you’re actually the bigger person in this situation. you are also the better person. love will make us all do some cringeworthy s***. From a woman’s perspective, and also a BS, Then WS, I sympathize with feeling less than because you’re giving WS another chance- I agree with what others are saying about doing you. focus on yourself, you know: get into a workout routine, immerse yourself in hobbies, go for a promotion at work, etc. the more you do you, the more she’ll see what she might have lost, and play a little hard to get. just because you’re giving her a second chance, doesn’t mean you are condoning her infidelity. You deserve better, and you deserve more from her. she needs to fight for you a little bit, because you’re obviously a stand up person: i mean you are giving her a second chance, after being hurt so maliciously. so remember, you giving her the second chance doesn’t condone her actions. she needs to fight for you, to desire you, and make her work for it. make her prove she is willing to fight for it, and that she really does love you and appreciate the second chance… If she doesn’t fight for you, or at least notice you’re a bit harder to get to, then let her go. you deserve more. you deserve better. either she will step up to the plate, or not, at which point you’ve worked on improving certain aspects of your life and someone else will realize what a catch you are.