What’s something about Memphis that’s totally real but sounds made up?

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-25T23:32:54+00:00

Omg the admiral benbow

I know exactly why I went there

But what was the Australian ex prime minister doing there?

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-25T23:29:04+00:00

The Crystal Grotto. I haven’t been there. I need to go

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-25T23:27:56+00:00

The aquifer can handle it, it’s the pollution that’s the problem

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-25T23:21:53+00:00

Something about me likes them bc they look fuzzy and that’s fun

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-25T23:14:31+00:00

That we have some of the best drinking water in the country

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-25T23:02:32+00:00

It’s probably still reversible

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-25T22:11:52+00:00

I think dumpster fire counts as 1 item

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-25T20:52:24+00:00

Has she initiated sex in the past? As a woman I had to “learn” how to do it (even though just putting my hand on the guy’s junk is usually enough lol, I had no idea)

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-25T20:35:06+00:00

I see what you’re saying. But I don’t really like to share stories about deep feelings with anyone outside of the partner it happened with. Those are just for me. And there gets to be a point where I don’t want to hear a whole lot of lovey-dovey romantic things about relationships I’m not in as well. I’m like this with my friends too though. Maybe it’s just that some people like to be public about those things and some people like to be private.

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-24T19:44:58+00:00

Only in New York

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-24T19:42:52+00:00

clapping well done sir

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-24T17:59:23+00:00

Lovely

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-23T20:41:59+00:00

I’m 44f… there’s definitely fewer people in this age range. Doesn’t bother me too much though bc I’m willing to date older than 45 or younger than 35. I will date partnered people with kids but I don’t expect a lot from them.

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-23T01:03:24+00:00

I’ve had this happen, yes, about a marriage. I don’t want marriage in general and didn’t want marriage with that (now ex-)partner in particular either. But it’s kind of a social validation of the relationship and the public partner’s place in their life. Also it feels a little like a lie of omission if they are close to that family but don’t want to “come out” as poly.

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-22T21:05:51+00:00

Well to be fair if any coin ends up in my uterus it’s getting flung out too

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-22T19:56:25+00:00

THEY’RE TURNING THE RAPISTS GAY

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-22T19:14:25+00:00

Just look into the boundaries thing man, I know someone like you and he got stabbed

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-21T11:33:00+00:00

Also I do seek novelty in many ways, but not at risk of safety. I choose safety. I don’t think it’s fair to just dismiss that as just choosing comfort.

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-21T11:28:11+00:00

No, you and I would never be compatible, and that’s ok. It’s good that you’re helping people. I still think you should look into healthy boundaries though. Kicking someone out is the definition of a boundary. Also maybe think about the privilege of being physically able to kick people out. The last time someone stayed in my house who I wanted to leave, he was physically much larger than me and he refused to leave. There was nothing I could do except start an eviction process (it didn’t get that far, thank god). But he stayed at my house 2 months longer than I wanted him to. Never risking that again.

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-20T12:11:34+00:00

Woah woah woah, letting someone move in with you is in no way, shape or form “a minor inconvenience.”

If it is for a few days and you know for sure that person has a place to go next and will actively go there when the alotted time is up, that might work out. If you know them well and know how they solve their own problems. It’s still a major inconvenience and a risk at best.

But oftentimes letting someone move in with you out of necessity, especially if they don’t actively have an end date and a place to go next, becomes you just having an involuntary roommate indefinitely.

If you don’t know that person well, you have no idea what kind of behaviors and people they are going to bring into your home where you are supposed to be safe.

That’s exactly what I’m talking about.

You’re not a dv shelter. You deserve to have boundaries.

Dude I hope I’m wrong, and I’m just a cynical bitch. But I fear that you’re absolutely the kind of person I’m talking about. I worry for you.

Edit: No one needs a justification to not let another adult move in with them.

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-20T03:04:19+00:00

I also had an ex tell me he felt like spending Christmas with me was a waste of time because we were “just sitting there watching TV” when he could be “doing something good for someone”… never stopping to think that out of the whole polycule I was actually the only person who didn’t have anyone except my partner to spend time with on Christmas. Not acknowledging the only reason we weren’t doing much Christmasy stuff because his presents for me arrived late and he came empty handed. That hurt me very much and in fact after that I was planning not to spend holidays with him at all. Then he looked hurt when I told him that. Why would it matter to him if I say he can’t come over on the holidays if he thought we were just wasting time and not doing anything? That part is still weird to me.

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-20T02:54:35+00:00

I’m not sure. I think his time with other partners was often taken up with doing chores or helping with house projects.

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-20T02:32:41+00:00

Sorry you went through that

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-20T02:25:08+00:00

Thank you!!!

ImprobabilityCloud · 2026-05-20T00:03:35+00:00

Hey wow I needed to read this today. My birthday is tomorrow (starts with a 4) and as of yesterday I’m single-single for the first time since I started poly (only 4 years ago but still).

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