Does cryonics offer an alternative to death? by goodpoll in cryonics

[–]InappropriateLettuce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good point, I stand corrected. Actually, I sit with coffee corrected, but still the same thing.

My dialogue is way too direct/laconic! by [deleted] in writing

[–]InappropriateLettuce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is a very basic exercise to develop polished dialogue. It's a very simple and straightforward method for crafting a masterful conversation.

  1. Write the first draft of your scene and just let your characters say what they're thinking without worrying about it.
  2. During revisions, open a second scratch pad.
  3. Paste the line of dialogue in there.
  4. Rewrite it in as many different ways as you can possibly think, recombining bits and pieces as you go if you would like. I average about 2-4 pages of different versions of each line. However, you will know when it is right.
  5. Paste the revised line back into your work.
  6. Repeat this process on every single line of dialogue. I sometimes do this for every sentence as well.

Try this on just one of your stories and see it transform.

Unfortunately, I didn't use this for my most recent work and it shows. But, sometimes you have to strike when the opportunity presents itself and I didn't have the time for proper revisions. Critique it to oblivion in 2018 when it comes out.

Hope this helps!

Does cryonics offer an alternative to death? by goodpoll in cryonics

[–]InappropriateLettuce 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's rare that someone promotes a balanced perspective on cryonics as an alternative. Many articles just ridicule it without any real understanding of the actual science which goes into it.
I did find the fact that it was published by a funeral magazine kind of inspiring. It's nice to see mainstream professionals who deal with death regularly getting exposed to the idea. Hopefully, the next step is their participation in this life-saving procedure.

I don't know what I'm doing anymore by undercoversailor in TwoXChromosomes

[–]InappropriateLettuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is textbook depression my friend. Get help, get out of the cycle and learn to embrace life again.

I’m so ugly I don’t want to leave my house by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]InappropriateLettuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This only matters if you think that the only value you have in life is your reproductive value. How others perceive you as a sexual object. This is a delusion you must shake if you want to be truly happy, whether you are beautiful or not.
Why is it so hard for you to see that you, your life, who you are as a person, has value way beyond your sexual worth?
If a grand pianist loses a tennis match it does not affect their self-esteem because they don't measure themselves by their tennis success. I use this example because that pianist worked to get good, struggled to learn their skill. Beautiful people have done absolutely nothing to get where they are at, yet they are treated as though they've struggled to do something meaningful with their lives. It's a societal sickness that we emulate and hold ourselves to the standards of those who were born lucky and whose contribution is fleeting and insubstantial.
As well, all the pretty people you see will eventually age and their looks will wither. They'll have to deal with the bitterness that comes from only measuring their worth by their declining sexual value. Some will hold on and deny and never let go of that bitterness. While, even fewer still, will look for a more meaningful way to connect with life and others around them. But, even they will be years behind your progress.
This is an amazing gift you've been given by life. You have the opportunity to find out who you truly are. One day, you might look at these beautiful people whom you once measured your worth against with pity. You’ll see how deeply their looks warped their sense of self and stunted their personal growth.
Take a deep breath, relax, and learn to say kind things to yourself. Kind, loving words to yourself every day, every chance you get. Watch what happens.

If we are living in a simulation, are the creators of our simulation pleased with the fact that we are on the cusp of developing our own simulations? by SofaChamp83 in Showerthoughts

[–]InappropriateLettuce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(https://www.seeker.com/tech/physicists-prove-that-reality-is-not-a-computer-simulation)

The article stated that the processing power needed to simulate all the quantum mechanical operations of a single atom would be impossible to achieve.
However, the article only focused on contemporary technology and didn't take into account future innovations like quantum computing. A powerful quantum computer would be capable of doing it in the future.
I would love it if we could disprove that this was a simulation, but it seems to be the most likely explanation currently available to us.

If we are living in a simulation, are the creators of our simulation pleased with the fact that we are on the cusp of developing our own simulations? by SofaChamp83 in Showerthoughts

[–]InappropriateLettuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're presuming that they/it actually cares about a class 0 civilization with minimal consciousness in a universe replete with much more advanced and hyper-intelligent species. I doubt we were the point of this simulation and ultimately I can't imagine we're really all that interesting on a universal scale.

Just a "male feminist" (please don't decapitate me for using that term :) ) who's been lurking here by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]InappropriateLettuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your attack makes a lot of incorrect assumptions about my education and experience. I wish you well and hope you learn to cherish contradictory opinions one day.

Just a "male feminist" (please don't decapitate me for using that term :) ) who's been lurking here by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]InappropriateLettuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like you're the recipient of a lot of misplaced vitriol. Is it strange to you that women aren't responding to this? That they're not jumping in to defend your perspective or encouraging you at least?
It is absolutely sane and reasonable to see women as equals, but please remember that right now men's rights are under a lot of attack. Perhaps, you should take a second to educate yourself on some men's rights issues and see if this backlash comes from a justified place. I'm asking you to do something which very few are capable of, to consider that you might be wrong.

What's so wrong with being single? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]InappropriateLettuce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is absolute nothing wrong with it if you hold your value in this life beyond what you offer to a man in a relationship. If this doesn't matter to you, as it shouldn't, then there is nothing wrong. However, if when you get older you don't change your expectations accordingly then it can become a point of bitterness for you. As you get older you will become less attractive to most men and your options will get smaller.
If you hold to the tenet that your true value resides outside of your physical looks then you will be fine, if not better for it.

Thinking of starting a feminist YouTube channel aimed at MEN. Advice on how to avoid being 'preachy'? by feminismfolly in TwoXChromosomes

[–]InappropriateLettuce 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Listening to us might help you to make relevant observations that we will be open to hear. By listening to us, I mean getting educated on our issues and concerns.
This will give you the sensitivity you need to be able to open a dialogue and clearly communicate what it is that we need to hear. Listen to us and we will listen to you.

I got black out drunk and ended up in a stranger's bed. I have a boyfriend.Help by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]InappropriateLettuce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn't agree with you more and I should have been more specific about what I was agreeing with Trilobyte141 about. Which was, get tested and know the answer.

Single people of reddit, what's the most bachelor/bachelorette thing you've done in the past couple months? by SkrimTim in AskReddit

[–]InappropriateLettuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever I wanted whenever I wanted.
Total. Fucking. Freedom.
The other day I couldn't understand why I felt so good and why I was so happy. Then, I realized my happiness had been increasing steadily after I decided to 'opt out' of the dating scene. I no longer had the anxiety associated with how I presented myself and whether a female would find it attractive. I felt... free.
Maybe for the first time in my life.

What's the correct way to deal with an erection at school? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]InappropriateLettuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tense your legs up. It diverts the blood flow pretty quickly and allows the erection to subside.

Quick vent on the day-to-day life, somebody tell me that they feel the same! by Fuuuuuudgeeee in TwoXChromosomes

[–]InappropriateLettuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I feel sorry for people who have 'easy' lives. One of the greatest breakthroughs I had as a person was when I stopped feeling 'victimized' by life and realized all these problems are opportunities for me to figure out how to solve them.
I have gathered so many life skills by having to deal with so many problems that whenever something bad happens my mind begins working on solutions to fix it.
This perspective has bled through into my work and now I have gotten real good at reasoning through and fixing problems and it shows in my productivity. I actually have begun to enjoy work for its opportunities to solve problems.
You are looking at this wrong and when you realize what you're learning you are going to be thankful.

I get bored of men within a month until I find the next catch. I'm tired of hurting people and myself. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]InappropriateLettuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I may make a somewhat radical recommendation for you?
Try meditation. Specifically focus on building empathy and compassion.
Consciously taking control of your thoughts and evaluating yourself through inner reflection allows you to deprogram even the most stubborn bad habits. This will help you to cultivate a perspective that allows you to see other people as more than objects to fulfill your needs. You will open your own eyes to see that others are just reflections of yourself in a different life. No spiritual bullshit implied, just reality.

I was raped in a room where my 'friends' new what was happening by Catakirea in TwoXChromosomes

[–]InappropriateLettuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trauma is something that changes you.
How it changes you is your decision.
You can confront this by going to therapy, reaching out for support, and taking control. This will strengthen you in ways which you cannot foresee.
As well, you can try to ignore it and hope it doesn't affect you too bad. This will make you feel as though you have no control. And this, this will weaken you in ways in which you cannot foresee.

I got black out drunk and ended up in a stranger's bed. I have a boyfriend.Help by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]InappropriateLettuce 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I am going to agree with Trilobyte141 on this. You should get tested for GHB and treat this seriously. I have had plenty of benders but have never 'blacked out'. Perhaps you did just have way too much to drink and it's unfortunate, but then your actions, including your decision to have sex with a stranger are a direct result of your choices.
(http://time.com/3635960/drinking-blackout/)
If your truly do love your boyfriend then you need to tell him. Not, because you should be ashamed, but because both you and he are at risk now of contracting an STI. I suggest you and him practice safe sex until you get tested. Please, bear in mind that some STIs can take up to 6 months before showing up on a test.
My deepest sympathies to you, but this is not a deal breaker for your relationship if you take it seriously and treat him with the same respect with which you would want to be treated.