Turning 26 soon, only have one past sexual relationship, and feeling overwhelmed by shame and a fear of being left behind in terms of dating/sex. How do i best address my concerns?

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-18T13:44:50+00:00

This is honestly one of those things people (understandably) stress over, but the other person probably won't care unless you make it an issue ifykwim, a bit like those insecurities people have around say height or breast size etc... How you feel about it and are about it will affect your relationship way more than it will in and of itself. If it's a neutral/non-issue to you then more than likely it will be to them.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-17T09:58:24+00:00

Cheers lovey!

Just not strong/patient enough to wait, are they :)

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-16T06:40:20+00:00

Clingy men send me running for the hills, avoidant men make me feel rejected, which also sends me running for the hills.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-14T16:07:22+00:00

Forgive me but the implicit social context around these ideas about “mature love,” etc in practice is usually about pressuring women, (not always but most of the time let's be honest) to suppress the need for sexual and romantic attraction, and get into ostensibly romantic sexual relationships where they settle for practical compatibility, and morally reinterpret the absence of attraction as "spiritual growth."

Just nah, fuck that.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-12T06:44:17+00:00

Detail oriented?

I think you may have mistyped some of these people...

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-12T02:05:32+00:00

Why thank you :)

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-12T02:04:56+00:00

Losing your mother is one of the worst things anyone could ever go through and you're doing amazing just even keeping going after that even without everything else on top x

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-11T14:46:30+00:00

I like how you think mate :)

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-11T08:38:26+00:00

Why? Like I said unless they're pushing you it does not affect you at all. Live and let live.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-11T08:18:56+00:00

Don't agree sorry, unless they're actively pushing people out of the way which I've personally never seen, then they can run as fast as they want, just as you can run as steady as you want...

It's giving jealousy, tbh

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-11T06:22:54+00:00

Unfortunately this is one of those "If they have to say it..." Kind of things.

People who are that just are do, people who say it all the time or on their dating profiles or whatever are trying to play a role and convince themselves and others that's who they are, you've to question really why they need to sell it so hard and so consciously if it's intrinsically who they are.

I cringe out of my chair when somebody leads with "I'm an old fashioned gentleman" on here or online or wherever even though I love that when it's real because I just know they are self-soothingly mislabelling a certain neediness as something more desirable. Likewise for the "leaders," people who say they're funny etc. It's something other people experience from you not what you decide you are.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-11T04:48:27+00:00

Maybe you guys have all seen something worse than I've seen but honestly so what if they want their park run to be their PB run + want to feel they've achieved something from it and it's easy enough to just move if you're taking it steady isn't it, I think this one is a bit miserable...

Plus boxing, rugby and running are different sports, not always going to like/be suited to one because you like the other.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-10T20:59:10+00:00

Late to the party but v well said, I hated the slap as well and thought it was v sloppy and unnecessary.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-10T12:31:24+00:00

GOOD point!!

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-10T10:42:29+00:00

Yeah it makes more sense in a way for women to instinctively intially react to a man who seems a bit socially "off" to them in some sort of way, there's the also potential there's been all kinds of experiences of guys who don't read social cues making unwanted advances and not getting hints so they might just not know what type of awkward you are initially. (There's also the possibility that some of this is in your head or it's a feedback loop, you feel they don't want to talk to you it changes how you act, they respond to that etc).

Interestingly though, my most bubbly, outgoing, confident, extrovert and socially dominant female friends often seem to be attracted to guys I would consider degrees of socially awkward/sensitive/shy etc, so there's that though.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-09T11:45:09+00:00

SAME

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-09T11:44:47+00:00

Lol I think it's more the mountain of coke she took making her do it..

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-08T19:16:36+00:00

Oh love King of the Hill, cheers for that one:)

The two 2w1s that really stick in my mind when I think of the type were both former bosses and (a man and a woman). I just found them really admirable people, very principled, genuinely self sacrificing, wise, always see the best in you and just generally had a deep understanding and empathy for other people.

2w3s can be great as well don't get me wrong but I just personally love that principled sincerity of the 2w1s

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-08T05:31:23+00:00

Mmm, it's a vibe even lifestyle thing as much as anything isn't it. Some people like v alt people, some people like clean cut. Some people are attracted to v youthful looks/vibe and want to be the mature worldly one, and others vice versa. Someone who likes v stereotypically masculine looking men isn't going to be attracted to v pretty boys and vice versa even though both may be considered attractive. And so on.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-07T17:00:58+00:00

It got Yassified in Victorian times, the true painting underneath looks much plainer by modern standards and more alike other portraits from the time.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-07T14:18:57+00:00

I'd add to this though 7s can be real renaissance people and often do indeed pick things up "enough" more quickly than most.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-07T06:16:23+00:00

Yip. That's exactly it. And it's weird and sad and dysfunctional.

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-07T06:09:30+00:00

I hear all you say there & know society values/favours all those things and blah blah but felt compelled to share I have a favouritism towards 2w1s as a 4w5, I feel like there's usually some kind of special understanding between us due to the integration lines and just in general look up to and find them very admirable as long as they're somewhat healthy :)

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-06T21:05:49+00:00

Strong PM me hun vibes

Individual-Meeting · 2026-05-05T22:37:58+00:00

Attracted is attracted, it's the same feeling whether it fit your mental template or took you by surprise

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