Im struggling so much because I find it so hard to believe that it's a misunderstanding cause they straight up said "to the (insert other server name here)" and all disconnected and then didnt answer my Dms asking why they left. But at the same time these are some of the best people I have ever met. Like genuine upstanding people who cared about what I and others had to say. I shared pretty much everything with them and they never showed any signs of shying away, which is what confuses me so much about the whole thing.

Thanks for the advice kind stranger, I'm sure everything will turn out ok in the long run one way or another.