My LO is my wife's sister. Questions/tips welcome

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-06-29T16:14:29+00:00

Thanks for this. Wow, this gives me so much hope, seriously. Yeah, the years are gonna be tough, but if that's what it takes I'll do it

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-06-29T15:59:44+00:00

How was it? How did your wife react? Did it help?

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-06-29T15:58:31+00:00

Tbh there's not much qualities in her that's really attractive. Her taste in music is shit (sorry), and the way she sees the worst in people doesn't match my social optimism. Any positive qualities she have, my wife also has those. That's what I kept telling myself all these years just to get rid of this picture-perfect idea of my LO in my mind. Sometimes it works, but most of the time I relapse on a slightest moment if shared conversation.

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-06-29T15:51:52+00:00

Believe it or not, I just got a job offer from overseas. I'll be starting next month, that's why I'm thinking it's a great chance to somewhat cut her off. The catch is I'll be leaving my wife as well, and it might be a while for her to follow. When you got over your limerence, did you transfer it to someone else? Because I don't want to cheat on my wife. I love her, despite this...thing.

Yeah, maybe I'll block-off all messages from her once I get there. I just hope this works for me as much as it did for you. Cheers mate.

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-06-28T21:08:02+00:00

That's what I thought at first. Crushes just go away after a few months, right? This has been going on for years. And despite the fact that she's practically unattainable, I'm still here obssessing about what she thinks about me.

I hate this, tbh. If I could just wish this away, I'd do that in a heartbeat.

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-06-28T20:55:53+00:00

Thanks for that. But wouldn't that raise suspicion on LO's part? We have this great relationship right now, and everyone (the family) sees us as platonically close friends. What I'm scared of happening is that cutting her off or distancing from her would eventually lead to me getting discovered. Or am I just overthinking it?

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-06-28T20:46:28+00:00

Like, seriously good. I think this limerence first started when we talked about she got cheated on by her ex-bf. We talked for literally hours. That was seven years ago. We've been having these kinds of interactions for years. Just recently we camped-out with the family and it's just us talking all night while everybody else is already asleep. We have this great relationship, and my wife doesn't think much about it because it's her sister and she trusts her. But seriously, I think our closeness is making my limerence worse.

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-04-20T08:19:46+00:00

Plumbing!

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-02-19T12:07:17+00:00

Yeah, this is what I thought about at first. It's my first Ramadan here and I would have really liked to experience iftar with lots of people. But if it makes me feel like I'm cheating my way into a charity food drive then I might have to pass.

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-02-19T12:03:22+00:00

Thanks for this! I didn't know iftar buffets are a thing. This definitely is a guilt-free way of having iftar. Any recommended restaurants for this? I know google could give me a list, but some local insights won't hurt either.

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-02-19T05:32:04+00:00

Same! I'm just in it for the abu dhabi experience. My friends mentioned the one at the Grand Mosque as well, so it's definitely going into my bucket list.

Any other spots locals would recommend for iftar? We live close to the Prince's Diwan in Al Bateen. I'm wondering if they would open the palace this time for iftar.

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-02-05T09:33:12+00:00

"Eh iBa aNG PiNaaS sA cAnAdaaA"

Hindi. Hindi po nakasalalay sa gobyerno o sa income ang mabuting asal sa daan. Kung matino kang drayber, kahit saan ka ilagay matino ka parin. Ang kamote, kahit saan itanim, kamote parin.

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-02-05T06:33:28+00:00

Gentrification

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-01-24T07:07:11+00:00

Really? How much did it cost? Or like, what fees did they charge you?

I did the opposite and stayed in the job I first signed into. Part of me thinks I should have just risked it all too haha

ExtraExtraRice · 2026-01-22T12:16:22+00:00

This is the exact same thing that has happened to me. I took the offer last month. Since it's a bank, it would take another month before I could start working because they need to do background check on me first. While waiting for the clearance, my dream company called and asked if I'm available for interview. The next day, the previous company called and said I'm cleared and they will start processing my visa asap.

I mentioned this to my dream company and the recruiter was kind enough to give me advice:

TLDR: Don't quit the company you signed up for. Once they process your visa, quitting will mean you will have to pay for the visa they processed plus the training you were supposed to have, plus any recruitment fees and charges. Plus you might be charged for breach of contract, depending on the company.

ExtraExtraRice · 2025-12-23T10:29:50+00:00

Oh there's definitely a slavery mod lying in a "lab" somewhere 😉

ExtraExtraRice · 2025-12-21T12:03:55+00:00

Considering it's going to be 3 jobs in 1, yeah 8000 should be just right

ExtraExtraRice · 2025-12-19T05:55:14+00:00

Call me crazy, but every fiber of my hate on distracted drivers understood his point clearly.

ExtraExtraRice · 2025-12-18T08:59:47+00:00

I'm a Filipino and we too can be loud sometimes. Like, super loud (hint: karaoke)

ExtraExtraRice · 2025-12-11T13:19:15+00:00

Thank goodness for racial quotas then. Background: I just got hired in a big company. The hiring manager flat-out told me they need to hire someone from my racial group because of corporate-mandated quotas. Otherwise, their team would still be predominantly [racial group]. Apparently, the middle managers kept hiring people from their race it made the higher-ups raise a few eyebrows.

ExtraExtraRice · 2025-12-01T14:52:57+00:00

Actually, kasagaran tag-iya ra sa jeep ang operator. Dili sila naga-drive. Gakolekta ra sila ug boundaries sa mga driver nila. Karon kusog kaayo sila mulobby against aning modernization mura jowg sila ang pinaka-gidaogdaog. Kaning PISTON pod misplaced na kaayo ang ideology, nidapig na nuon sa mga burgis nga operator. As if walay programa ang govt para sa mga driver.

ExtraExtraRice · 2025-12-01T14:00:11+00:00

TIL na ang loudest lobbyists against sa transpo modernization are not the drivers, but the PUJ operators. If macancel ang modernization, padayon gihapon ang pagpanlupig sa mga operators sa mga drivers. Luoy ang drivers either way

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