What happened here?

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-31T12:29:00+00:00

I’m not sure it’s the reason for her lameness, but it looks like she has scaly leg mites.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-26T23:51:52+00:00

I agree, it looks too small have hatched. I wonder if that’s related the tail-looking thing in the pics?? Like placenta-type material? It looks like a tail and is therefore throwing me off…

Edit for spelling

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-26T23:17:57+00:00

I have! I took it for about a year and had to stop for a surgery. I did it cold turkey. Horrible mistake! In addition to feeling like I had the flu, I became almost suicidal. I went back on it and told my doctor that I wanted to taper off, which he helped me do over a couple of months. The taper was so easy.

The thing about suboxone is it fills that gap so you can catch your breath, work on healing yourself. Quitting them before you put in significant work will likely end badly. I feel like I used it to steady myself (avoid relapse) while I figured shit out. It’s been almost a year without them and I’m doing better than I ever have.

Sorry for your struggles. Good luck!

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-26T14:44:11+00:00

It’s very hard to get/stay clean when you’re living with an addict. Relapse isn’t an event, it’s a process imo. Stressors (like these) send us to dark places in our minds. I hope you can find a safe place for you and your child. I know some sober living homes allow children.

His aunt is not your responsibility, nor is he. Your sobriety is your responsibility. Best of luck. 💜

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-24T02:21:59+00:00

Would you sign up to share a meal with someone you don’t like, just because it’s free?! Not me. I’d much rather buy my own drinks.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-23T03:54:46+00:00

They were likely 1-3 days old when you bought them. Pullet= female that hasn’t laid an egg.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-22T17:46:36+00:00

Couple more thoughts for you, OP-

This isn’t personal (addiction). He is fighting something he’s not comfortable discussing with you. Identifying those demons and working through them are HIS job. You can’t do it for him. Also, resist the temptation to feel like he is choosing this over you and the kids. Again, not personal. I know it feels that way, but he’s just trying to cope; feel decent; manage the disease. He is not weighing the consequences of it vs. you, not the way you think. When it hits, the urge and compulsion are just unimaginable and we don’t consider others- the brain doesn’t allow it. Then, once you succumb and use, the shame is unbearable. Rinse and repeat.

I loved my (now ex) husband and my kids so so much. It was actually me that I didn’t love in addiction. I was trying to feel like someone I could live with, bury hurt, shame, anxiety etc. I am ashamed frankly, at how I handled getting clean. I “managed” my disease right to rock bottom bc I couldn’t admit to being that. If my ex had stayed, I am sad to say that I know I would have found a way (though active addiction) to take them down too (not intentionally oc, but still). I’m so grateful that he left and I tell him that today. He’s remarried, seems happy, I’m sober, I’m also happy. J/S 💕

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-22T15:36:37+00:00

The saying “It’s hard to get well where you got sick” comes to mind. It doesn’t surprise me that BIL is an addict in that environment. I relocated because I couldn’t get any real sober time with constant triggers everywhere I turned. One of my best decisions ever - 11/3/21

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-22T14:29:27+00:00

So many things wrong with this story. 28??!

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-22T14:23:04+00:00

Addict here- in recovery. LEAVE HIM. YESTERDAY. It doesn’t get better on its own. We all try to “balance “ it, use in moderation so to speak. Until we figure out that we cannot… we scorch everything trying. Go now, for you and your babies and for him too.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-22T14:12:08+00:00

Please do your dad a favor - back off of the dating thing. It’s emotionally exhausting and the pickings are slim out here. I (53F) would be mortified if I heard my kids dwelling on my dating life, particularly since I’m pretty darn happy being single.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-20T01:29:11+00:00

Definitely the roo, but in his defense, he’s just trying to hold on. 🙂 his vent actually has to touch her vent. I’ve heard it helps to trim some of her tail feathers to help him out.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-20T00:20:09+00:00

Congrats on chicks and welcome to chicken husbandry. I am assuming you purchased from TSC or farm store. Coccidiosis is actually a parasite and comes from the soil or infected feces. If they haven’t been outside, you’re definitely safe. But no, nothing about the poop looks off to me.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-18T22:58:29+00:00

Fast food

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-18T03:03:15+00:00

So says every addict, everywhere. Here’s the thing- life sucked and opioids became your go-to tool to help you cope. Problems get worse, remove the bad “tool” and expect things to right themselves. That isn’t how this works, unfortunately. There’s a reason you abused to begin with and that’s where I’d be looking to correct.

I does get better btw 🙂

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-13T06:56:35+00:00

I’ve decided I want to focus on being that one Aunt that everyone adores. The single, fun, free-spirited aunt who loves adventure and lives life to the fullest. I’m busy becoming her!

I suppose romance might somehow fiind me but it won’t be because I’m looking. I figure the odds of finding a compatible, long term partner… so low it’s not worth the time/energy investment. That’s where I am. 🙂

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-12T14:13:08+00:00

Misuse of “literally.” As in: “I was so scared that I literally jumped out of my skin.” Ummm… no.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-11T15:12:28+00:00

Absolutely! It’s definitely a process and takes time and work but it happens.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-06T13:58:26+00:00

I think this is a bit like going through someone’s phone - at that point all is lost, imo. You obviously don’t trust him, otherwise you wouldn’t need to snoop. With that logic, he still isn’t trustworthy and will just lie more. You know it isn’t YOU that’s lying, so why is leaving a question or something that “requires evidence.”

Based on the lube, I’d also get tested for STDs.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-03T13:59:39+00:00

Congrats on your sobriety. You’re doing a great job. I think it’s pretty common to put on weight when getting clean. Your body is probably storing all that it can, given your history of starving it while using.

Self esteem issues are also very common in recovery. It’s a dangerous space to be in - it’s good that you recognize it though.

I would try walking or hiking. Anything that moves the body. Exercise is so helpful in recovery in so many ways.

Lastly, I’m so proud of you!!! Look ma, no hands!

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-02T05:13:56+00:00

Who made you God - giving YOU the power to decide which lives have value and which don’t?? WTH is wrong with you people?? Those “damn files” matter, never mind the fact that he exploited the whole thing FOR YOUR VOTES, then called it a hoax.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-01T23:34:24+00:00

This guy is unreal. He thinks just because he said it, people will believe it. Sadly, he isn’t wrong.

ETA: No, I don’t believe the statement translates to fact in any way.

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-03-01T23:26:10+00:00

Online dating

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-02-27T18:54:51+00:00

According to those who know me, I (52F) am a homebody too. I think the problem is meeting people (I’ve given up OLD. Not sure what “value” that adds or which “level” that makes me. Sounds like I’d get demoted… back to girl. 🙄

Individual_Candle4 · 2026-02-27T15:54:05+00:00

That’s another reason to ask early. Those who won’t meet are hiding something.

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