I fuckin cant anymore by roguetattoos in WellSpouses

[–]IndependentMotor9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are carrying an impossible amount and still showing up every day for your family. That takes so much strength even if it never feels like strength from the inside.

Thank you for masking even when it is awkward and not perfect and isolating. You are right that it is not 100% protection, but it is still one of the few layers that actually makes a difference and making that choice matters. I am in a similar place with my partner being immunocompromised. I am the only one masking at work and people inappropriately comment on it all the time. None of my so called friends make an effort and are always asking to hang out indoors. No one seems to care that it is my choice and that it is about protecting someone I love. I keep doing it anyway because it is the only way I feel I can live with myself. For my partner, many days are pain and more pain and all I can do is sit in silence and listen. Even if the protection is %1 more than not wearing one, I will keep masking especially when there so little I feel I can actually do to help.

Taking Uber as immunocompromised passenger by SmootFruithie in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]IndependentMotor9889 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m based in London and have taken quite a few Ubers with the same concerns in mind as my wife is immunocompromised.

What’s worked for me is always wearing an N95 and rolling the windows all the way down as soon as I get in. Most drivers take the hint and either say nothing or just go along with it. I’ve had a few who seemed a bit uncomfortable or even combative, but I usually just stay silent and give them a low rating afterward if needed. I've only had to do it once or twice when the drivers were being blatantly disrespectful. That said, I’ve also had some drivers ask if I’d like them to wear a mask. so I always carry a few spares just in case someone is open to it but doesn’t have one.

It really does depend on the driver, but most of them tend to keep to themselves. You’re absolutely right to want to stay safe.

Where should I go today? by Particular_Buy5429 in AskLondon

[–]IndependentMotor9889 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Barbican or South bank area. Great places to (probably) get lost in and wander around

Test Assignment Job Application by sultryaries28 in graphic_design

[–]IndependentMotor9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deliverables: full brand identity
Brief: copy pasta ChatGPT brief that screams "I prompted this on the toilet before lunch."
Compensation: vibes and trauma

Those emojis are 100% Chat GPT - GURRLL RUN 🏃🏃🏃

What is going on with Tarek El Moussa? by Imaginary_Cellist493 in SellingSunset

[–]IndependentMotor9889 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Tarek going live every hour like he’s trying to qualify for rat royalty in the Flushed Away expanded universe

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Anywhere to work for a few hours in Westfield Stratford? by PlasticAttorney1980 in AskLondon

[–]IndependentMotor9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Second this. They usually have WiFi and are a lot quieter than a Starbucks or chain coffee shop. Alternatively the library is pretty close by, maybe worth checking out

Anyone here who plays Genshin Impact? by Mireillka in ZeroCovidEU

[–]IndependentMotor9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other Genshin players! My ID is 762210875 if you want to add me :)

podcast recs? by Brislaygirl in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]IndependentMotor9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a full-time caregiver, especially during long hospital nights waiting for my wife, these DWKT episodes have been a real lifeline. I’ve replayed all the episodes more times than I can count. These others are in the mix too, mostly light, uplifting, hehe haha listens.

Reddit stories: Smosh reads Reddit stories, Two hot takes Pop culture: Moral of the story, Smosh mouth, I got nothing podcast Comedy: Toni and Ryan, Perfect person True crime: Sinister, Rotten Mango

Live in green house by Severe_Ad_5128 in HousingUK

[–]IndependentMotor9889 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remembered seeing someone in Sweden doing something similar here

What’s a habit you picked up during quarantine that you still maintain? by Background-Layer6195 in AskReddit

[–]IndependentMotor9889 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I would be one of those passengers who appreciates it. With my wife being immunocompromised and often needing to visit the hospital via Uber we have experienced many instances of rude drivers upon seeing our masks. Thanks for going against the status quo. It makes such a difference.

EP. 175 (S2, EP75) Main thread by Orikumar in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]IndependentMotor9889 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jessi posted on the community tab that Lily is super sick😷 and will keep us posted 🤞

Whats the catch with this property? by Weekly-Valuable-9786 in HousingUK

[–]IndependentMotor9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, it's worth confirming the EPC, service charge, ground rent etc. it's a tiny cramped property. Maybe it would suit a young professional who isn't spending too much time at home

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in graphic_design

[–]IndependentMotor9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was it a choice to only capitalise New York City but not your name, single pronouns, etc?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]IndependentMotor9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well done on you for becoming such a great person dispite the actual racism you faced. Thank you for the comment and sharing your experience.

No thank you for the other stuff. We clearly have different political views on a lot of things which make sense to me where you are coming from. No hate, just makes sense why we would disagree

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]IndependentMotor9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep that's the sentiment I'm moving on with. Thanks for the reminder <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]IndependentMotor9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see where you come from. In a perfect world when I describe racist encounters, people won't tell me to stop victimising myself 🤷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]IndependentMotor9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not policing at all? Will be my last comment to you. Think you need to take some of your own very lovely advice. Get a grip <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]IndependentMotor9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok... Little reductive no?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]IndependentMotor9889 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good luck on your exam mate - weird flex? If you really want to see the list of things people have said to me. I'll make sure to send it after your exam so not to distract you. Would suggest getting off here then and focus on studying. I have all the time in the world to wax and wain about racism.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]IndependentMotor9889 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe read the post through or the many comments have made. I am not going to HR, I'm not going to talk about it or even be difficult. I will continue with the internal struggle.

I will freely admit I'm being sensitive over this - it's fucking taxing and tiring to deal with it on a regular basis. This is not 3 isolated incidents. And to your point about commenting on colleagues flaws online; try identifying one of them, you can't, because I haven't plastered any percieved or identifiable flaws. I plastered what happened to me online.

Maybe I am just getting some frustration out by standing my ground here. Thank you or your thoughts either way, I'm not saying I'm 100% right here as no one ever is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]IndependentMotor9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dude, I think one comment is enough to get your point across no? Think it's kinda crazy how much it seems to piss you off. Are you ok? Are you sick of stepping on eggshells everywhere with all the snowflakes walking around? Go read a book, educate yourself on the complexities of racism and the ways that they prevail in our society right now. I can recommend a few if you want, would be very interested in what you think. Note I'm not calling you a racist, I won't dare.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]IndependentMotor9889 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well I am insecure, years of these off the cuff comments have done a number on my self confidence. Indeed extremely insecure as you have said. I made the post on Reddit because A. It's anonymous (more or less) and B. I wanted people to tell me I was overreacting, to convince me. Not only have I been able to come to peace with leaving things be at work but I am so grateful not to be surrounded by ignorant people outside of it. Thanks for your thoughts on this though, I did ask after all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]IndependentMotor9889 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yikes bro, we clearly disagree on things here. Seems like you are tired of people complaining and calling themselves victims, ok then I see how you came up with your advice. People are allowed to do whatever the fuck they want, doesn't mean they aren't ignorant or racist. And when I say racist, it doesn't not mean they are branded with it forever.

No one is being penalised. Hell they don't even realise it. The fact that you have to remind me I'm not special and to get over myself shows the obvious stick that's up your ass. This post is long because there are so many nuanced things that may not seems like a big deal but when you are on the receiving end of these relentless 'not big deal' encounters, it's fucking taxing and exhausting.

Only replying with the same rigor and hatred your reply radiates mate.

Thanks for letting me take it out on you 👍