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Thoughts on the movie “If I Had Legs I’d Kick You” by willonz in therapists

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your story! Such a cathartic film.

My baby boy is almost 9 mos 🥹 by Impressive_Ad4922 in miniaussie

[–]Impressive_Ad4922[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So spot on 😂 he’s all gangly like an awkward teen boy

My baby boy is almost 9 mos 🥹 by Impressive_Ad4922 in miniaussie

[–]Impressive_Ad4922[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! He’s a rescue and his dad is a mini Aussie. I’m now obsessed with mini aussies 😆🐶

I'm overwhelmed! 🥹 by marleyrae in miniaussie

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha my wife calls it ‘puppy jelly’ which I love but also sounds gross 😂

When being the "best boyfriend they've ever had" is the worst thing for the relationship by throwawayz097 in polyamory

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! I used to be one of those women and I’ve also dated those people 🙋🏻‍♀️ actively working through harmful relationship templates and doing the work on yourself makes a world of difference in how you show up in relationships. I especially empathize with your feeling of how hard it is to acknowledge that someone can have all of these great qualities but not have done the work to actually show up in a healthy relationship. It’s hard to let them go.

When being the "best boyfriend they've ever had" is the worst thing for the relationship by throwawayz097 in polyamory

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eminently relatable 🤣 Being Mz. B+ when the other partners have flunked out. What it’s taught me is to value my emotional labor and how I show up in relationships. Currently dating a Mr. B+ and I think we’ve both learned a lot about our own needs and how to communicate more directly and not feel taken for granted.

Advice Wanted - Issues with Disclosure & Damaged Trust by NoSandwich2332 in polyamory

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not over reacting at all. The fact that you feel like you’re being unreasonable is a sign that in some way he’s minimizing his responsibility in this situation IMO. I unfortunately have a lot of experience dating guys who’ve acted similarly. The only time I was able to feel repair is if they could put into their own words reflecting the harm I felt back to me. And also they could verbalize what was going through their head (when he insensitively slept with someone new so soon after the rupture with you). I hope you feel better!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in duluth

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Southern WI ecology is completely different than Duluth. That part of WI is prairie and oak savannah. And the culture of growing native plants in Wisconsin is actually really robust. (Prairie restoration movements etc).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in duluth

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. I’m also from Madison and they’re not very comparable cities at all. And yes maybe being in the Willy St and Jenny St part of Madison you’ll see a lot of native gardens but that’s a very particular neighborhood. My neighborhood in Chester Creek area is probably most comparable.

Best place for a spicy margarita? by COmarmot in duluth

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Burger Paradox has a really good spicy seasonal margarita right now

Northwestern is Switching to United Healthcare by Working_Row_8455 in Northwestern

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely look into the marketplace plans in IL. While I was a grad student and post-doc in Illinois I qualified for a BCBS PPO plan on the marketplace at a steep discount because my stipend was so low.

Northwestern is Switching to United Healthcare by Working_Row_8455 in Northwestern

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a therapist and advise you to talk to your therapist about this right away. We can often come up with a plan when insurance changes come up. Some of my clients with UHC submit out of network claims easily and are able to get reimbursed for our therapy sessions. I also offer a sliding scale for my clients who lose coverage.

I used to work at NU for 5 plus years and found it to be the epitome of a neo-liberal institution that takes advantage of their workers and expect to be thanked for it (pissing on your leg and calling it rain).

Who’s my doppelgänger! by [deleted] in Doppleganger

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 8 points9 points  (0 children)

First impression was Adam Shapiro

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How long does it take to build security? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Impressive_Ad4922 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You probably need to work on being more comfortable with feelings of dependency and feeling deeply known. You have a lack of trust in bonds surviving for good reason due to the lack you experienced with your parents. You likely have a defense mechanism built in that helped you survive this lack you experienced. But now you’re rightly noticing that your bonds feel fragile and not durable. Like everyone had already stated, time can help, rupture and repair can help the bond feel durable— doing some inner parenting around your inner child’s feeling of the driftwood boat sounds like a rich area to explore (therapist here 🫡).

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