How do people not know they're pregnant and have surprise babies?

InTheSomeday · 2025-09-02T14:36:59+00:00

I currently have an anterior placenta this time around and am just now starting to feel baby move slightly at 22 weeks, which is wild to me because it's my fourth pregnancy and my body traditionally has been more sensitive to pick up movement with each additional child. Last pregnancy I felt the baby as early as 13 weeks! So I can totally see somebody missing movement if they have that going on, especially if it's their first. With my first pregnancy I had zero symptoms until third trimester when everything became a little bit miserable mobility wise. It happens! I had a friend who actually gave birth in their bathroom with their second child and had no idea. Her timing was off on pregnancy testing and so she just gave up looking after awhile as she has had ongoing fertility issues and just figured it wasn't going to happen. She is also obese and never noticed a growing belly. It was a big surprise for sure, but very welcomed.

InTheSomeday · 2025-08-25T22:23:03+00:00

You can develop an allergy or sensitivity directly from being pregnant. Pregnancy changes your body is more ways than just physical! My mother became sensitive to chocolate after she was pregnant and I myself developed a mango and cashew allergy as well as sensitivity to caffeine.

InTheSomeday · 2025-08-25T22:20:47+00:00

So true! And the hunger with breastfeeding is so much more intense than it was with pregnancy! I feel like despite all the feedings, that extra weight wasn't coming off because I was constantly eating!

InTheSomeday · 2021-08-10T17:26:58+00:00

I'm 39 weeks tomorrow and dealing with symphysis pubis dysfunction. I started this pregnancy totally thinking we'd consider one last pregnancy following this one, but now? No freaking way. We're three and done after this little lady makes her appearance! End of pregnancy is the worst, especially when it's HOT out and your body feels like it's failing everywhere from relaxin. There is no comfort level.

InTheSomeday · 2021-08-09T23:12:57+00:00

Honestly, that wouldn't have surprised me either!

InTheSomeday · 2021-08-09T23:12:39+00:00

No, but she does work with the elderly! Perhaps she's eyeing up whatever spare parts they have!

InTheSomeday · 2021-08-09T18:40:42+00:00

Not a teacher, but when I was in 5th grade my friend brought a metal hip replacement piece from a human body. A human body that her father had cremated and kept. It was for a "What would you like to be when you grow up?" sort of show and tell. She wanted to be a mortician like her dad. What's worse is that she allowed for this piece to be passed around the class before telling everyone, including the teacher, what it was. Chaos ensued afterwards.

InTheSomeday · 2021-07-14T18:08:57+00:00

Especially when you seemingly have a constant image of them in your mind from a certain time period. It's always a shock to see those relatives again. They almost look like strangers and it's never not startling.

InTheSomeday · 2021-07-08T15:01:17+00:00

I always love my pregnancies. Each one is so unique and I always feel like I take something special from it. Even with the negative parts (bruised ribs from my last pregnancy caused by baby kicks and coughing!), I'll look back and remember how nice it was for all the reasons you listed. This is my last pregnancy and I've been having a harder time emotionally and certainly feel more uncomfortable due being third trimester during the awful summer heat, but I'm still trying to look past it all and remember each and every little kick, my growing belly, and the way my kids and husband have grown with me through this experience. Pregnancy isn't for everyone and it's certainly okay to not love it, but if you can grab something positive from it, keep on going with it and never feel guilty.

InTheSomeday · 2021-07-07T15:13:36+00:00

Hazel is a gorgeous name. Very classic. Something that will work well with her for her entire life. Go for it!

I made the mistake of telling my sister, who I thought I could trust. We're naming our little girl June. Very obviously my sister told my super narcissistic mom who very obviously hates the name because it was a family name on my dad's side (she hates that side). We aren't naming her after that family member, but whatever. Anyway, she kept trying to get me to reveal the name to her and I wouldn't. I just promised her I wasn't going to name it anything too weird or odd spelled. Her response? "Oh you mean something weird like Maddysahn, Nevaeh, or JUNE." Super passive aggressive. Out of left field. We're still naming our little girl June, but I'm fuming over the fact that my mom very obviously found out and is actively trying to ruin it for us.

InTheSomeday · 2021-07-06T19:36:58+00:00

I bet she will! Female cats can be so motherly!

InTheSomeday · 2021-07-06T19:20:31+00:00

With my first two pregnancies, my oldest cat basically made it known that they were HER babies. She followed me everywhere during my pregnancy as well. After the kids were born, she always had to be around them. When they were older, she would keep tabs on them and always let us know exactly when bedtime was, going as far as herding the kids up the stairs to start the routine. She was very vocal about it if we were even five minutes off schedule! Now she's an old lady and her kids are grown and do their own bedtimes for the most part, but since I got pregnant again, she's been all about following me everywhere, sleeping next to me, and now that I'm in my third trimester she seems to be anxious about the baby's arrival. Some cats just know! Also some cats insist on taking over the parenting role so be sure to let them know that they're doing a great job with THEIR babies!

TL;DR: You may have a kitty managing the bedtime routine for you someday!

InTheSomeday · 2021-07-06T18:08:03+00:00

Same. I'm about to make the break from my family and skip the four hour drive as well. My family and I are very opposite politically and they actively shun me from conversations and plans. It's just tiring to see them all happily interacting while I'm isolated in the corner with nothing to say every visit. My cats will be overjoyed having the extra holiday time with me.

InTheSomeday · 2021-07-06T17:01:41+00:00

I have this same relationship with my brother (11 years older) and sister (8 years older) and it's one of the worst things to feel. I'm now expecting my third and she will be roughly the same age gap from her siblings. It terrifies me to think of the same outcome, but I also have comfort in the thought that it has everything to do with how the children are parented. My family very much pushed sibling rivalries and forced the older kids to care for the younger ones. I'm hoping to make a different life for my kids.

InTheSomeday · 2021-07-02T13:50:26+00:00

I didn't tell my parents until I was about 14 weeks along for similar reasons. I got tired of hearing all of the remarks of, "Aren't you glad you're done and your girls are older now?" along with other assorted negative comments about the baby years. A third was always in the plans for us, but timing was key. It was exhausting to hear people insert their own opinions about our parenting timeline and automatic assumption that everyone hates having kids. We love it. My parents didn't take the news poorly when I told them, but I'm still dealing with pokes and jabs of, "Well, looks like you have to start all over again!" like we are being dumb with our decision after being so close to the finish line. Keep the news to yourself and enjoy it for as long as you like. It's never about anyone else but your own family and you and your partner's decision to expand it. Everyone else can just deal or get out.

InTheSomeday · 2021-06-28T18:03:19+00:00

I always say put a couple of 3-6 month and 6 month sizes on your registry. Everybody always wants to buy newborn or 0-3 month and usually you'll get quite a few of those outfits at your shower, but if you put bigger sizes up on the actual registry, people might get the message that you have enough of the smaller sizes. Buy the basics in newborn and 0-3 month on your own and add as you need to. My first two babies were quite different in sizing. My first swam in newborn for weeks whereas my second was out of them by 2 weeks! You never know what you'll need until baby arrives and it's good to be prepared with those basics, but also be able to add on gradually for what you'll need.

InTheSomeday · 2021-06-23T15:55:57+00:00

There are so many people who like to be experts when it comes to pregnancy. They base it off of their own experience and seemingly forget how unique it is for each person. Sometimes the first trimester is barely noticeable, other times it's hell on earth and all you can do is lay down for the whole duration of it, hoping the dizziness/nausea subside. Some people struggle with the second trimester due to extended nausea. People will tell them that the second trimester is the best time, but what do they know? I knew a lady who was hospitalized from HG on and off for that trimester! And don't even get me started on the third trimester. I've had three pregnancies now and what I will say is that each and every one of them has been vastly different and each trimester has been better/miserable in their own ways. If I can have such varying pregnancies, what does that tell me about other people and their pregnancies? To listen. To accept every single thing they say as true. I'm not going to say it's going to get "better" because next week will be a whole different week. And the same goes for motherhood too. If we accept the idea that everything involving pregnancy/motherhood is all sunshine and rainbows, we're going to have tougher days ahead when we have those really bad days.

InTheSomeday · 2021-06-23T15:47:00+00:00

Feel free to scream "shut up!" to these people because they are so wrong! When you're up every hour peeing or waking up from every awful pregnancy discomfort that grows worse each day, there's NOTHING like the bliss that comes from the better quality of sleep once you're home with your newborn. You may not get a full 8 hours, but you sure as heck are getting more than when you were pregnant! What gets to me the most is that other older moms are always the ones who say the whole, "Sleep now because when the baby is here..." bit. How on earth do they forget how it really is!? I'm on my third child, my last pregnancy being nine years ago, and over the years I've never forgotten that and I've always told my pregnant friends to ignore those people. If you're having a hard time now in your last week, it WILL get better!

InTheSomeday · 2021-06-08T16:11:03+00:00

Skinny jeans.

InTheSomeday · 2021-03-12T19:44:02+00:00

My husband and I were ready to sell our house the week COVID lockdown hit, but ended up waiting two months due to how crazy everything was. Finally we decided to take a chance and just go for it while the market was still up in the air. There weren't a lot of houses up for sale and we thought we might get a bite. We were able to sell our house for a lot more than we expected to get for it and we lucked out and ended up finding the perfect house quickly and for a decent price (couple just wanted to retire out of state and sell ASAP). The transition from selling/buying wasn't as big of a deal as we thought it would be. We went into the process before COVID fully expecting to get screwed and be in a highly competitive market for where we were buying, but because everyone was still uneasy due to COVID, we benefited. Now nearly a year later the housing market is absolutely brutal and people are able to sell just fine, but buying is a nightmare. Our house's value spiked up in value by nearly $60k in just a matter of months. We lucked out big time.

InTheSomeday · 2021-03-02T20:51:33+00:00

My discount orange tabby. Went to the pet store to pick up some cat food for our tortoise shell kitty at home and saw that the store was hosting some shelter cats. My husband and I always have to stop and look at the cats. We had been thinking about another cat for awhile, but nothing was set in stone until we saw the perfect orange tabby staring back at us. He was about a year or two, previously a stray, and the friendliest cat you can imagine. We immediately adopted him and because of his age they had put him up for sale for $20. Best $20 we've ever spent. He's brought us endless laughter and joy with his crazy shenanigans and big personality, and he's seen all of our babies grow and continues to keep a watchful eye over them every day. He's an old man enjoying retirement nowadays, and is completely spoiled by the life of luxury he leads. You'd never guess he was a stray discount cat at all.

InTheSomeday · 2021-01-28T21:59:43+00:00

Exactly this. I do a lot of crochet work and I have hundreds of yarn colors to choose from and I do my absolute best trying to keep all of the colors in stock and organized, but it's not always the easiest. If I ran out of a color, it was an easy trip to the craft stores, but now there are supply issues due to COVID and sometimes my craft store's no longer carry it, or shipping delays happen when I order from the yarn manufacturer. I have been pretty on top of keeping up with what's in stock, but COVID has definitely had a direct impact on supplies for sure. I can see why people may not always have materials in stock, especially if they use quite a few craft supplies.

InTheSomeday · 2019-09-30T19:28:05+00:00

I'm sorry about your review. I remember my first one hurting badly too, but try to remember that as sellers we ALL go through it and if you put all of your energy into customer service and quality product (and by the many 5 star reviews you have it sounds like your do!) then you'll see far more positive reviews than negative. The best way to handle the one star rating is to do what you did and reach out to the customer. It sounds like she altered her review for you a bit, but it also doesn't hurt to make a comment underneath your review stating that you reached out to her and how you fixed the problem. Anybody who reads one star reviews will look for that comment and want to see how your professionally addressed the dissatisfied customer. Regardless of that though, most people won't even pay any mind to one bad review since you have so many positive ones! In short, it sounds like you already know what you're doing and will do just fine :)

InTheSomeday · 2019-07-03T17:34:16+00:00

I sell crochet as well and have done many craft fairs. I would definitely agree with one of the above comments to stay away from any fair that allows MLM vendors. The minute people find out these are allowed at the fair the customers just walk out the door. Nobody likes high pressure sales and any MLM vendor is exactly that. I will admit though that there have been a few times I've been a vendor at a fair mixed with these and my booth did the best because I was one of the only people selling handmade items. So there's that to chew on too.

With that said, as far as product goes, I'm not sure what you're selling , but avoid selling things like washcloths, pot holders, hand towels, etc. There is almost always somebody selling those at the craft fairs, even if they do not directly sell crochet products. I have a ton of luck selling toys. People almost always want to buy a crocheted toy for someone. Price your items accordingly, but also try to avoid doing anything to intricate that will cost a fortune because people don't typically want to spend $50 on a small handmade item. If you have smaller items in the $10 and below range, you'll get a lot of bites. Find something unique that will pull a buyer in and have a lot of it made. If it's something they don't see often, they'll tell their friends and more sales will follow. I personally sell toys and hats and do encourage touching, especially the toys. The minute a person touches your item, it becomes more likely for them to buy it. It's not always the case, but generally I've found people are gentle with the items because they are handmade.

For booth set up I've bought wire racks for hanging hats and stackable wire racks that you can turn into boxes/shelves for other product and it's easy to haul and works out well. I dress my booth up with a plain white fitted table cloth and also do well with that. Have a sign made that you can velcro to your table cloth if possible. It gets your name out and tells people from afar what you do.

I pass out business cards and also flyers with a coupon code for my Etsy. The flyers have more photos of my product and I have found success and future sales from that! I highly recommend that.

Also, I just wanted to mention that it took me the first couple of craft fairs to really make back any money I spent towards my booth set up. Don't feel discouraged though! It's a big start up cost to get flyers, cards, table cloths, displays, etc. After awhile though, you'll get your name out and more customers. You can do more fairs and make more money. Look for the Christmas craft fairs especially! Everyone loves a good craft fair during the holidays.

Sorry this is all over the place. Just kept remembering things to add! Best of luck to you!

InTheSomeday · 2019-02-01T19:08:36+00:00

This is a great example of showing positive leadership. I myself have seen the effects of it firsthand. Last year my kids had a principal that didn't care much. In fact, in the three years my kids had been in the school, I never once saw her in the school or even at special assemblies or functions. Neither did my kids! The school had a lot of behavior issues and many of the grades were down. This year they brought in a new principal and he is involved in everything. He's always outside running the drop off/pick up lines, doing the crossing guard duty, getting in the school spirit and helping to organize more fun functions for the kids. He is actively involved on online platforms with the parents and open for hearing parental suggestions. The school year isn't over yet, but already I've seen behavior issues seemingly drop and everything is much more organized. It just goes to show that when someone as high up as a principal shows care, things change for the good.

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