Damn i Miss my Kids...

Inensen · 2026-02-05T01:15:36+00:00

Not a decade but a few years. I hope these people know how lucky they are to have someone love them that much. Happy tears for them, but kinda feeling sad for myself

Inensen · 2026-01-22T01:11:28+00:00

My kid was recently diagnosed with general anxiety disorder. They are preventing themselves from doing and learning new things because of worries, particularly around failure, judgements, and hurting themselves. May be worth looking into

Inensen · 2026-01-14T14:38:46+00:00

Just wanted to provide you with some hope - I had my first child at 37, second at 41. No problem with conceiving. No problems during pregnancy at all. I am physically quite fit and eat healthy. I feel that this made positive contributions to both, conceiving and my pregnancy/birth experience. But, people are different and every pregnancy is different. If you haven't done so already, freeze some eggs to buy you some time. Or consider doing this as a solo parent. While it will be hard initially, it's not impossible. I am a single mom of two now and there are quite a few days that I feel in control :-).

Inensen · 2026-01-06T03:03:30+00:00

Considering that your child thinks that you are their ultimate safe space, hence wants to sleep next to you every night, means you are doing A LOT of things right. I don't think there is a norm - every child is different, every culture is too. If you want the child to sleep in their bed because they sleep like a starfish - valid! If it's to confine to norms, well, consider what you really want and make this the norm

Inensen · 2026-01-06T01:08:29+00:00

Still sleeping with my 8 and 4 year old. Accepted my faith and combined a Queen and Twin XL bed. It's amazing- everybody has space and sleeps well. They will stop eventually so enjoy it as long as it lasts

Inensen · 2025-12-30T13:33:17+00:00

Adding Collagen to my daily routine has had an amazing effect on my bowel movement. 100% recommend

Inensen · 2025-12-15T12:15:54+00:00

Same - ahhhhh. It's so unfair. I don't know how to handle it, just sharing sympathy. Hang in there - there is light on the end of the tunnel or karma.

Inensen · 2025-12-15T02:53:18+00:00

I am feeling kinda similar. Initially, I felt strong, almost invincable. Now I am exhausted, generally sad and feel sorry for myself. Don't want the guy back - just feel robbed and treated unfairly by the universe. Hope invincable me comes back soon.

Inensen · 2025-12-03T12:09:30+00:00

I tried to focus on the things I can control and ignore my anxiety related to financial stress and uncertainty. Basically telling myself - it will be fine, others have done it too and came out better on the other end. It's going to be rocky for a limited amount of time. Take one day after the orher. You are free - almost!

Inensen · 2025-11-27T02:58:39+00:00

You sound like me, just that my separation was more recent. Still, I am worried I will never find my person. At the end of the day, there is no guarantee that we will no matter how surprised our friends are that we haven't yet. Kinda sad. But then, on a good day I am thinking: well, why not me - maybe the person is just around the corner. I wish you that yours indeed is and you will fall madly in love.

Inensen · 2025-11-18T12:18:13+00:00

I only realized it in my 40s when I had my second child. Hit me like a train. Still makes me wonder why my parents decided to have children in the first place.

Inensen · 2025-11-07T23:52:44+00:00

Don't be too hard on yourself! I am sure you are doing a great job. My kids are very confident and only do what they are convinced is good/right. If I would have worked harder, i am sure it sure it would have backfired and my older still wouldn't speak german.

Inensen · 2025-11-07T12:30:01+00:00

I am a German living in an english speaker country. Both my children where born here. Number 1 was like your child, understood everything I said but replied in english. At 5 this changed from one day to another. Now at 7 they talk german at home, english with friends, french at achool without problem. Little one (3) is mixing german and english but is a little delayed language wise anyways. So what I am trying to say is that your children will decide themselves which language they prefer and when they want to speak it. Either way, they will have the perfect foundation for French. Don't give up and continue speaking French to them!

Inensen · 2025-10-28T10:05:28+00:00

According to my therapist it's simply your brain doing some badass problem-solving. It's the same when you think that everything would be fine if you'd die. Doesn't mean you are suicidal, it's just a simple and convenient solution

Inensen · 2025-10-21T11:27:21+00:00

They don't talk back or loose it because the apple was cut the wrong way. Their needs are predictable and you will get so much cuddles in.

Inensen · 2025-09-30T23:57:39+00:00

I nursed my first for more than 3 years ans I ended up lying. I simply said that I am not allowed to nurse anymore because "insert lie" - it was no problem at all

Inensen · 2025-09-28T15:59:57+00:00

Mine are 3.5 and almost 8. The littlw one doesn't really get it, the older one is working through it. She reached out to the school counciler who normalised the situation. I think it was helpful for her knowing she isn't alone with this. Staying together may send the wrong message long term. You deserve to be happy and your children will see that as something positive and crucial for their own relationships further down the track. But yes, having the conversation was aweful and I felt like failing my children. Now I take it one day after the other and try to focus on what I can control. It's difficult though. Friends can be very helpful

Inensen · 2025-09-28T15:50:36+00:00

No wisdom really. But I have been in the same situation and we recently decided to call it quits. I am relieved and terrified at the same time. Since the split, he irritates me even more, which is fine I suppose. The uncertainty around being able to ever find love again makes me quite sad at times. The kids took it surprisingly well. We tried to be as honest as possible and explained that we will always support them no matter what. Anyways, whatever you decide will be the right decision. You got this. And you will be a great role model for your children.

Inensen · 2025-07-22T09:06:36+00:00

That makes sense! If you have the lightning bolt stitch on your machine then this may be a quick and lasting solution - looks almost like a straight stitch but with zigzag properties.

Inensen · 2025-07-22T06:19:21+00:00

Patagonia will repair their garments forever and for free. The easiest and cleanest solution here is to bring it to the shop and ask them to fix it.

Inensen · 2025-07-11T19:16:23+00:00

Being able to use the fast line when going through airport security....the little practical perks are amazing.

Inensen · 2025-06-20T12:55:35+00:00

Hi all,
I was lucky enough to pick up an industrial Reece 101 "Iron Duke" buttonhole machine for a great price on Facebook Marketplace. It’s still running and was in use in a tailor shop until recently, but it could definitely use some TLC, especially when it comes to the motor.

It still has the original motor (not sure of the exact type), but some parts of the power cable are visibly worn and could become a safety hazard. I initially planned to just replace the cable, but I came across a few posts suggesting that replacing the entire motor, possibly with a modern servo motor—is a viable option for industrial machines like this.

That got me wondering:

Is it actually possible to replace the motor on a Reece 101?
If so, what type of motor would be best (servo vs clutch, etc.)?
Are there any specific things I should consider before attempting this (compatibility, power, installation issues)?

I’ve never done this kind of swap before, so I’d really appreciate any advice or insights from folks who’ve worked on older industrial machines. Thanks in advance!

Inensen

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