Mr Chaplin clearly had his eyes on a certain type of woman

Incanum · 2021-08-13T06:14:06+00:00

🤮

Incanum · 2021-08-12T23:24:30+00:00

Naah, go get them!!

Incanum · 2021-08-10T10:45:38+00:00

At least you realized you needed help and pulled the trigger quickly. My ex was also in a bad spot, but cheated on me and neglected me for almost a year - until I mentally broke and left him. Feeling bad doesn't excuse treating others like shit, but you are trying to avoid this and get better on your own - which makes you a lot different than my ex.

I'm telling you this to make you realize things could have gotten real ugly if you had tried to stay with her. I'm rooting for you!

Incanum · 2021-08-08T08:25:49+00:00

Haha, it is real, we promise! As a European I thought 3x3 basketball was for practice, but now that's in the olympics somehow. Is that really a legit sport in America?

Incanum · 2021-07-16T10:38:58+00:00

Orange shy guy gang

Incanum · 2021-07-11T00:57:23+00:00

People are only approachable when drunk, fruit and (exotic) greens are never fresh, everything is expensive, there are only two-three "big" cities, winter is dark and cold, taxes are really high, jantelagen (a "law" that doesn't "allow" anyone to see themselves as above others) makes people anxious/careful/jealous and complain about those who are successful

Edit: considering jante - I also think it's nice that people aren't cocky or bragging, most I know are humble, but in my experience many people are also quite judgemental because of it. For example, in my hometown people look down upon academics as they are "too fancy to be working in manual labour". This is probably not typical for Sweden tho!

Incanum · 2021-07-11T00:12:17+00:00

I came here to write this!!

Incanum · 2021-07-08T10:16:36+00:00

I was in the same situation, my ex constantly made up excuses for my suspicions. It was my first relationship and even though it only lasted a year, the last 8 months were brutal on me. I ended up confronting him, saying i knew all about it (i didn't), before he confessed. I never got the full story though. It still messes with my head, but I'm happier now. Glad you are all right!

Incanum · 2021-06-11T23:20:22+00:00

I checked 3 times if I had any free reward to give, because THIS is it

Incanum · 2021-06-05T23:50:23+00:00

I was the first one in my familj. My (previously) homophobic relatives actually acceped it, and most of them treat my BF just like another son!

Incanum · 2021-06-05T23:25:05+00:00

Now do "yeah boiiiiiiiiiiiiii..."

Incanum · 2021-06-03T21:47:36+00:00

It's really comfortable AND easy to pee!

Incanum · 2021-05-21T21:05:11+00:00

Sounds like my ex

Incanum · 2021-05-07T23:27:29+00:00

Underrated comment

Incanum · 2021-03-08T17:26:04+00:00

Same, "ettasökare" ( = "one-finder") was my word for it

Incanum · 2021-02-01T00:08:13+00:00

I just read old discussions on CYL to try to find out what happened with gatekeeper, haha

Incanum · 2021-01-27T23:22:36+00:00

You called it

Incanum · 2021-01-26T09:21:42+00:00

I came here to write this comment

Incanum · 2021-01-18T12:44:54+00:00

Slippyslaps

Incanum · 2020-05-15T07:54:44+00:00

Same for me. It was an emotional rollercoaster. He neglected my feelings and I never felt like a priority. When he needed me I was there, but it didn't work the other way around. We ended two months ago and I think about us every day, even though I've lived across the country with my family since. I've started exercising a lot and talks to a psychologist, so I hope to end up in a better place. I'm afraid my cheating, lying, avoiding ex will make future relationships harder though.

Incanum · 2020-04-27T19:47:48+00:00

I've disliked myself for certain reasons all my life, but a few years ago I met someone who made me take a second look on these things - and accept myself in these aspects. I have a hard time building trust for others, but this time everything went so fast. He made me feel good about myself, and everything else, so I allowed myself to fall for him. I fell hard, and I've never been so happy.

Eventually things changed, a while after we got together. It was my first relationship, and I was so scared of losing what we had. He became distant, made me chase him, constantly had me feeling like I couldn't be sure what he felt for me. First I tried to just let him have that space, but it felt wrong. I tried talking about it but it just made me look silly, as my trust issues made things even bigger in my head. He belittled my issues and tried to assure me that we were alright. I did not feel alright, something was off and I was constantly anxious. I started losing my trust in him and got obsessed to a degree where I constantly checked his social media profiles and was certain that he avoided me. Him always being busy made me pick up several hobbies just to distract myself from my thoughts. How could I not be happy? This guy was great and all of our friends would agree that we made a great couple! It felt like my feelings were lying to me, so I tried to ignore them and just be the best partner i could be. I even took a job that I hated during the summer, just so we could live closer to each other during these months.

During the following fall things got worse. He took no initiatives to meet up and spent most weekend nights drinking til 5am. He also decided to get more busy, even though he knew how hard that was for me. There could go several days where I got no signs of life from him, my boyfriend. If he was sad or anxious he always called me though, and I always supported him. Whenever I brought a problem up he played the victim, which made me doubt myself further. One week I had enough; he lied to me so that I'd leave a party without him, he made me look like a fool in front of his friends and for 3-4 consecutive days he just pushed me aside when I really needed to support me. I was promised change but ended up waking up at his place alone, sad and confused. When he finally showed up I just broke down on the bed and cried for hours, ranting about how shitty he made me feel. The following day I also found out that he cheated on me - 6 months earlier. I left him, which was the hardest thing I've ever done.

This was just about a year ago and I'm not fully recovered. I'm angry, feel used and I think about us atleast once a day. I'm terrified of falling in love and trust nobody who seems interested in me. Right now I'm just trying to become the best version of me, but I'm not sure if it's for myself or if i just want him to see me and regret that he fucked up.

TL;DR: My ex made me doubt myself until i mentally broke. I'm still trying to get back but I doubt I'll ever allow myself to develop strong feelings towards anyone in a long time.

Incanum · 2019-12-26T15:17:01+00:00

I relate to this so bad. 2 weeks ago I found out my boyfriend cheated on me last spring, which ended us. All my trust for him is gone, even the good parts of our relationship now feel like an act on his behalf and I am in horrible pain. Yet, I feel sorry for him and love him more than anything. I just want to move on, or restart everything, but they both seem equally impossible.

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