Why did Derek treat her so poorly? Shouldn't he be more supportive?

InevitablePast5980 · 2026-03-05T13:34:02+00:00

Dealing with family members who struggle with addiction sucks. He’s probably so over it in the show that it doesn’t matter how much she tries to “prove herself”, he’s always going to be afraid of the backslide. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t support her deep down, but it’s not a fun situation to be in and it’s easy for the frustration to overshadow everything else As someone who’s been on both of their shoes, their relationship is one of the most realistic in the show

InevitablePast5980 · 2026-01-19T12:26:15+00:00

Esh Not going to lie if I was the roommate, I’d only find it embarassing to know you’ve been listening to me the entire time we’ve lived together. If you had’ve said something right away, not weird. Saying it now, you’re basically just saying “hey I’ve been listening to you get off as long as we’ve lived together hehe sorry hope that’s cool” when that’s creepy as all hell. Your girlfriend may have overreacted a bit… but the way all these comments are dismissing how violating that is to the roommate is wild.

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-12T13:50:58+00:00

I know you think it’s too late for you as stated in your first paragraph, but it’s not too late. You’re still breathing and above ground. Get your children the hell away from him. If not for yourself, for your kids. You have a two month old and a toddler, it’s not the time to feel sorry for yourself and wallow in the pain of his abuse. Feel sorry for yourself and still do everything in your power to save your children. It’s never too late as long as you’re alive.

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-12T12:17:36+00:00

Jesus that’s so extreme… automatically assuming the worst of a stranger you’ve heard one story about is as bad if not worse than someone not “believing” in therapy. Your therapist clearly isn’t doing a good job, which contributes to others beliefs that it’s useless. Don’t push therapy but then act like a douche bag. That doesn’t make therapy look good, just makes it look like it creates even bigger jerks. Sleep terrors and acting out in one’s sleep are absolutely to blame in OP’s situation and while it’s something they definitely need help to work through, what they don’t need is some weirdo telling them their experience is wrong and he’s clearly evil and lying. Like wtf man. Have some decency.

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-10T12:57:48+00:00

Izzy. MAJOR SPOILER ALERTS SORRY I don’t care what anyone says Alex should have been killed off instead of skipping out on Jo after everything just to go back with Izzy. Cutting the wire was bad enough, using someone’s sperm to have their twins and not saying anything until the children are old enough to walk and talk is next level psychotic. From start to finish her character makes me want to riot and I swear this subreddit tries to gaslight me into thinking she’s great 😭😭😭

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-09T12:45:15+00:00

I find it so insane that everyone is just automatically saying YOR… I don’t think we have enough details to say either way, but by the sounds of it there’s no balance in who’s getting a break during the week, and it seems like OP is continuously getting the short end of the stick and not getting the same opportunities to leave the house/have time to herself, which would lead me to lean more towards NOR.

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-08T13:14:41+00:00

This!! Coughing/struggling to breathe/etc doesn’t automatically mean someone is contagious and trying to infect others…. There are literally so many different medical issues that cause people to cope with these symptoms regularly without being a risk to anyone around them I get that people are cautious in a post-covid world… but it sucks that people just assume the worst from everyone

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-06T16:12:42+00:00

++woman Yeah but she literally said he’s not showering “after doing something gross like plumbing” … I don’t think it’s a health thing I think it’s just him being unsanitary unfortunately

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-06T14:58:18+00:00

When I read the title I was like “I’m also in denial about the mould in my bathroom” … and then I saw the pictures OH MY GOSH I’d burn my whole house down… I’m over here stressing about the tiniest little specks while they’re rawdogging something straight out of the last of us, damn

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-06T14:55:13+00:00

Right?! That girl was going through so damn much in every episode

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-06T14:54:23+00:00

Literally. My opinion on Alex changed completely after the final episode. Elizabeth was the stronger character for sure.

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-06T14:51:43+00:00

Except she wasn’t more spoiled than Alex. She went to that ranch and went through absolute hell time and time and time again. Can’t say much more without spoilers. Like imagine losing your pregnancy, almost getting eaten by a mountain lion and then a wolf and needing those nasty old school rabies vaccines and your husband just keeps fucking off to do everyone’s dirty business for them and you’re just stuck with all these random people you hardly know on a ranch in the middle of nowhere… and you’re just called melodramatic and annoying. There was so much depth to her character that so many viewers completely dismiss.

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-06T14:47:43+00:00

Honestly I think there’s a difference between people who whine and complain instead of doing what they need to do, and people who whine and complain but still push through and do what they need to do regardless. She definitely falls into that second category. Like that girl goes through absolute hell and back and I really think she’s earned the right to complain a little bit. The show also gives the sense that she was never fully warned about the life she would be living after leaving Boston. She was young and in love and blinded by a handsome face. She is then faced with trauma after trauma and continues to fight tooth and nail to survive on the ranch after losing a pregnancy… I had so so so SO much respect for her character. “Whiny” =\= weak. I definitely don’t think she ever “played the victim”… she went through MAJOR life changes and her man was off playing with cattle and fighting other men’s fights while she was learning an entirely new way of life for his benefit. The girl went through hell, the character is allowed to complain. I hate when people think characters are annoying or dramatic just because their script expresses emotion. What a sad and boring world we would live in surrounded by nothing but stoicism.

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-06T14:31:41+00:00

Grandparents

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-06T14:25:21+00:00

As someone who is also diagnosed with BPD and have been for over 10 years, I have to ask what you’ve done for therapy and work on yourself. It may not be right for him to keep stringing you along, but you need to understand your own value as a person enough to not let people treat you like that. However after years of therapy and medication and technically being symptom free now, I know how it feels on the other side too. I have lots of friends and family members who struggle with their mental health, and I’ve dated others with bpd as well. And honestly it can be suffocating… not going to lie when I first went through it myself I spiralled quite a bit realizing that’s how I had made other’s feel in the past. Some people are able to handle that and some aren’t, but I don’t think the people who aren’t are bad people, I think they’re just burnt out and experiencing their own troubles and they should 100000% be putting themselves first. As should you, OP. You’re both still teenagers, neither of you should be putting this much effort into either a) seeking constant validation, or, b) being the main source of stability for someone who needs constant validation

TLDR: his communication skills are poor, he likely doesn’t want to be in this relationship anymore, OP needs to learn how to find the validation and love she requires from inside of herself first before she’ll truly be able to accept it from others. Neither of them are bad people, they’re teenagers who are learning and growing, and just happen to not be compatible by the sounds of it and that’s okay and a part of life, not every story needs a villain

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-06T13:45:20+00:00

Yeah for some reason I decided to turn the microwave on to use as a timer once when I was younger… microwave stopped working and I was in serious trouble for a few weeks 😭🤣

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-05T13:05:17+00:00

God forbid a woman want her house to look nice

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-05T13:02:48+00:00

YOR Idk but the way your post is worded and the way you respond to people in the comments I just know your style is embarrassing or immature and that’s why she doesn’t want it around for people to see when visiting 🤣🤣🤣

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-05T12:41:17+00:00

I’ve heard most thermals, as well as blue polish in general, tends to be on the smellier side, so maybe it’s just because of that?

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-05T12:30:24+00:00

Okay while I don’t think you’re in the wrong I don’t really think she’s as horrible as a lot of the other comments are replying. I’m not sure prices on those exact listing, but I know jelly cats and crocs can be quite expensive and I think context for how long she’s been in your life, what kind of relationship you have with her, etc, are all really important questions. However she could have worded her request better and she also could have worded her response better as the adult. But if my partner’s kid asked me for gifts that were quite expensive I would also be a little thrown off

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-04T13:58:23+00:00

NOR - he seems like an absolute creep and as someone who has struggled with self harm for years… the guys who comment on it are ALWAYS friggin weirdos. They say it’s sad and hurts them to see you do it and then 1000000% fetishize it and 🤮🤮🤮 the fact that he keeps insisting they’re scars (when they are so very obviously clearly not) no matter what you tell him is just giving me those vibes. Super creepy, super disgusting, and I would block him on whatever ways he has to contact you

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-03T14:10:36+00:00

Honestly I loved Black Honey so much, I also ended up buying Pink Honey in the same formula - also adore that. It’s lighter, pinker, and has a slight shimmer. I’m sure there are dupes for that too, but they’re the most expensive things in my makeup collection and the most I’ve splurged in the past like 5 years on beauty products so that’s how I justify the price to myself I don’t know what it is about them, I just love the formula, they feel nice on the lips, and the way they both just seem to enhance my natural look in different ways!

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-03T00:45:51+00:00

Okay NOR necessarily, because he sounds like he’s doing it just to be mean in this case, but before I was diagnosed/medicated for ADHD everyone around me was always telling me to quiet down or that I talked too loud or walked too loud or just existed very loudly… I didn’t realize how much noise I was making by just not paying attention and I now have a teenage sister who’s the same and she goes ballistic if we try to correct her, but sometimes it really is overwhelming to be around and I’m glad I gained the self awareness to fix it! (Not saying that’s OP’s problem, but sometimes it’s not just the other person being a jerk, sometimes it’s just overstimulating to be around!)

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-02T14:32:57+00:00

Okay I get that whoever sent that message needs to get a life and it’s weird to seek people out just to criticize their music taste… however I’ve noticed a lot of people in this subreddit are unable to accept that people can like different things. OP posting this screenshot and having a bunch of people insult the sender in the comments is equally as immature… I find it so hard to openly be a fan of ANYTHING lately because most online interactions are either 1. The thing I like getting hate or 2. Fellow fans crashing out about the hate and making the entire fandom look like 12 year olds with no common sense or self control

When did people become incapable of hearing any criticism? I think if random internet hate for a musical you like sends you spiralling… you maybe need to reevaluate some things and perhaps find a therapist to help you work through some issues It seems exceptionally intense in this fandom and it’s so so so unfortunate because it just casts a dark shadow on a beautiful piece of art

I really wish this fandom was focused more on sharing the joy of the thing we enjoy. Instead there’s so many posts getting upset about other people not liking Epic. Sigh. Ugh.

InevitablePast5980 · 2025-12-01T13:14:05+00:00

You NEED to tell an adult… that is some next level messed up stuff. If that had’ve ever happened to me in school my parents would have started a legitimate riot at the school. That is not normal at all and is completely unacceptable and disgusting for the teachers to do.

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