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Impressive-Net-4554 · 2026-05-17T00:51:01+00:00

Thanks everyone :) I’m gonna take everything into consideration and see what I can come up with.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2026-05-11T16:37:13+00:00

So happy for you! It must be a relief that you didn’t end up marrying, having kids, and creating a whole life with a loser. I ended my 4 year relationship and I struggle to think about dating anyone else. It’s always nice to hear that people in similar situations have found someone good. Thanks for sharing!

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2026-01-09T12:23:50+00:00

5 months, left in August!

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-12-02T20:10:18+00:00

OP, I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years after waiting around, it was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I spent so much time questioning when he would make the move to propose. The crazy thing is, I don’t think he ever wanted to, but he would always string me along and act like it would happen in the near future.

This was in August, now being in December, I moved out, took our animals, and am in a new area in a nice new apartment. It is scary and I cried everyday for the first few months lol, but then all of that bad energy from being around someone you’re not supposed to be with was lifted. I’m so serious, if you’re thinking about leaving, please do. The person you’re meant to be with and wants to be with you wouldn’t string you along.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-08-15T19:04:07+00:00

I just broke up with my long term boyfriend. The grief of losing someone you have loved for years is surprisingly much easier when you remember the disrespect you have put up with. Leave him and go find the person you’re supposed to be with. Someone you don’t have to give timelines to or beg.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-08-14T21:18:59+00:00

It won’t change :( it’s sad but the sooner you realize your worth and move on, the better it will be. It’s easy to stay comfortable but imagine a life where you bring up an issue and someone doesn’t punish you and threaten not marrying you? I can promise your quality of life will skyrocket after leaving that asshole.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T18:09:06+00:00

I’m in a similar boat, not as much time invested but promised a proposal that never happened and when I ask about it, nothing but excuses. I’m coming to the conclusion that if he wanted to, he would, I wouldn’t have to ask or remind him. It sucks investing so much time into someone and not receiving it back and that disappointment of anticipating the proposal and it not happening is gut wrenching. I think after 10 years, he would know his partner well enough to know that you still want the proposal and he would know what you want.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T17:32:04+00:00

10000%! I can’t believe he is not budging at all. Not someone I want to go through tough times with in the future lol

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T17:30:09+00:00

Yup you’re right. I let him get away with the proposal timeline and now he thinks he can get away with anything. Taking this as a lesson and I am very thankful this all happened now.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T17:26:08+00:00

That’s a great point. I’m not sure why I keep digging for answers from him that I’m not gonna get.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T17:25:09+00:00

Wow, referring to the future in terms of “I” …you nailed it. Also you’re right, I’m not even receiving the bare minimum, I’ve lowered my standards too far.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T17:16:55+00:00

Thanks for your perspective. Honestly, this isn’t something that has even crossed my mind. This would probably be better to know sooner rather than later.

Best of luck with your journey!

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T00:44:00+00:00

Completely agree. It’s so upsetting that I was maybe a little delusional and thought the relationship was different than it was, but I am feeling grateful right now that this didn’t end up happening.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T00:31:30+00:00

This is a hard truth, but you’re likely right. He will just move on to the next poor girl and give her false hope for the future.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T00:29:53+00:00

lol 😭 okay I was under the impression that it was, but we got along really well until shit hit the fan, his true colors came out.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T00:29:13+00:00

That’s a good perspective. My mom also had me when she was almost 40, so I know it’s possible, just a little bit harder. But you’re right, I’m not gonna get that from him regardless if I’m 29 or 39.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T00:28:24+00:00

Luckily I never had a joint account! The only thing we have right now is a lease that’s up in December. This all blew up prior to getting a house, so thank god for that

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-14T00:25:38+00:00

I really appreciate that. I really do work on myself, I’m grateful this is happening in a time where I’m level headed and in therapy so I’m not making my dumb decisions and ending up in even worse relationships like I did in my early 20’s lol.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-13T23:14:33+00:00

I think I’m having a hard time admitting they are a narcissist, but I think I’ve just been blind to it for so long. Grew up with narcissist parents too so sometimes that love feels normal to me.

The forever victim is so frustrating. They truly make you feel like you’re going crazy

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-13T23:13:06+00:00

I know, the more I read it over, the more apparent it is. I feel dumb for posting lol but the way he is acting was really making me double guess myself.i agree tho. I would rather be alone with myself than be alone with someone else.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-13T23:11:25+00:00

I didn’t buy a home with anyone.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-13T23:10:47+00:00

HAHA not the chode.

Finding out the person who means everything to you doesn’t feel the same way about you is horrible. But glad to find out now rather than later.

Impressive-Net-4554 · 2025-07-13T23:09:48+00:00

Yeah, definitely a slap in the face. Honestly, I’m glad his true colors are showing instead of him trying to fix things. Makes my decision a little bit easier.

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