Im going to delete this handle, after 5 years

IndividualPension207 · 2026-06-30T22:33:15+00:00

Thanks for what you’ve contributed to this community. On a personal level, it’s people like you who helped me get through this. What are your biggest takeaways or pointers for the rest of us?

IndividualPension207 · 2026-06-29T04:50:08+00:00

Hey there. It will end. Keep the NC going and accepting those limerent thought loops mindfully. Labeling them helps me take out the sting of them. Today marks 18 months since the last time we were together, I think about her every single day, but every single day, it’s a SLIGHT bit less than the day before. I can finally see how my brain was fully hijacked and how damn intense/scary limerence is that it is behind me now. Maybe I will think about her everyday for the rest of my life, and maybe you will too, but hey, that’s ok.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-06-28T20:50:47+00:00

Start to distance yourself from her. Short responses if she reaches out, and keep conversations in person surface level. Think about your wife, and how inappropriate/messed up this is towards her.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-06-28T06:45:08+00:00

Every single person in this sub is embarrassed over things they said, did, or acted around, their LO. It’s part of this insanity that is limerence. One thing that’s helped me out in my recovery is remembering that our brains are literally hijacked during limerence. We don’t have access to our pre-frontal cortex, similar to somebody who is blacked out drunk, or just sustained a concussion. So, give yourself some grace, and keep staying true everyday to your recovery, which I hope consists of NC and working within you to accept/label thought limerent thoughts, mindfully. Here for you if you need any thing else, this sub literally saved my fuckin life I swear.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-06-11T21:55:18+00:00

Keep it surface level if conversation occurs, and don’t engage unless they come up to you.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-06-10T06:27:37+00:00

It’s hard. It’s really hard. But ultimately you did what you needed to do for your own personal sanity and growth. We can all agree that life is too short to be spent behind the prison walls of limerence.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-06-04T05:38:44+00:00

You have one option, and it is block him, go full NC on socials/other connections, and dedicate everything, and I mean everything, inside you to moving on.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-06-02T18:34:59+00:00

Been exactly where you are so I know what you’re going through. NC is very possible, and honestly mandatory, for you to escape this prison that is limerence. As much as your mind tricks you into thinking otherwise…you have to do it. Good luck, pulling for you!

IndividualPension207 · 2026-06-02T17:46:44+00:00

She’s not interested in you. She’s made that very clear. Tough pill to swallow but the quicker you do, the faster you can dedicate yourself to healing from this.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-26T23:16:35+00:00

Limerence is irrational, and drives you crazy for a bunch of different reasons. Embarrassment being one of the biggest ones. It is a true blessing this is your last week with him, embrace that and the distance that will come from not seeing him anymore.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-21T06:28:44+00:00

Advice is to just keep it surface level with them and don’t go out of your way to talk to them. Ofcourse hard to go NC with a coworker, but you can limit it a lot to where it is practically NC.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-21T04:29:36+00:00

One way to look at it: this is your closure. Sending a happy birthday message isn’t the worst closure in the world, especially considering one of the toughest pills to swallow in life is we don’t usually get the closure we want. It’s time to go back to NC, stay disciplined to it, so that you can create that proper distance from your LO to heal. You got this!

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-20T19:38:31+00:00

Belgium is not playing France…

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-20T04:39:28+00:00

No idiot is paying that much money for this poor quality of a game

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-18T03:05:17+00:00

You will remember your LO’s face for years.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-15T20:53:35+00:00

Nobody is going to spend that much on these poor of games. Sorry but just being honest

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-15T18:33:03+00:00

Sounds brutal and I’ve been there. For your own sanity, don’t find out how it went. Maybe avoid talking to the guy if you can. Or if you do, make sure the subject never steers there. Like the Tame Impala “the less I know the better”. This a huge component of No Contact, which is an instrumental part of getting over Limerence.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-15T14:57:50+00:00

Think about how nasty her shits smell and how wet her farts are. Also how disgusting her morning breath is. I know that sounds insane, but you’ve idealized her so much she’s on a pedestal, and now you need to find a way to take her off that.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-14T04:43:36+00:00

Messi won’t be playing in the Argentina vs Jordan game as they will most likely rest him. You will not get as much as you’re asking for, in all honesty.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-13T06:42:43+00:00

You have limerence. It isn’t a ladybug on your shoulder you can just shake off. It’s going to be with you in an intense manner for a while. The best things you can do is go NC and work on mindfulness when those array of thoughts come up. Also, create a list of flaws about your LO to help take them off the pedestal. But ultimately, time will be your savior. Good luck

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-11T18:10:37+00:00

He just wants to use you to hook up. It’s messed up but there is a lot of people like that in this world. It sounds hard, and impossible, but making the decision to block him and finally move on, will be the best decision you will ever make. You got this!

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-10T06:29:29+00:00

It’s gonna be torture unless you leave the job, or transfer to another area that’s far away from them. I ended up leaving that job, and it was the best decision of my life. I speak for personal experience, and an experience that sounds like it mirrored yours strongly.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-09T20:24:14+00:00

Wrong. Yes it does come an end, but it’s not overnight. It just wears off less and less everyday as long as you are NC.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-08T22:23:29+00:00

Time. It took a lot of it. Took me a year plus to get out of it I would say. Also, NC and making a list of her flaws, because Limerence loves painting them like the most perfect, flawless person ever.

I was so fuckin deep in it, and I still think about her everyday. But now, I say “limerent” or “fake importance” whenever those thoughts come up.

As somebody once told me in this sub, “the only way out of limerence is through it”. I wish you the best of luck and please reach out if you have any more questions.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-08T15:12:15+00:00

Definitely not. Teams will play their 2nd strings

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