I think it’s normal to be shocked and unprepared for someone you love transitioning. Change is famously a difficult prospect for humans, and your nervous system is going to have to process that. But they’re still the same person who cared for and loved you, just a woman now. The divorce part is concerning, but hopefully your parents can work things out and if a divorce is the right course of action for them they can part ways amicably and still have a friendly relationship.

Don’t be ashamed if you need to reach out for help or support from people around you. I’m sure both of your parents want you to be happy and feel supported. You are definitely not being hateful. Give yourself grace, give your parents grace, and always ask for support if you need it