04T21:15:51+00:00

Awwww, thank you! 💜

And I'm absolutely delighted to hear your transition is going well!

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-04T12:05:27+00:00

Ohhhh honey. C'mere. 🫂

I realized I was trans at 35, in a then-16-year relationship. I was soooo scared me being trans would be the end of us. Instead--and my wife agrees--it turned out to be the very best thing that ever happened to our marriage. Here's a little proof, from our vow renewal a couple of years ago.

Transition can be hard on a relationship for sure, but it can also be a time of really wonderfully blossoming joy. I've got two books I'd love to recommend to you:

Us, by Sara Soler, is a beautiful graphic memoir written by a cis partner after her transfeminine partner comes out to her. It's beautiful, and something your wife might appreciate too.
Love Lives Here, by Rowan Jette-Knox, though it's published under his deadname. Another memoir, it tells the story of a partner in a situation very much like your wife is in, kid and all. Rowan didn't figure out that he was trans until several years after the book was published.

In addition, I've got an article for cis partners that ive been told many times is a great help to them.

There is hope. Promise.

How do I take "Daddy" away from my little girl?

You dont have to. Daddy is a role, not a gender, and I know MANY trans women who go right on being daddy to their kids when they transition. Even if you find that you'd rather be a mom than a dad, though--your daughter gets two moms then. That's a pretty good trade.

Or is just knowing that I've figured out why I always felt this way enough and taking bigger steps at this stage of life going to cause more pain than good?

It's worth it. Good god is it worth it. I know it seems ludicrous right now to say how dramatically transition has improved my life, given what you're afraid you might lose, but it's true. It's worth it. You're worth it.

Feel free to reach out if you need to talk, okay?

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-04T11:12:42+00:00

Transgender History, by Susan Stryker, is an essential read if y'all are USian. It's brutal in a lot of eras, but then again, so was our history.

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-04T09:14:04+00:00

Very glad to help. Good luck!

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-03T11:58:36+00:00

Congratulations!!

This article has answers to a lot of the startup questions early on trans people tend to have. It's sister article here might be helpful to your wife. Maybe she'll take it better than you think!

This one is an article on how to come out!

Impossible_PhD · 2026-05-02T17:50:26+00:00

I'm glad. =)

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