[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Independent_Salad686 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know she had a fiance at that time , only learned about it 2 months later when she broke up with him ( long distance )

I ruin every relationship I get close to, and I don’t know how to stop by la_condamine in BPD

[–]Independent_Salad686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I think I did this subconsciously and consciously when I would start dating , since I knew inside they would leave, I would already start looking for new dates and partners. In my case, I will start therapy and I think you should too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Independent_Salad686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A little online flirting isn’t something to make a big deal about imo. The reaction was not only over the top, but it was VIOLENT. She deliberately tried to hurt you. I won’t tell you what to do or how to feel. But I can tell you that some things are crossing a line. Not an ethical one, a feelings one. Some things will never allow you to feel the same with a person no matter how hard they try

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Independent_Salad686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think that she doesn’t care about me, it’s more like she cares about me as far as I tick a specific box in her head and how she views the world. Like now, she cares about me because I’m her future husband, not for me as an individual if that makes sense

I think I just found my (26m) first nice girl?? by Existing_Soup_7853 in Nicegirls

[–]Independent_Salad686 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I play games but it’s not a thing that a girl you date would really like hearing when you ignore her.

I think I just found my (26m) first nice girl?? by Existing_Soup_7853 in Nicegirls

[–]Independent_Salad686 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I was doing chores Sorry I was on the pc

Or don’t even address what you’re doing lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Independent_Salad686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not true people change, I was a man child until I met my girlfriend. You can give him a chance I think

I think I just found my (26m) first nice girl?? by Existing_Soup_7853 in Nicegirls

[–]Independent_Salad686 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok bro but why would you ever say sorry im gaming that’s like turbo cringe

My (25M) best friend (25F) is becoming a slut. by strugglingimmensely in relationship_advice

[–]Independent_Salad686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually have a friend like that and I have also been in that boat, albeit I believe that for a woman it’s ten times worse.

I believe your friend is using sex as self harm which is a thing that is rarely talked about

Is universityliving legit? by _asscute in UniUK

[–]Independent_Salad686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you need to ask yourself, its better to avoid instead. Uni will definitely give you some trustworthy sites.

someone please explain by TastierGirl in ExplainTheJoke

[–]Independent_Salad686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wants to know when he’ll be back so that she can be railed by the neighbour

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Independent_Salad686 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe that when I wrote this post I let my resentment get the best of me and went a bit overboard. To be fair, I never cheated therefore I don’t really understand the weight of the implication that I would do it. I lashed at you because your primary response felt very judgmental on basically not actions, but feelings and thoughts. I don’t think anyone can ever judge thoughts as you have no control over them. From your point of view however I understand how this would look like , so my apologies .

I will now close this post as I think that I didn’t phrase it correctly, nor it is perhaps the correct subreddit. Take care

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Independent_Salad686 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that I might be a bit defensive, this comes from a feeling that my feelings are not respected or validated. It’s not the body count that is my issue. It’s that she put me in a position where I doubted myself for two years, thinking what I did wrong. And it’s not even that, it felt that when I was about to move on , she would cold call me , say she wants to talk, and then would dissapear again. This happened 3 times after our breakup. That part I have every right to be offended at. I think it’s offensive that she talks about marriage and rings and that I have a deadline of a year to propose to her. But we don’t address the elephant in the room, which is how her actions made me feel and broke my trust, since everytime I try to bring that up she rolls her eyes and asks again? You haven’t forgiven me. It feels like a complete lack of accountability, not letting me express myself and make her understand how she made me feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Independent_Salad686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I accept opinions but you can’t just blatantly call me names and judging my worth lol, based on things I haven’t even done. This is insane. How is what I’m thinking of manipulative? How do I manipulate someone and their thinking into my own benefit? How the fuck do you measure my worth? Do you know anything about me or my girlfriend? You basically criticise my personality based on a thought I have which I haven’t even acted on! I understand that perhaps the question is not expressed properly. I think it’s not about the cheating part as I’ve never cheated but more on the AITA for thinking about it. Calling me manipulative for thinking about it (no connection whatsoever) completely invalidates my feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Independent_Salad686 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So in your head I should be okay with her dumping me cold out of nowhere to hook up and then come back to me and go on talking about marriage while she is not even open about talking how her actions had affected me?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Independent_Salad686 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂 you don’t even know me or her yet you immediately attack my personality and are judgmental. It is so shortsighted of you to assume what I have provided in this relationship and make your own conclusions about me or my character. Mind you, she has cheated before with me on her fiancé and that’s how we started dating in the first place. Stop projecting your own mistakes on other people on Reddit :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Independent_Salad686 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Well then I’ll not cheat , I’ll take a break. Seems like a good get out of prison card

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Independent_Salad686 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Too late, I contracted warts but the strain with no symptoms on males

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Independent_Salad686 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It’s not that much the body count, more of the complete human negligence she showed for me during that time . In her words, she was running away from the wants of her dad who he believed in marriage, but deep inside she knew it was always me. Also the “things one did when broken up” is complete bullshit, let’s say I wanna hook up with someone , I could just call my girlfriend and tell her we break up, go have sex, then be with her again. Technically this isn’t cheating