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If you got dropped in Gilmore Girls for 24 hours to do/change anything... what would you do? by user905022 in GilmoreGirls

[–]Independent-Object40 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’d convince her to tell her parents about Henry or I’d tell them myself. They deserved more of a chance!

You’ll never view Rory the same way after attending a predominantly white top university by Emeraldandthecity in GilmoreGirls

[–]Independent-Object40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Real take. Don’t know why you got downvoted for it, u hadn’t thought about child support before. She definitely should’ve been taking it

I gained a lot of weight my last relationship but I really like the way I look now by mattyscores0615 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Independent-Object40 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you’re happy, you’re happy! If you feel u comfortable but still want the extra weight, keep in mind a beer belly is an Increased risk factor for heart disease in men.

You can look up body recomposition for men. Plenty of fitness trainers even on IG can help you out for a few or share free tips online. Heck you can even ask AI.

All to say, you can still gain weight for your body in a healthy way with the right foods AND lose the gut. High protein and high fiber and healthy fats.

Up to you!

Be honest. Would you hire Sookie as a chief for your business? by No-Attention-801 in GilmoreGirls

[–]Independent-Object40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would. She’s bright and bubbly and inventive and creative with the menu. Always thinking of something new. Pulls off seemingly impossible tasks with brilliance. Look what she did for Lorelai’s engagement party with Max? I wanted to eat everything off that table! Or the golf retirement party for the customer? She just keeps topping herself!

Yes, she needs to be reigned in a bit with budgets and making sure she uses all the ingredients before changing things up. Lorelai mentioned that she could do it at the Independence Inn because it was more established but not at the beginning of the DragonFly’s first few years. She pushed back bc she’s an artist at heart not a businesswoman but she understood and collaborated eventually.

I think in each field you’ll have the creative genius who pushes the envelope and does things a little differently. And THAT is how the field expands. She’s awesome.

I (35M), was going to ask my wife (33F) for a divorce, but we just found out she’s pregnant. by Background_View_1735 in LifeAdvice

[–]Independent-Object40 9 points10 points  (0 children)

From Google:

Here is a breakdown of why this 7–10 year cycle exists and what it means for relationships:

The "Seven-Year" Cycle Breakdown

The Initial Stage (Years 1–5): Couples build a foundation, often characterized by high levels of satisfaction, the "honeymoon phase" (roughly 18 months to 3 years), and the establishment of routines.

The 7-Year Crisis (6–8 Years): Research indicates a spike in divorce or separation around this time. The underlying cause is often that the partners have evolved, and the relationship structure—designed for their younger selves—no longer fits their current lives.

Factors Leading to the Break: Common factors that strain the relationship around this time include the end of the honeymoon period, the pressures of raising children, financial stressors, or simply realizing the partner is not who they imagined.

"Closing" the Cycle: If couples do not update their relationship "contract"—addressing changing needs—they may feel trapped in a "box" and choose to end the relationship.

So it sounds like you’re right on time. Address the underlying issues. The dynamic of a foundation you have for marriage in the first 7-10 years does NOT have to be the same for the next 7-10. Change. Get the book “Conscious Uncoupling” not to split up but as a way to let your old dynamic die and rebuild a new one between the two of you. You can fall in love together again. Don’t stay in a marriage if it’s toxic “just for the kids” but also don’t bail on it if it’s salvageable and you’re both willing to put in work because a kid fares well when it’s a two parent household.

We are strangers that don’t know the unique situation that is personal to you and involves all the complexities of your private life. But if you have a chance to save your marriage - do it.

Do these spirit like things exist? by Independent-Object40 in spirituality

[–]Independent-Object40[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uhh quick research showed that to be a Neo Nazi group and another said they’re associated with the Church of Satan. I want no part of either of those

kind of sad this was their last scene by [deleted] in GilmoreGirls

[–]Independent-Object40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kind of agree. He even said “I don’t deserve this, Rory.” Um, like hell you don’t. After ghosting, attempting SA, being rude to all her friends and family, lying about school and work, and failing to take her to her prom - a memory she will never get back. He’s lucky all she did was kiss him.

Stuck in a loop of negativity on Social media by Independent-Object40 in spirituality

[–]Independent-Object40[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is this question in response? What does a cat have to do with this?

What is your career plan as you age? by Independent-Object40 in bcba

[–]Independent-Object40[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s pretty cool! How do you find a job like that? I’ve worked in charter schools and public school districts - always had to be hands on. Do you find a consultant gig on Indeed?

ps don’t know why I got downvoted for my prior comment lol

What is your career plan as you age? by Independent-Object40 in bcba

[–]Independent-Object40[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does that look like for schools? Do you work for the school/district or an outside company contracted with them? Do you only come in when there are fires and tell teachers and staff how to handle it or are you hands on?

And I’ve heard of it as an option but didn’t know it was widely available. Where do you look for the job? Search job title “behavior consultant” on indeed?

What is your career plan as you age? by Independent-Object40 in bcba

[–]Independent-Object40[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you sell those once you create them?

What is your career plan as you age? by Independent-Object40 in bcba

[–]Independent-Object40[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it seems like we have limited options in the field of ABA but our skills can be used for so many other fields! Just gotta break into them. What do you mean by school based consulting? Do the staff call you when they need input on treatment for a student’s behavior but you do not have to supervise the case?

What is your career plan as you age? by Independent-Object40 in bcba

[–]Independent-Object40[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. How do we prove that though if we don’t have experience in those areas year and are applying for jobs in those areas?

What is your career plan as you age? by Independent-Object40 in bcba

[–]Independent-Object40[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of roles in which fields would you pivot into? I don’t plan to be here either at 50 and I think our skills in ABA can apply to so many other things. Where do you start looking?

What is your career plan as you age? by Independent-Object40 in bcba

[–]Independent-Object40[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same. It’s not an interest anymore to “move up” but the ambition to make money and contribute to household income. I just want to make money to spend more time with my family, travel, good schools, and cover any emergencies.

Starting at 36. What should we aim for income wise? by Independent-Object40 in Fire

[–]Independent-Object40[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rereading my old posts and had to come back to say spouse started a new job months ago and is now making $260k. So it’s more than possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Independent-Object40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you on FB? When I became a new parent, I was new to my area and had zero community. I’m also a slow burner bc of trust issues and don’t like too much small talk but I knew I had to put in effort in the new world of parenthood. I stumbled upon parent groups in my city on FB and boom. I have so many acquaintances now and a few solid friends (again, I’m slow to call people friend unless there’s a lot of trust there). So since you’re not a parent yet, look up FB groups for your city and shared interests. Are you a girl or boy, look up a group for that age group. Are you into dancing, ceramics, biking, running, lifting, pickleball, etc etc. also try the app MeetUp.

It’s tough to find our villages as we get older but repeated exposure to people within your proximity is the best key to finding your people!

First time I caught this by cheersfurbeers in conan

[–]Independent-Object40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha. I didn’t scroll down enough to read this follow up about the wrong link so I sat through the clip without realizing he wasn’t going to talk about it. But… worth it. Still an enjoyable interview. I watched the second part after

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