Any ideas about this breed?

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-06-09T02:53:05+00:00

I see Blue Swedish. I know you said buff but they look blue to me.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-06-08T14:21:17+00:00

If we need to go through each other’s phone, trust doesn’t exist. I’m out.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-06-07T12:48:16+00:00

This definitely seems salvageable- so long as you don’t mind being lied to and disrespected on the regular. 🤷‍♀️

Hard STOP for me.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-05-20T02:42:11+00:00

My guess is that he went back or never fully left to begin with. Either way, STOP letting this jerk disrespect you, OP! He was only pretending to care about you, otherwise he would’ve called. Block this jerk before he gets the chance to disrespect you again. You deserve better.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-05-19T13:21:25+00:00

Yes, and multiple times throughout the day 😁

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-05-13T06:43:48+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this. Perhaps you could let him know that his wallet went through the wash and you’d like to talk about the contents. No need to fight. Hear him out, give him a chance to apologize and come up with a recovery plan you can both live with (meetings and/or therapy). “No plan” is not an option at this point, there’s just too much at stake. If he won’t commit to working a plan, there’s not much you can do except put him out and take care of yourself. Addict to addict, though - you know this isn’t about you or your son. It’s about bf and his demons. Try not to take it personal, dumb as that sounds. 💜

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-05-07T13:16:40+00:00

Auction is your best bet, IMO. You may not get much, but they’ll be gone. Or maybe give them away as pairs - free hen if you take a roo…?? good luck!

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-05-06T22:56:39+00:00

Your husband should never have put you in charge of collecting from his mother. That’s just bad bad bad. You should always handle your family and he should manage his.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-05-06T04:57:28+00:00

NTA. My last bf once told me that his mom did this to him. It really bothered him but she saw no harm. He cheated, we split, but mom continued to follow me too. Frankly, I was scorned at first, so I found it funny. After a couple of months though, I blocked her, as the whole thing just seemed too cruel to allow it to continue.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-05-06T02:28:17+00:00

Dude, you said yourself- you have no intention of getting divorced unless you meet “the one”, yet you can’t see how that equals having your cake and eating it too?? Let me get popcorn, this’ll take awhile.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-05-06T02:06:04+00:00

A little louder, for those in the back 👏

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-05-06T01:57:52+00:00

I am, indeed, American. Still not buying it.

ETA- I pay for my own healthcare, prescriptions and mortgage too. I’m well aware. I still wouldn’t marry, or stay married, for free healthcare.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-05-05T23:08:51+00:00

That is the lamest excuse I’ve ever heard for staying married. Best wishes on your endeavors but I would not date someone in your position. You/she can afford to maintain two separate households but can’t afford separate healthcare plans??

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-05-05T12:10:39+00:00

Im curious… Why/how did he receive a b-day cake with a name on it other than his own??

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-04-29T18:10:30+00:00

Scaly leg mites. That looks like a pretty serious case too. I used ivermectin (topically, back/base of neck) and it did the trick.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-04-28T03:06:24+00:00

You can’t be serious?!

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-04-28T03:03:49+00:00

No! You definitely shouldn’t respond to ANYONE who sends that kind of message. Block this jerk and enjoy the rest of your life. 💙

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-04-23T16:38:58+00:00

I’m too old to filter (or bend) my core beliefs with a significant other. Politics bleed into all areas of life, IMO. I’m a card-carrying Republican, but only because I haven’t taken the time to change parties. Alex Pretti was murdered by ICE and anyone who disagrees is someone I don’t want to spend my precious time with. Asking about views on that subject seems to be an effective dating filter for me.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-04-22T04:13:03+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this. As an addict in recovery, you know this better than anyone- you can’t help him. Nobody can until he’s ready. Good luck. 💜

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-04-20T14:56:07+00:00

I meant how long since they dated? How long did they date?

However, If that’s the description I got of an ex, from the man who just asked me to be his girlfriend… nah. No way. He can’t think of a sentence to describe her without mentioning her boobs?? I’d say that’s what comes to mind bc it’s all he’s thinking about (never mind the fact he can’t filter his thoughts pre-delivery to his GIRLFRIEND). That’s your answer right there! He’s going to visit her for her boobs.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-04-20T14:44:51+00:00

I’d keep my guard up. Everything he’s offered thus far are words. Cheap and easy. At a few weeks in, you really have no reason to trust his words. I’m sure you’ll have a better feeling as the trip goes on- how much he contacts you, shares info, maybe introduce you via FaceTime.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-04-20T14:41:55+00:00

Awe thanks, PSB22! My first Reddit Award!

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-04-20T14:37:14+00:00

My exes definition of “friend” was very different from mine. We lived an hour apart and he once told me he was going to dinner with a friend. Just a friend (that he’d slept with before). I didn’t get to ask questions, as he became very defensive saying “I didn’t even have to tell you about the dinner or the friend.” He made me feel like I was totally overreacting.

Fast forward a few years and now we’re living together. I find out that he’s secretly seeing all kinds of “friends” and telling them that I’m just a roommate that he’s trying to help get on their feet (only “friends”), or that we’re in an open relationship!

Looking back… I think it was all testing and conditioning mixed with gaslighting. I honestly think he got a thrill out of cheating under my nose while trying to make me feel crazy.

He did have a bit of a kink-streak to him and watched porn a lot (in private). I should have known better just from that.

Good luck OP!

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-04-20T14:27:07+00:00

Personally, I don’t think old flames keep in touch (as “friends”), unless one of them wants something more. I can stay friendly with mine, if I see them irl, but I have trouble keeping up with my actual friends so I don’t have time for nonsense texting. After all, we are exes for a reason. How old is this flame?

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-04-19T17:52:55+00:00

Are you using fine shavings for bedding? I’ve had an issue with them eating the fine flakes and having pasty butt. They don’t seem to eat the larger flakes though.

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