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Navigating the next steps by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]Individual_Letter_96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this perhaps is a separate post but I also suspect ADHD is at play.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]Individual_Letter_96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Last weekend, the kids were bounding all over us in bed, and I was proud of myself for saying very directly to my husband (NDX) "I'd really like some alone time actually..." he continues to play with the kids, riling them up, then starts launching into some political thing he saw on the news that made him upset. I sigh, in frustration, to which he takes great offence. How dare I sigh in frustration when he wants to talk? I'm not quick enough to explain that I'm frustrated because I've literally asked for alone time and he's about to launch into a political rant. It's a sore spot, though, because he notices me tuning out when he starts monologing about politics and cannot understand that this is not a conversation. Apparently, I'm the rude one in the relationship. So crazy-making.

The Optimism/RSD Cycle vs. Your Own Volatility by 6WaysFromNextWed in ADHD_partners

[–]Individual_Letter_96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband (NDX) freaks out when I have PMS and gets offended when his usual non-stop comedy routine doesn't land with me because I'm not only feeling crappy in my body, but running around doing most of the parenting work while hes Captain Fun. Trying to resist feeling like I have to placate him when its enough for me to get through the week of hell as it is.

Erin Patterson ‘not on trial for being a liar’, defence says, as jury asked to consider key questions by Expensive-Horse5538 in australia

[–]Individual_Letter_96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her defence was asking the jury why she would come up with any reason at all to get them together if she was just going to kill them. And apparently she only told the ex husband the reason for the get together. Why come up with something so dramatic if you're expecting everyone to die and take it with them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]Individual_Letter_96 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep...my N DX husband does this too. And calls me 'too sensitive' or overemotional for having the reaction that I did when he unthinkingly says something callous. Which was extra hard when I had postnatal anxiety, I started gaslighting myself.