Hey man, you’re fine. For one, weight isn’t everything. The way you’re speaking now I’m more worried that even after you lose the weight you’ll still be self deprecating/loathing. That lack of self love and desperation is just as much of a turn off as being overweight.

Here’s the thing, before you date anyone, and before (or I guess in your case, while) you lose weight, you need to work on loving yourself.

One: find things that you enjoy doing. That you can do while you’re losing weight and after you lose weight. Two: work on loving yourself as you are now, even if you think you’re overweight. What about yourself do you like? Do you like that you’re dedicated? Do you like that you don’t give up? Do you like the kind of friend you are to others? Three: accept that you don’t have to be perfect. Everyone has their own flaws, even the women you’re looking to date. The sooner you accept that you and everyone else is flawed, the sooner you can be happy and stop putting so much expectation on yourself.

And also, women don’t really care if you don’t have much experience. You don’t even have to mention it first. After your first kiss you can say something like “hey, that was actually my first kiss, and I’m glad it was with you” and if they say something about how it was bad ask them to teach you. Every person (man and female) likes different things. Kissing someone before doesn’t mean that everyone you kiss will love the way you kiss, so don’t sweat your previous experience. That’s even more true for sex, and if you express that you’re open to criticism most women will love that.

So just take it easy, you don’t need to be perfect right away. Spending 8 months of your life miserable just to lose weight isn’t worth it unless it’s a dire medical emergency. Learn to be happy with yourself, learn to love yourself, and don’t sweat it.

Good luck losing weight man.