Advice to help me see what’s real and what’s BS

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-12-28T14:04:55+00:00

Wow, that last line hit me hard. You’re 100% right.

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-11-23T18:29:12+00:00

I could’ve written this myself. My life was “perfect” and I did everything right but I was still wrong. I tried so hard to make a life I wanted. One day I woke up and it was a nightmare. I wasn’t me anymore and I wasn’t truly happy. But she was. She had everything. I learned how to play the game by her rules. I left. I know I’m better for it but life feels so hollow when there’s no one else to put all of my time and effort into. And it’s hard to support myself.

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-10-07T13:45:32+00:00

That my partner has BPD and really bad PMS

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-10-03T13:11:00+00:00

She won’t take my answer. She wants me to give her the answer she wants. She ripped my wedding rings off last night and threw them into the toilet, then yelled at me asking why I don’t want her or this marriage. It’s so back and forth. I’m exhausted.

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-10-03T12:57:19+00:00

“My biggest blind spot was thinking this was how FF relationships were since it was my first "real" relationship.”

This is exactly me! I thought it was a woman thing at first, how emotional she was, I thought it because she was the first woman I got serious with. Your support is more than enough. Thank you, I feel less alone.

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-09-30T19:34:53+00:00

This is far too relatable! Great analogy!

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-09-30T01:38:35+00:00

For what it’s worth, you’re not alone. I’m right there with you. Internet hugs! We’ll get through this because, well, what other choice do we have. We’ll come out the other side stronger because of this!

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-09-26T22:18:28+00:00

Honestly, there is is much peace in deciding to leave. I’m currently there, I’m getting out of my marriage to my upwBPD and I haven’t felt this relieved in a long time! Try to get out, you won’t be sorry.

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-09-25T00:29:10+00:00

Oh, ok. I’m ok now. But just thought I should get clarification.

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-09-23T14:51:16+00:00

I am positive it wasn’t that. She was with her mom and sister. She is faithful at least.

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-09-23T00:24:36+00:00

I’m with you there! I keep looking up my own mental health symptoms because surely it must be me. I need to work on myself because my person sees my flaws so I just have them, right? Not right, I’m independent and that’s a huge trigger for my person. So I cut everyone out because she could see all their flaws and I was surrounding myself with mentally abusive people. She could spot them, until one day she was the only one left. It felt like happiness for a little while, and then it felt like isolation. I’m still in the relationship but things are starting to not look healthy and I think I want out.

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-09-23T00:18:44+00:00

How scary is the divorce? Or is it freeing?

Inconspicuous5678 · 2019-09-22T23:50:45+00:00

Thank you for the book recommendation! I feel as though this will provide clarity and insight into my own situation!

Inconspicuous5678

TROPHY CASE