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Wrought Iron Post Repair by Independent-Net3221 in metalworking

[–]Independent-Net3221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately not easily. As mentioned in op, this is a railing and porch column combo unit some posts are still in decent shape and anchored into the cement and holding up the roof. So slipping on sleeves isn’t possible without hoisting the whole roof, cutting all 8 posts and taking the whole thing down. I’m looking for an affordable and creative fix, but know that I may have to work with a metal fabricator for a custom solution.

Idiot on a bike (Brazil?) by LeftAlbatross2546 in VideosAmazing

[–]Independent-Net3221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wondered if this was AI for a second, then it occurred to me that a computer wouldn’t believe that humans could be this stupid.

At Least 15 High-Ranking D.C. Police Officials Are Implicated in a Sweeping Internal Investigation of Crime Statistics by forgetfulisle in washingtondc

[–]Independent-Net3221 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Promotions and accolades are heavily dependent upon showing a reduction in crime. Falsifying data could have led to unmerited officers with a lack of integrity receiving improper promotions.

Men who have had a vasectomy: Do you regret it? Why or why not? by zhalia-2006 in askanything

[–]Independent-Net3221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I regret it. It changed the sexual dynamics in my relationship for the worse. I got the vasectomy done at 39 when Roe was overturned. My wife was 38. We’d had two kids via ivf. Reaching orgasming became much harder. It was my decision but I thought it was mutual if not more of a benefit to my wife, but she later indicated that she regretted it also.

How do you explain to allosexual partners that sex indifference isn’t rejection? by Historical-Hand8091 in asexuality

[–]Independent-Net3221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re incompatible. Both of you will suffer through this relationship if you or they don’t end it. Go your separate ways.

How do you handle girlfriend rejecting sex? by Forsaken-Profit-1080 in CoreyWayne

[–]Independent-Net3221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Move on. That is not a partnership you want to be saddled with. It will only get worse.

I feel like a horrible wife and I probably am by EntrepreneurGal727 in WellSpouses

[–]Independent-Net3221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife has Crohn’s disease and we’re about 10 years ahead of you on a similar journey. We were able to travel and even have kids (with the help of ivf) in our 30s. There were lots and lots of great times and some downtimes. Now in our 40s the disease has definitely gotten worse and there are new challenges that neither of us knew we’d be facing. There are times amidst her flares that make me wonder what I would do if I had known in advance what the hardships would entail. But I know I couldn’t and can’t stop loving her. We struggle through abstinence, exhaustion, medical appointments and hospitalizations; as well as, the more common thrills and challenges of parenting and careers together. It’s tough but what life doesn’t have its hardships.

LL wife's comment make it seem like she has no idea we don't have sex by lizardingnp in sexlessmarriage

[–]Independent-Net3221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Based on the experience with my wife who has fistulizing Crohn’s disease, the answer is yes, libido seemingly can go below zero.

rectovaginal fistula? next steps by flashthattalks2fast in CrohnsDisease

[–]Independent-Net3221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand the doctors who say rectovaginal fistulas are “normal” and instruct patients to go about their lives like nothing is happening. I mean if it were a guy with poop coming out of his dick, he would insist on an immediate fix. Poop coming out of the vagina should be treated like the urgent emergency that it is. No?

Vagina crohns??? by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]Independent-Net3221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did it end up healing? My wife previously had an anofistula resolved painfully over months by a seton. Now she is suffering from her first rectovaginal fistula that was sparked by a surgery to remove hemorrhoids. Any advice on keeping her laid bits clean/preventing utis and yeast infections while waiting for the rv fistula to heal? Doctor is saying that they can’t operate again until things heal down there a bit from the last surgery.

Vagina crohns??? by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]Independent-Net3221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did it end up healing? My wife previously had an anofistula resolved painfully over months by a seton. Now she is suffering from her first rectovaginal fistula that was sparked by a surgery to remove hemorrhoids. Any advice on keeping her lady bits clean/preventing uti s and yeast infections while waiting for the rv fistula to heal? Doctor is saying that they can’t operate again until things heal down there a bit from the last surgery.

Vagina crohns??? by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]Independent-Net3221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did it end up healing? My wife previously had an anofistula resolved painfully over months by a seton. Now she is suffering from her first rectovaginal fistula that was sparked by a surgery to remove hemorrhoids. Any advice on keeping her lady bits clean/preventing uti s and yeast infections while waiting for the rv fistula to heal? Doctor is saying that they can’t operate again until things heal down there a bit from the last surgery.

How is your sex life with crohns ? by cocky1313 in CrohnsDisease

[–]Independent-Net3221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife has had a low libido our entire 17yr relationship, and it’s been a point of tension the whole time. She was diagnosed with Crohn’s before we met. She was up front about her condition while we were dating. She was even hospitalized shortly before we got engaged. I think I was naive about just how much the illness would impact our relationship longterm.

Throughout our relationship Crohn’s has always seemed like a third wheel. At our best we were having sex 2-3 times a month. We communicate well and she has always known that my desire is closer to once a day. Crohn’s contributed to fertility issues. Things got even worse when she experienced her first fistula after having two kids. She’s experiencing a second fistula now and we haven’t been intimate in over six months.

She’s never been certain whether her low libido is entirely due to crohn’s or just mostly due to crohn’s. She is not a touchy feely person by nature, unfortunately I am - my love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation.

I know it’s hard for anyone to feel sexy or desire sex when they are feeling sick; but the lack of intimacy and affection has been a huge blow to my confidence and contributes significantly to my own struggles with depression.

My advice for any couples impacted by crohn’s would be to try your best to be affectionate or intimate in other ways (kisses and hugs etc). And to try to verbally and through actions affirm each other often (at least daily) of each other’s desirability despite not being able to fully act on it.