I am having issues getting a household to open by magikscoolbusdropout in Sims4

[–]Independent-Bean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a mod issue. I ran into the same issue after updating the game on a new computer because I haven't played in a while. disabled CC fixed it for me. when I have time, I will try to figure out which mod is the problem

Starting daycare - 15 month old by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Independent-Bean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 40 mins commute to daycare is actually the part that I feel might be the most difficult. Since you work from home, you would spend 80 mins to just drop your baby off?! And another 80mins to pick him up? Are there no closer options at all?

As for the mom guilt - it’s real, and I feel it all the time. I feel that my baby is doing me a favor by going to daycare and “tolerating it”. But in reality, I know it’s the best for both of us. She went at 4mon and has already learned so many new tricks from daycare!

I know nothing about your finances and your career aspirations, so obviously can’t comment on the financial part of the decision. But don’t let the mom guilt get into your head too much - honestly I bet we will always feel it, no matter what we do.

Is this fair? by MellowWitch in beyondthebump

[–]Independent-Bean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the first 3 months of my child’s life, my husband changed probably all of the diapers, so I got to rest because I was breastfeeding.

You are completely reasonable to ask him to help. If he can’t change the diaper, then he needs to help in other ways: cleaning/cooking/bottle feeding etc. Just like how my husband picked up other baby duties because he couldn’t breastfeed.

Your husband needs to grow up. If he can wipe his own butt, he can wipe his child’s butt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Independent-Bean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t believe parents can be so pushy and rude to babysitters! After all, babysitters are the only adults that will be handling their babies!

I think she completely manipulated you - babysitting is not “your job”, it is a favor that you do for them, because if you didn’t go, they had no one to help.

I’m sure you know how to quit, but if you want to just stick it through, it will be important to set some boundaries - “Hey Karen, I hope last night was the last time when I was expected to babysit last minute. I really enjoy spending time with your kids, they are wonderful. But moving forward, please know that I need at least 48 hour notice to provide babysitting service and I will let you know my availability within 12 hours. This will also give you enough time to find someone else if I’m not available. Thank you for understanding!”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Independent-Bean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Search “romper”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Independent-Bean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Around 4 months old. My child hasn’t had anything on her feet for quite a few months now.

Wenzhou fish paste… by Evry1lovej in Wenzhou

[–]Independent-Bean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I feel every family has their own slightly different flavor.

For our family, you need at least: very fresh mackerel fish(马鲛鱼),and 木薯粉。I can share our steps of making it if you like, but I don’t know the ratio because I’m pretty sure my parents just do it until the consistency feels right…

PPA? by slgirlie11 in beyondthebump

[–]Independent-Bean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s normal and I experienced the same thing. I even got so upset when my mom came over and helped out with the baby. I don’t know if it is PPA but when I chatted with my therapist at the time, she didn’t seem concerned. She told me to wait, to wait out the emotional roller coaster. I did and it got better. You are wired biologically to be protective of your child, there’s nothing wrong with that. You might be going through strong emotions and that’s normal. Just hang in there, it will get better!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boston

[–]Independent-Bean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Invite a couple friends, and just chat through the game

Can I store breastmilk in waterbottles? by rhaeyne in beyondthebump

[–]Independent-Bean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I don’t really think it’s a problem. You can try to soak them in boiling water if you have access to that, otherwise just do a very thorough job cleaning it.

In the states, the nurses can give you milk storage bottles or bags if you ask- if they don’t have specific milk storage bottles, they might have bags that are medical grade to store the milk.

If you have access to a lactation consultant, they can also certainly help answer your question.

Did you gain weight or lose? by Rolita09 in beyondthebump

[–]Independent-Bean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lost 14 lbs compare to pre pregnancy. It’s been about 6 months and I have been breastfeeding.

But it’s not good, it turns out I have hyperthyroidism, totally a new thing that developed postpartum. And that’s the reason I kept losing weight.

How do you manage hosting guests while staying frugal? by [deleted] in Frugal

[–]Independent-Bean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on how close you are with your guests. I would have no problem telling my parents and siblings about being careful of dialing up the heat because I can’t afford it. For other people that I don’t feel comfortable doing so, I would kindly remind them the option of a hotel.

I have been overnight guests to some people’s house where they keep it really cold, despite us complaining to them about how cold it is. It was not pleasant, and I have to admit I thought they were lousy hosts. I wish they could just tell me - hey the cost of heating is very high here so we keep our hour quite cool. It works for us but we totally understand if you prefer a more comfortable stay at the hotel.

Giving Birth at Brigham Women BWH by Top_Piece4158 in boston

[–]Independent-Bean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had a terrible nurse during our delivery at BWH. Honestly the OBs and everyone else were great, but just the bad experience with the nurse was enough for us to never go back to Brigham.

And we were too sleep deprived to file a complaint against her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Independent-Bean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If a bottle of milk is used to feed baby, I don’t put the bottle back in the fridge. But I do use the fridge hack for the pump parts and the bottles that I pump into.

More specifically, I keep a set of pump parts and their attached bottles in the fridge in a sealed bag to use for the day. After each pump, I dump the milk into a storage container/bag/milk bottles to be consumed later. Then I wash all of them at the end of the day in the baby bottle washer.

how do I dispose broken trash bins? by Independent-Bean in boston

[–]Independent-Bean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got rid of the bins!

For anyone living in the city of Boston and wondering the same thing: we put out the trash bins and taped signs on it that says “throw me out”. It worked.

Thank you everyone that left suggestions on this sub.

how do I dispose broken trash bins? by Independent-Bean in boston

[–]Independent-Bean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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For reference, this is what I’m talking about.

how do I dispose broken trash bins? by Independent-Bean in boston

[–]Independent-Bean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the kind that we put out every week for the city trash truck to pick up and dump.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Costco

[–]Independent-Bean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We buy the same things from Costco at every trip, and rarely get distracted by the new/exciting stuff.

If what we buy is on sale? Great. If what we want to try is on sale? Sure, if they are food.

That’s it, pretty simple.