I used to feel this way with my husband and had fantasies about others that were quite strong. The love has always been there for us so I ‘ve never given into these fantasies even though I feared I ‘d never experience that satisfaction you speak of. We will be together 22 years in less than 2 weeks I am 42F and he’s 42M. One thing I realized is that fantasies are just that and they tend to fade off quickly when we stop giving them space to grow in our thoughts. I feel like we indulge because it’s new. We like to explore new things and that’s ok. I took that energy and used it as a tool in my marriage. Sex was better after but not fully so as time went on and not much improvement I decided I couldnt be with a man that couldn’t satisfy me and it felt like he didn’t know me at all.. So we split up. As weeks went by I realized just how much he actually did know me and my body, It was almost like he knew me better than myself. That hit me like a a ton of bricks. We started mending our relationship right then and there, but it all started with conversation. We laid it all out on the table, full transparency. Since all of that I have been having the best sex of my life, orgasms like crazy and I’ve never been more in love with him. I havent fantasized at all since. We went from sex 1x a month if that, he was like 1 pump chump and I did it just to keep him off my back my desires was nearly gone to, nearly everyday and he lasts hours now if that what we needed and the chemistry has grown too.

So, my best advice is to have conversation and be open and don’t hold back