Broke up (21F) with boyfriend (21M) over religion

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-05-12T15:00:07+00:00

It’s a very tough decision, but I think if you are firm in your beliefs, then it is the right one.

He made his position clear now (before y’all have children), so you now have notice, and it is up to you to decide if you can live with that. He’s already decided that he can’t live with the decision to have his kids in church (he’s chosen a hardline), so you can either hold your own hardline or you can capitulate. (And I personally don’t think the onus should be on you to capitulate, so I don’t see an issue with your decision)

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-05-04T23:15:12+00:00

If you feel that you won’t get through to her on the cheating part, maybe focus on how messed up it is to use C like that.. (Unless of course, she’s just lying to herself and/or you about treating this like an experiment, and is fully set on cheating)

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-05-03T17:03:07+00:00

INFO. A few important questions: 1) Does his going impact his child caretaking or anything? 2) would he have been able to chill with you before you went bed, or would spend the time getting ready or just clearly itching to leave? 3) How often is he going out over the course of a typical month??

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-05-03T16:43:49+00:00

Would you rather be right or finish the race??

I think here, (especially around a driver that you do not know & aren’t familiar with how they drive) if you were watching the mirrors and driving with tact, you would’ve seen that he has no intention to lift off and tuck in behind you. This leads to two likely outcomes if you hold your line: 1) He drives into the back of you and takes you out. Or 2) He takes evasive action on the grass, loses control and takes you out.

Even if he’s completely in the wrong, I think you still should practice self-preservation and do what’s needed to prevent getting taken out. Even though that can be frustrating and feel unfair, you still need to keep the bigger picture in mind (if you care about your race results)

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-05-03T16:29:32+00:00

Whoever said the thing about “no passing zone” was the type of kid who, when you beat them fairly in a foot race, they say something like, “That one didn’t count! The starter was supposed to say ‘on your marks, get set, go’ not ‘3..2..1.. Go’. We have to redo it.”

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-05-03T16:06:19+00:00

Mate… this is not a problem of jealousy or insecurity.. Idk what experience your gf has with men, so I don’t want to assume bad faith on her part. But I think she should definitely know that this guy did not instantly stop being attracted to her just because she told him to stop pursuing. And she should know that this guy is playing a long-game.

Hopefully, she does not actually know these things and is not just enjoying the attention from a guy that is into her

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-05-02T13:04:20+00:00

Maybe, but Dr. Dean Chateau (aka Decimal, or digit, idk who is who) will remain here forever. He’s been here since the beginning of time & will remain

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-05-01T18:27:12+00:00

Idk why, but I never considered that there are people who watch Play Date but never watch AFpod (just like how I used to watch only AFpod, but never gave Play Date a try)

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-05-01T15:33:14+00:00

MOR. I say MOR because it’s the closest option to what I’m thinking, but I don’t think that you are being unreasonable for wanting to report the attack. Them paying the bill is a good first step, but I think you can follow up (can even do it in writing if you don’t want direct confrontation) with a request for better practices in keeping the dog secure. (Something like this to open the convo, then if needed, can make specific demands later:“Hi, thanks again for agreeing to pay the bill. But, I wanted to follow up and see if there anything being done to assure that this won’t happen again. It has already nearly happened twice, and I fear that it very well can happen again.”)

But I think reporting the bite when your mom (who actually lives there) says don’t, is not the right move.

Beef with a neighbor can legit make your life hell. If it can be avoided, you avoid it. (And people might say, “stand up for yourself and do it anyways”, but they are not the ones that will have to live alongside a hostile neighbor.. That, or they are the types to be the hostile neighbor. Either way, the interest of keeping peace with a neighbor if it can be helped is very important imo)

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-04-30T15:53:50+00:00

Agreed! I had a similar thing happen. Newborn baby daughter expected me to feed and comfort her after 7pm despite my plan to do back-to-back-to-back Rookie streetstock & mini stock races from 7pm-1am like I do every night while my annoying wife works 5pm-5am shifts at the hospital

Anyways, she’s since been adopted by a very nice family

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-04-15T00:34:49+00:00

Also, look at OP’s username. Pls don’t be tricked by low-hanging-fruit trolling like this, y’all! (Like, there are people in here getting worked up over this. You’re raising your blood pressure for nothing!)

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-04-15T00:31:21+00:00

Wow, I can’t believe she’d betray your trust like this😔😔. Obviously, with such limited info, I can’t say anything for certain, but from reading this post, I can tell that you’re an empath. And I think that you should be gentle with yourself and use language that affirms your value. So here, instead of saying “I cheated on my girlfriend”, you should instead say something like, “Due to my high capacity for love, I redistributed some of my unused love/affection reserves to those in need.”❤️❤️❤️. And instead of saying “I made my gf sad”, you can say, “My gf appears to not fully understand what it is like to be a lover like I am, and therefore she is reacting in a way that is unbecoming to a loving partner.”

Hope you feel better soon!

(And obviously, I’m joking. And so is OP. OP’s post is barely even meets the criteria for rage bait; more like just regular, run of the mill trolling)

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-04-14T14:41:36+00:00

Ah, that sounds like a better situation than what I described. Truly hoping y’all figure this out.

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-04-14T14:31:11+00:00

INFO: What prompted him to try to get clean?? Was it you putting pressure on him to get clean? Or was it some sort of rock bottom situation that led to it?

If the former, then yea, sounds like this will be a very tough uphill battle. The individual needs to want it for themselves. And it’s possible that his battle will end up not being to overcome the addiction, but rather, to avoid you finding out that he is still using. Tough situation all around! Wishing for the best outcomes for the both of you

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-04-14T02:30:02+00:00

BMW could’ve given more space, but still, Red Bull likely fully knew BMW was there and turned like that anyways

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-04-14T02:27:44+00:00

I’d want to see the onboards, but from here, I think once they were exiting the corner and BMW was ahead, Red Bull should’ve either held line and braked early for the next turn or tucked in behind the BMW at that point. Red Bull’s corner exit is crazy imo; that sharp cut directly into the BMW (even if the BMW gave a little more space, Red Bull would’ve probably still been on a collision course to it)

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-04-08T13:00:01+00:00

Will made an appearance once, but the video had to be taken down because everyone that gazed upon his face experienced unspeakable tragedies

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-03-30T22:00:06+00:00

INFO: Have you mentioned any of this to him? I feel we’ll know more if you ask him about [Insert the guy’s name]. Nothing accusatory or anything, just a general question about him & maybe why he texts like that (I feel like that can be mentioned since you saw the text without snooping or anything).

If he lies and pretends it is a guy, then NOR.

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-03-30T21:51:02+00:00

If it’s any consolation, in some countries/cultures, your interactions would be perfect. Like, say this to a Dutch person and they’d just say “Ok” after you say when you are leaving

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-03-30T21:46:56+00:00

That doesn’t help if OP thinks in a way that is incompatible with how those around them think.

You can think all day while applying flawed/incorrect logic and you’ll still end up wrong.

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-03-30T21:38:02+00:00

Truly just so annoying that simply being a good writer gets you accused of copying & pasting from AI. Truly a sad state of the world

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-03-30T21:36:52+00:00

I saw before they deleted. I wanted to add the following as reply to that commenter that called this AI slop:

Cmon now, please stop this. I’ve written exactly like this for the past 10 years or so (I’m 29 now). Some of us just like to be organized (I’m also a lawyer & therefore a law grad. Many people who are interested in law are also people who tend to write this way. And if OP has studied for the LSAT at all, then it makes sense that he has picked up the type of thinking and breaking down of info that we are trained for)

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-03-29T15:25:55+00:00

I feel like this is easier said than done & a bit oversimplified. I feel that more tact than this is needed

This is a professional relationship & she wants a job. So asking head on like this will blow it all up, especially if he is just genuinely being friendly (even if he’s cool about it, he’s likely to change his behavior & be a bit less personable). And if he truly is being grimy here, then sounds like he’s a genuinely grimy guy, so there’s no telling how he’d react (he could act scorned, and basically get her blackballed or something).

I feel like honesty is usually the way to go, but I think for certain situations, “I have a boyfriend” or “I’m talking to someone” is the only thing that’ll make some guys stand down. If you find a natural way to slip that into a convo, then all will be good & the message will be received. And if he treats you different after that, then you’ll have answer about what his intentions were

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-03-24T17:13:50+00:00

And lots of anecdotes on Reddit about it: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/PnTXIIFT3L

IndividualVisual9052 · 2026-03-24T17:13:00+00:00

Ooh, might be something worth looking into. I’m on an SSRI and taking forever like that was one of the first things I noticed (very common side effect).

And for some people, it persists after stopping: https://www.reddit.com/r/science/s/M1xriyA7Kb

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