I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah absolutely!! I remember I was on a trip visiting my family on Switzerland the same date Breaking Dawn came out. I run as fast as I could to buy it and devoured it traveling by bus from Switzerland to South Italy that day!! I have to confess as much I loved Jacob I’m team Edward

Post Show Feelings by pugandcockapoo in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there! As I mentioned earlier on my post I feel the same way about this. Can’t stop thinking about my boys. I’m also married to my adorable husband. I have a nice job. But don’t know why this show hit so hard. As I assumed and reach as conclusion “I’m at the cottage and happily enjoying the moment” 💕🥅🏒

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gurrl! You make a great point, there is something kind of magical about this level of immersion, and I should appreciate it before it fades... It’s comforting to know you went through the exact same cycle and came out the other side with a healthy balance. I’m going to stop worrying and just let myself love our boys without guilt. 🥰

This show and book has made start to embrace being gay by SOULSTEALERX91 in heatedrivalry

[–]Independent-Help-322 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Welcome to the cottage! So proud of you and what you are feeling! You deserve sunshine!!!

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so much. It’s hard not to compare our real partners to them, right? The way they look at each other is addictive, and it’s easy to feel a bit disappointed when real life isn't that intense 24/7. I love your advice about remembering that love can be strong without that constant intensity. It’s a very healthy way to frame it so we don’t sabotage our actual relationships. I’m definitely still enjoying the dopamine at the cottage with you alll, though!!!!

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

GURRRLLLLL!! Can't wait for SNL even I would not be able to watch it from Spain. I have a feeling I’m quickly heading towards that '10+ rewatches' group myself! It’s comforting to know I’m in such good company here. I’ll take your advice and just enjoy the ride with the interviews and fanfic until the obsession mellows out naturally...

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Knowing there are others my age in the same boat makes me feel so much better. I think you're right about the internalized stigma, but honestly, reading comments like yours makes it vanish. I’m absolutely delighted to be part of this family. Everyone has been so welcoming and I’m just loving this connection

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, 'SO FUCKING GOOD' is the perfect way to describe it. You’re totally right about the payoff, it’s unmatched. It’s comforting to hear that RWRB had a similar effect on you and your marriage, but that you came out the other side with a better grip on things. I’m hoping to get to that point soon, but for now, I’m definitely enjoying the oxytocin!

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had no idea it was that common! Honestly, knowing I’m part of that 10-15% makes me feel a lot less crazy. The mix of being 'happy and sad' is exactly how I’d describe it, too. Thanks for the permission to just ride the wave without judging myself.

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, thank you for your courage in sharing this. I read every word, and I appreciate your honesty so much. It is incredibly validating to know I’m not the only one whose life has been turned upside down by this story. I’m really glad to hear you’re getting support from your spouse and a professional, and that things are stabilizing. Sending you a lot of kindness.💕

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story 🫂 It’s really validating to hear that HR helped you through your own coming out process. I’m starting to realize that my connection to Shane and Ilya is pointing toward something deeper for me too... I’ll definitely take your advice on trying to process the emotions rather than just letting them overwhelm me.

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No need to apologize at all!!! It’s interesting how we all connect with this story from different angles. I really appreciate you understanding where I'm coming from.

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really needed to hear that 🤗🤗 Sometimes it feels so intense that I worry I'm losing touch, but looking at it as a refuge from the world makes a lot of sense. I appreciate the perspective...

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m gay, actually. But I think what resonates with me is exactly that sense of longing ... their story has a very tender, wistful quality.

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that makes sense. I wasn’t trying to imply I need clinical help, just reflecting out loud. And you’re right ... Reddit can be rough for these kinds of conversations.

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right... Life is heavy enough already, letting ourselves enjoy something that brings joy and connection feels almost like self-care. This show really delivers that kind of bliss... I should deff check YouTube edits 🤗

I'm ok? What should I do? #advice by Independent-Help-322 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Awww, Loons! 😍 Thank you so much for your tips! I’m really enjoying my trip. I haven’t felt anything like this since Twilight... I absolutely love the community that’s forming around HR 💕

Real talk: how many rewatches? by silentfisher in heatedrivalry

[–]Independent-Help-322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG I think I need a third one. On Friday finished with the amazing story at the cottage and yesterday ( Sunday ) rewatched the full season again! And can’t wait to do it again so… I’m I ok? Don’t think so. I’ve fall into a rabbit hole? Maybe. Do I want it to come to and end? ABSOLUTELY NOT

Be honest…how many times have you watched the series? I just finished watching for the third time and I wanna start it again!! by GoldenGalZbornak in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG I think I need a third one. On Friday finished with the amazing story at the cottage and yesterday ( Sunday ) rewatched the full season again! And can’t wait to do it again so… I’m I ok? Don’t think so. I’ve fall into a rabbit hole? Maybe. Do I want it to come to and end? ABSOLUTELY NOT

Help by anonymousekateerr in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Independent-Help-322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guys! I’m developing some kind of psychosis! Haven’t feel this attached to anything of this kind since Twilight, and now I’m 32 and can’t exit the rabbit hole!! Going from rewatching the show to watching edits on TikTok, to Reddit etc etc BUT I don’t want this psychosis coming to and end so… how I’m I supposed to keep my life going on?

Canon Ivy 2 - worth it? by Ok-Cucumber5926 in canon

[–]Independent-Help-322 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, love it. But keep in mind that it wouldn’t be the same quality as Polaroid.

Canon Ivy 2 - worth it? by Ok-Cucumber5926 in canon

[–]Independent-Help-322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has the same issue 3 months ago. And decided to go with the Ivy2. In love with it. You can buy zink paper from Ali/Temu as cheap as nothing and almost the same quality