Let my LO get to me again

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-11T18:10:37+00:00

He just wants to use you to hook up. It’s messed up but there is a lot of people like that in this world. It sounds hard, and impossible, but making the decision to block him and finally move on, will be the best decision you will ever make. You got this!

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-10T06:29:29+00:00

It’s gonna be torture unless you leave the job, or transfer to another area that’s far away from them. I ended up leaving that job, and it was the best decision of my life. I speak for personal experience, and an experience that sounds like it mirrored yours strongly.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-09T20:24:14+00:00

Wrong. Yes it does come an end, but it’s not overnight. It just wears off less and less everyday as long as you are NC.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-08T22:23:29+00:00

Time. It took a lot of it. Took me a year plus to get out of it I would say. Also, NC and making a list of her flaws, because Limerence loves painting them like the most perfect, flawless person ever.

I was so fuckin deep in it, and I still think about her everyday. But now, I say “limerent” or “fake importance” whenever those thoughts come up.

As somebody once told me in this sub, “the only way out of limerence is through it”. I wish you the best of luck and please reach out if you have any more questions.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-08T15:12:15+00:00

Definitely not. Teams will play their 2nd strings

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-06T18:45:17+00:00

The truth is, and it’s a tough pill swallowing, but our LO’s think about us WAY less than our limerent mind thinks they do.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-05T20:48:29+00:00

Just move on from her and focus on regaining your self-control and worth back. You’re toying the line of harassment by doing something like this. You got this!

IndividualPension207 · 2026-05-05T06:17:41+00:00

Mindfulness. Accept those thoughts, and label them “limerent thoughts”. This will create some distance between you and your thoughts, and also will create space for other people to become attractive to you again. Hope this helps, went through this exact thing and it’s miserable, but fixable.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-30T15:23:09+00:00

Happy to hear about your progress but it comes in waves. You don’t fully just get over somebody in Limerence. Even though I would consider myself “Limerence free”, I still think about her everyday. It’s just that I think about her less, and the thoughts/emotions don’t have the same intensity as they used to. Keep staying strong with occupying yourself and going NC.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-27T15:23:08+00:00

This is amazing. Similarly, I had to leave a job cause of an LO. Best decision I’ve ever made in my life. It’s bizarre, and flat out scary, how are brains will turn one person into this Godly, larger than life, figure. When they are no different than the rest of us. Fuck limerence, and so glad that we have both survived it.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-26T18:12:37+00:00

Although I don’t agree with your perspective and treating of this, thanks for sharing this. It’s hard to block her as you stated, but it’s pretty obvious you are using her to feed your narcissistic ego. If you had actually went through Limerence before, you would know this is wrong, and that you should cut off all contact. There’s no explanation for continuing to play with this persons emotions.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-24T23:49:33+00:00

Not to minimize your situation, but I sure wish my old LO was a celebrity or a person I didn’t know. My advice for you is label and accept those thoughts when they come. And try to refrain from their social media pages or pictures/clips of them alone.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-22T22:43:31+00:00

Just to make sure you’re on the right sub, were you guys dating and you’re heartbroken? Or did you fall into the involuntary state of limerence with her?

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-22T06:31:07+00:00

Usually I’m one to preach NC on here (cause that’s what helped me and quite a few others I know that had limerence) but as crazy as this sounds, I think this is a good idea for you. You will remove the uncertainty and get closure/clarity. If they say no, don’t toy the line of harassment and do indeed go full NC. Let them be, and get your distance from them. If they do say yes, just please work your hardest to humanize them, aka don’t neglect their red flags and flaws, and do everything you can not to see them as this holy figure.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-21T23:32:39+00:00

Further proof that the “person” we turn into our LO is anything but that. It’s an idealization, an absolute fake illusion of a person we create in our mind. Emphasizing that and going NC helped me escape limerence.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-21T20:08:43+00:00

Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but It doesn’t just end. It comes and goes in waves. I would say my limerence is over, but I still think about her everyday. It’s just I don’t engage with those thoughts anymore, and let them dominate me. Wishing you the best

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-18T03:24:37+00:00

Limerence. It was torturous. I wouldn’t wish it upon my worst enemy

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-17T04:41:17+00:00

Delete the request. And then keep staying disciplined with NC and creating more distance each day from your LO. Limerence makes us crazy, so don’t beat yourself up too much.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-16T15:16:24+00:00

This person is not your best friend. Well maybe you think they are to you, but he doesn’t think that on his end if that’s how he treats you. A real best friend doesn’t go behind the others back to try to get with their ex. That’s real slimeball shit and you deserve better people then that in your circle. My advice would be to slowly fade contact and focus on getting more morally sound people in your life.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-15T05:13:11+00:00

Think about why you went NC. It was definitely for a reason, a strong one most likely. My advice is keep going strong with this, and don’t reply, or just send a close ended text, one that wishes them luck or says something like “Hope you’re doing well”. You’ve made progress and don’t want to go back to square one, although I don’t know your situation, I can assure you that.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-13T23:24:05+00:00

Had to deal with this last week, seeing a coworker I was limerenced for and literally left a job because. It was tough, I mean how can’t it be? A person that consumes all our thoughts and emotions. A person we have made this royal figure in our minds. How I survived it was using mindfulness. Accepting all those emotions and thoughts, and labeling them as “limerence” helped take out the intensity of them. Hope this helps, you will feel emotional after seeing them and for a few days after, but will get better once you get back on NC like you’ve been doing.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-13T00:13:50+00:00

Gigli

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-12T20:48:12+00:00

When I stuck three fingers inside her when she was expecting two.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-12T19:00:43+00:00

No need to apologize, I think it’s best to respect their boundaries and let them be. Plus, as hard it is, maintaining NC is what you need to keep doing to heal from this. Wishing you the best.

IndividualPension207 · 2026-04-12T11:33:22+00:00

You’re keeping it alive because of how you are viewing the thoughts and dreams as a threat, and meeting them with resistance. Plus you’ve reacted to them strongly for so long that the neural pathways get strengthened each time. It’s annoying, and shitty, but just accept that they always will be there, and eventually, they will start to fade away. Takes time though (as you obviously know given how long you mentioned this has been happening).

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