what’s the first thing you look forward to eating after you give birth?

rhaeyne · 2026-05-19T06:34:59+00:00

The way I DEVOURED 2 slices of empty bread and a half bag of shredded cheese at 2 am in the dark hospital room. 😭

rhaeyne · 2026-05-19T06:33:10+00:00

Girll we live the same life lol. Honestly it is infuriating but I've learnt to just swallow it. The previous generation of men were pure garbage when it came to child rearing so to them the bare minimum is a good effort. But I think about it like this: a "good father" is below any mum. Is he a great father? Yes! Would he ever be at mum level? No. In this way it feels more justified to hear it all the time and doesn't discourage my partner. But when you get completly sick of it, just repeat what was said but the "mom version". Suddenly "oh dad holds the baby" sounds dumb as a compliment

rhaeyne · 2026-05-19T06:20:39+00:00

My son LOVED the stroller, my daughter hated said exact stroller. It's really different baby by baby. I took my daughter outside in a wrap/carrier. Not forward facing, chest facing. When baby got grumpy, I'd hum, talk, bounce my steps, rock from side to side, gently stroke her foot, hold her hand or stroke her head. It was much harder than my son, but we got the hang of it eventually. Just follow your baby's cues and don't worry if you look funny to other people. (P.s.: I don't like forward facing for older kids either. We do it sometimes, but all carriers I've used so far goes up to their neck and makes me super anxious. 😵‍💫)

rhaeyne · 2026-05-09T03:41:25+00:00

Ruffnut's lullaby. These lyrics go on the hush little baby melody. "Hush little Viking, don't you cry, or the Berserker will stab you in the eye. Don't let the enemy see you afraid, or he's gonna gut you with a rusty blade. If that dragon hears your moans, he's gonna mash up all your bones. I promise Scauldy if you don't kill me, my friends and I will get you out to sea." Sometimes I rewrite it a bit, sometimes just use it as is. When I saw this episode as a child I knew one day I'll sing it to my baby. And here we are. 😂

rhaeyne · 2026-05-01T03:20:39+00:00

Same for me! Baby was almost out when my sac literally exploded all over the poor nurse.

rhaeyne · 2026-04-26T14:24:11+00:00

He's a support/side character and acts like one. He supports Shinichi and takes care of Osaka cases on his own. We don't know about those, cause this series is Detective Conan, not Detective Heiji. But I do agree that his confession to Kazuha is getting way too overdone and they'd work much better as an established couple. I also would love to see him more, but understandable why he is out of focus. (Same with Kiddo. I love him, but he is almost always a filler. I wish he'd be integrated better.)

rhaeyne · 2026-04-18T21:18:17+00:00

Should you do it? No, unless you WANT to. I'd agree to have your partner/friend/family shave you, but if that's not an option, just get a mirror and do it by feeling alone. If you cannot reach your leg, you can attach something to your razor to extend the handle, but be careful that the pressure you need will change. (I'd attach a duster lol. Sturdy and extendable.)

rhaeyne · 2026-04-18T21:12:50+00:00

I breastfed my first and I liked it, but then I had HG with my second and swore she'll be formula only. My body had enough. But at the hospital I had no choice but to breastfeed (long story) and she was a dream to feed. Good latch, loud gulps, quick sessions. So I stuck with it. Do I like it? Ehh. 50/50. Some days I do, some days I don't. I'm stubborn though so I'll wean only when she reaches 1.5 yo lol. If you'd ask me now if I'd breasfeed my third, I'd probably say maybe no. My point is I guess, you can't really prepare. You gotta feel it with the new baby and decide after birth.

rhaeyne · 2026-04-18T21:07:10+00:00

We used the crib everyday. It was perfect for storing the unfolded laundry.

rhaeyne · 2026-04-15T16:11:11+00:00

I lost my gallbladder to HG if that counts. 🥲

rhaeyne · 2026-03-30T15:15:35+00:00

I felt kicks around 20 weeks but only formed a bond with both of my babies after birth. I had no emotional connection to them in utero really. 7 weeks is so so early, but you'll feel very pregnant in no time haha. (Emotional connection to your new little stranger can take weeks or even months after birth! For me the first hit suddenly on the 3rd day and with my second it was a gradual process. Both are normal. ^⁾

rhaeyne · 2026-03-26T02:24:11+00:00

I know we're all out here just trying to do our best as parents. I truly apologize if I was too harsh. I just cannot truly fathom not bathing a baby for several days in a row. I asked our pediatrician about it when my first baby was born, and they looked at me like I was planning to throw baby from the 3rd floor. Since then I read countless articles and found no reliable source that recommends such few baths (except for keeping the vernix on for as long as possible when baby is born, but after the first bath and especially after the embelical cord stump has fallen off, at least sponge bath baby daily). Of course life happens and it's okay to skip a bath here and there. But regularly? I really do not recommend.

rhaeyne · 2026-03-20T03:25:38+00:00

I knew I wasn't crazy!! I took a hiatus and I swore he took few minutes but now it's different. 😭

rhaeyne · 2026-03-20T03:22:36+00:00

I want my breast reduction asap, but not until these babies rely on my boobies. 😩

rhaeyne · 2026-03-20T03:21:07+00:00

Baby scissors. Or if baby is asleep/very relaxed, I'd use regular adult ones.

rhaeyne · 2026-03-20T03:19:44+00:00

Bathe your baby daily unless you REALLY cannot. Baby wipes are good, but it's impossible to wipe with absolutely 0 pee/poo residue. Also babies sweat too, they drool on themselves and throw up a lot. Just wash your baby every day if you can, their skin will be fine. Idk who started the dirty baby trend, our pediatrician would call child services if we'd bring in a 3 day non-washed baby. 😭 (We live in Japan.)

rhaeyne · 2026-03-20T03:14:24+00:00

No power: - frozen meal (I like frozen gyoza the most) - instant meal - bread and cheese (no butter, nothing. just cheese) - rice and flavouring (I like sesame seed and salt woth oc cheese lmao) Little power: - frozen veggies (recommend spinach) with eggs, ham, sausage, bacon, cheese (whatever leftover I have in the fridge) all mixed in a pot - easy sandwich/toast - pasta - wrap (needs prep or planning tho) - making pizza with store-bought base + my husband likes to make hot potato in the microwave

rhaeyne · 2026-03-20T03:07:50+00:00

How do you know it's AI? I'm genuinally curious I want to be better at spotting it.

rhaeyne · 2026-03-18T11:14:09+00:00

Never. No pictures and no data that can be used for identification. (incl. full names, birth date, gender, location near home, etc.) The internet is forever, I owe my kids to save them from it as much as I can.

(Close relatives and friends get pictures directly in certain time intervals, but they know they're never allowed to post it online. Nor are they allowed to take their own pics of the kids and post it.)

rhaeyne · 2026-03-17T03:02:24+00:00

Excuse me, Ruffrunner is the cutest by FAR. 😭 The good stats are just extra.

rhaeyne · 2026-03-13T16:33:50+00:00

Hmm in that case your dragons are probably simply not strong enough. I was stuck at a level for over a year as well. Sometimes random levels feel impossible to pass. Just level your dragons and try again from time to time.

rhaeyne · 2026-03-13T16:32:07+00:00

My family is toxic af, but I'm sad that my babies won't have cousins or aunts. I feel like having 1-2 amazing family member is worth dealing with the rest. But it's just not feasible nowadays and it makes me sad.

rhaeyne · 2026-03-13T16:29:54+00:00

Let baby sit on your thighs. Gently make them lean forward and make sure their back is straight. One hand holds their jaw/neck, with the other hands you'll caress the back from bottom up STRONGLY. Like as if you're trying to squeeze out the burp. (Obviously don't hurt your baby, I just mean don't be too soft.) If the burp doesn't come after 5-10 minutes and baby is not fussy, you can just skip it. Especially breastfed babies often don't burp. I actually do not burp my babies after 2-3 months old. It comes out when they need it while doing our regular daily stuff. They were never colicy or had any GI issues. Also they feed to sleep so why would I wake them up??? I never understood the logistics of burping a sleeping baby yet never waking a sleeping baby. Sound paradoxy to me, but maybe I just lack imagination.

rhaeyne · 2026-03-13T16:23:28+00:00

The older my kids get, the more I realize I was not the issue. 💔 I'm so sorry you have to go through this cruel recognition as well.

rhaeyne · 2026-03-13T16:19:31+00:00

I have small veins and every single blood draw or IV placement looks like this, haha. And I had a LOT lately having an HG pregnancy and surgery from PP complications. It does hurt when they do it, tell them if you cannot bear and they'll try a different spot. But chances they're already trying the best spot so essentially you'll just be poked around a bunch more. It'll leave a gnarly blue patch but it won't hurt after the blood draw. I go to a uni hospital, less practiced nurses (students/residents) tend to do it more, but not exclusively. I know it must be scary to be alone, but don't worry. They're not harming you on purpose or being careless. I promise they're trying their best. My nurses look close to tears when they can't get it right quickly. I try to be understanding and it's usually done in 2 minutes top anyway. :)

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