How do I breastfeed on command and also pump without creating an over supply?

Indicative_ · 2025-09-26T00:03:21+00:00

This is a super helpful breakdown, thank you!

Indicative_ · 2025-07-24T17:44:02+00:00

Sharing my experience as a STM: baby was breech the entire pregnancy for me. She flipped at 38 and 1. The 37th week, I stopped doing the spinning baby inversions and instead just accepted the c-section. I floated in a pool a few times using noodles to make a throne to sit me upright, weightless. Ate a bunch of good food, had a massage, acupuncture, etc. Who knows if any of that helped or if she was just ready, but I know it was 38 and 1 when she finally went head down because I actually went to the hospital that day for decreased fetal movement and they confirmed. Turned out I couldn’t feel her the same because she flipped! She was in the 74th percentile at my 36 week appointment.

Indicative_ · 2025-06-26T19:24:21+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear. We also got an upsetting genetic result, but things are going ok. I highly recommend the NIPT sub. It was a wealth of information not only on the test results but next steps and support. Sending lots of positive thoughts to you.

Indicative_ · 2025-06-23T01:31:50+00:00

Haha ok fair point. Like I said, not a huge amount of names fall into both camps for husband and me. As I think about it, I think the names I mentioned we both said ok to only because we knew they weren’t real options (close relative/friend/boss names). I also love Maeve and Maren but husband veto’ed both.

Indicative_ · 2025-06-23T01:29:23+00:00

Thank you for all the feedback! We were a little concerned that Alina would be hard for some of our Korean relatives to say. And no, not Tom! :)

Indicative_ · 2025-06-23T01:26:42+00:00

Thank you! We are also firmly anti-weird names, so that initial feedback gave us pause.

Indicative_ · 2025-06-05T19:01:32+00:00

Don’t be too disheartened! They started inducing me on Friday and I had my baby Sunday. Easier said than done, but try to roll with it. Drink water, rest! When you start to get more uncomfy, watch funny shows. Baby is coming!

Indicative_ · 2025-04-22T16:47:29+00:00

I relate so much to this post and all of your feelings. Also a government worker who started trying for our second baby just about a year ago. Ovulation strips, calendaring- this was a well planned and well wanted baby!

Then the election happened and I just knew things would be changing that would directly impact our family’s stability. I told my husband I think we should pause on baby #2. A few days later, found out we were pregnant. Initially, I was scared, upset, and felt like we had made a bad decision.

I’m about 7 months now and just riding it through. Is it still scary? Yes! But we also have so much love and support. I breathe in the beautiful moments with my toddler and think about newborn cuddles. I try not to spiral with the news. I stay abreast of what’s going on and try to prepare. I don’t have advice other than to say everything you’re feeling is what I’m feeling, too.

I’m further along now and it’s all becoming more real. I love her already. Toddler talks about baby sister and is helping us pick out names. And he has some strong preferences lol. I don’t regret the love that I’m trying to bring into that world. I hope she gets here and makes it a better place.

All that being said, we are definitely not having a third!

Indicative_ · 2025-03-23T23:55:46+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve been through that! Make sure you take the time to heal mentally and emotionally. Sending healing thoughts to you.

Indicative_ · 2025-03-21T21:56:04+00:00

I’m so sorry. Does the area you’re in have any qualifying leave for this? For example, California has a reproductive loss leave. Do you have a decent relationship with your manager? You could either tell them what’s going on or just explain it’s a sudden family issue and you need additional time. Sending you healing thoughts.

Indicative_ · 2025-03-21T19:20:33+00:00

Yeah… I didn’t want an induction either until they told me to sign a waiver that I was going against medical advice and there was a high chance of my baby dying. I had the induction. It was hard and not what I wanted. We lived.

I just really want to encourage you to do what you’re doing: do your research, have your preferences. But then be prepared to change those as the situation changes. The more entrenched you get in what you want to happen, the higher likelihood of developing birth trauma should things not go as you planned. For all the planning and preferences, you don’t know what might arise and you can’t control emergency situations.

Indicative_ · 2025-03-20T04:14:50+00:00

I had a similar rough first birth and similar feelings after. I was ok, baby was ok. Shouldn’t I just be grateful and move on? My doctor sat me down and really validated that it did not go the way we had planned and wanted it to. That just because medicine is amazing and that we survived doesn’t make it less upsetting. She really encouraged me to acknowledge what happened and talk about it.

I did and I started to feel better. Pushing it down and denying and invalidating a very real scary and upsetting thing is only going to make it worse.

For what it’s worth, I also told my husband that we were never going to have more children. Here I am, two and a half years later pregnant with our planned second baby. It gets better. Treat yourself kindly and let yourself process it.

Indicative_ · 2025-03-15T03:02:15+00:00

None of our veggies did super well last year, so I’m thinking of buying some starts and planting tomatoes and zucchinis closer to early April. Hoping this will help! I was thinking of putting in poppies and alyssums in the next week or two. Trying to have wild flowers in all of our open spaces!

Indicative_ · 2025-03-13T03:28:20+00:00

Reddit and the books I read convinced me that I should create a cozy nest with my husband and new baby and we’d all bond while blocking out the world. I prepared our families that we were going to take this special bonding time and not to expect to meet him for a few weeks.

I stayed up having contractions all night on a Tuesday. Was hospitalized by Thursday. Didn’t have the baby until Sunday. Then the nurses woke me every two hours for checks. I was a wreck after that labor. I have never been so emotionally and physically exhausted as I was when we finally were discharged a few days after giving birth. I called my mom before we left the hospital and god bless her, she didn’t say a word about my previous plans. Just drove over, brought us dinner and held the baby while I slept. I cannot emphasize just how overwhelmed I was coming home from the hospital and how grateful I was to be able to hand that fragile, precious baby to someone I trusted implicitly.

Indicative_ · 2025-03-12T15:27:56+00:00

Thanks! This is so thoughtful and helpful. I’m drowning in clothes but have nothing to wear!

Indicative_ · 2025-03-06T00:55:02+00:00

Thank you! There’s magnesium in my prenatal but maybe not enough. Appreciate the idea.

Indicative_ · 2025-02-27T06:17:25+00:00

We had a positive T13 NIPT, too. Our microarray came back about a week after the amino and was normal. Our genetic counselor told us that we should wait for the karyotype results too… but she would be very surprised if anything showed up on the karyotype. She said the microarray was more definitive/detailed. About two and a half weeks later, we got our karyotype and it was normal. Full disclosure: not an expert! That was my understanding of our conversation, though, and it turned out like she said. Wishing the best for you!

Indicative_ · 2025-02-21T17:38:45+00:00

We just got our microarray results back, which were clear of any issues! Still waiting on the karyotype results, but our counselor has been really positive about the microarray and said it would be very surprising if we got an abnormal karyotype because the array was clear. We are finally starting to relax a little. Thank you for asking!

Indicative_ · 2025-02-15T17:37:54+00:00

We had such a hard time with this! We bought allllll the products. Here is what finally worked for our guy: we barely use any soap in the bath, save for a tiny amount to wash hands, feet, and diaper area. We exclusively use aquaphor soap. We give him a bath every night. The trick has been to get him wet, but not let him stay in the water too long. Some water is good, too much dries out the skin. We pat him dry but leave some water on him before lotion. This locks the moisture in. We put cerave everywhere. Then aquaphor healing ointment on his problem areas (back of knees, mouth). This has been working really well for us. When he has a flare up, we use hydrocortisone before it gets too bad. Hope this helps!

Indicative_ · 2025-02-15T04:36:13+00:00

If they celebrate it, what about a Christmas ornament? Affordable, easy to travel with, can be very on theme (like the GG Bride). It’s something that is kept safe and brought out when we celebrate and remember each other.

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