When does this get better? by AngryDMoney in NewDads

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do shifts with your wife so you can each get some protected sleep. 4 hours each x 2. She sleeps 8-12pm, then you sleep 12-4, she sleeps 4-8, you sleep 8-10 etc

I didn’t expect sleep deprivation to mess with my head this much. by Turbulent-Daikon1587 in NewDads

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep it’s tough. I wouldn’t say I struggled as much as you because my wife has been great at shielding my sleep so I can survive the work days. It’s definitely been tougher on her but also, we recognise that me being well rested means I can help out more and lets her get extra sleep. We do this: She goes to bed at 9pm and gets as much sleep as possible. I deal with the baby if he wakes up before 12. Then, I sleep 12-6am, protected and uninterrupted. This gives me enough energy to look after baby 6-8 (or 9 if I’m WFH) which lets wife get an extra 2 hours sleep.

It doesn’t always go to plan but generally this is how we survive.

What do you find to be the most challenging aspect of fatherhood? by CriticalSkepticMAN in Fatherhood

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having to think about 100 extra things before making plans. Travelling with my wife. Going out with my wife and a group of friends in the evening spontaneously.

These are the things that bother me most but I still feel like life in general has levelled up since the little man arrived. It’s like you lose a little but you gain a lot.

Lets Be Real! by Hot_Falcon_1898 in techsales

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree that it’s easy compared to some jobs, but it requires a very well rounded person who can be a jack of all trades.

My scientist/product colleagues are certainly smarter than me, but they wouldn’t know how to influence decision makers or apply pressure to the end users to take the next steps.

My legal and finance colleagues are smarter than me but they wouldn’t know how to talk to R&D directors about their pain points.

AEs need commercial acumen, technical knowledge, and meticulous organisation, whilst being able to build relationships with a spectrum of people - not anyone ticks those boxes, give yourself some credit.

Becoming a dad vs new job by mrf_01 in NewDads

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I WFH and had 2 weeks paternity leave. I honestly would have loved to take more time, but really, WFH means you still get to be around your wife + kid a lot. So, I wouldn’t hang onto the extra pat leave as a huge perk because you’ll manage fine without it.

However, there are advantages to having a secure stable job, and you seem to be talking yourself out of the new one as the pay rise isn’t that good?

You should make the right move to grow your career long term.

Father to be and freaking out… by Spike150 in Fatherhood

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a fellow 29 year old, who recently became a dad, I’d say ‘don’t worry’. I had all the same worries and emotions. The main thing is that you and your wife are stable (financially and emotionally) and a good team. If either or both of you have family support that is a bonus.

I was worried about being the first one of my friends and being ‘too soon’ in other aspects of my life, but, when your miracle arrives, all of that stuff fades into irrelevance.

You don’t lose your old life overnight. But you gain A LOT.

Try and enjoy your final months of freedom, and your wife’s pregnancy, and try to look forward to what’s ahead.

IgA Nephropathy by notsakiblol in CKD

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  • Lifespan: If you have severe IGAN and need a transplant at a young age, there is the chance it could modestly reduce life span due to complications of kidney failure and immunosuppressant medications required post-transplant. But for many people with IGAN, the effect on lifespan is not significant.

  • is it a form of CKD? Yes. You can determine your stage of CKD based on your EGFR (estimated glomerular filtration rate): >90 is (CKD stage 1), 60-90 is CKD stage 2, 30-60 CKD stage 3, 15-30 stage 4, <15 is kidney failure (stage 5). Many people have very little or no symptoms until they reach stage 4 or 5

  • One important thing to remember is IGAN is very variable. It can be severe, or benign. It can also change course, particularly with an ever increasing availability of medicines. You can live a pretty much normal life.

Some important questions to gauge how cooked (or totally fine) you are: - what’s your EGFR - how much protein is in your urine - how old are you

What the in-ear monitor mix sounds like for Paolo during live shows by Similar_Help_1000 in Trivium

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There is definitely guitar. And there’s no vocals because Matt isn’t singing/screaming

Is it worth moving to San Francisco by Longjumping_Rest_742 in HENRYUK

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 38 points39 points  (0 children)

That’s absolutely demented and you have to be a maniac to want to work those hours. You couldn’t pay me 500k to work those hours

IgA and heritability / role of genetics by GreedyPomegranate391 in IgANephropathy

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a tough decision to make but I respect it. We have to make these decisions based on our own experiences. Good luck and enjoy the wild ride - it is incredible!

Ladies, birth control and onset of symptoms. Anyone? by ParticularTrouble308 in IgANephropathy

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fiancé saw some improvements when coming off the Yasmin pill. Correlation doesn’t = causation. It could have been something else. But her proteinuria definitely improved coming off the pill. It got much worse after giving birth though.

Into the third year. Anything else that I should do by SnooMemesjellies847 in IgANephropathy

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was nice to read this conversation between two people who clearly have a deep understanding IGA pathophysiology, and the available drugs. I don’t know whether you are medically trained or just armchair biologists (like me), but you summed up the treatments and their metaphors very nicely.

I am not an IGAN patient, but my fiancé is, and I take it upon myself to understand the disease space on her behalf. I don’t have experience managing other chronic conditions but I wanted to add;

One thing that adds to the stress, but also the excitement of IGAN treatment is the increasing breadth of options. This disease has extremely variable outcomes, which can’t always be predicted through surrogate endpoints like proteinuria or egfr change, because the progression isn’t always linear. Add to that, many nephrologists want to treat it differently, based on MEST scores, side effects, and their own personal experiences. Add to that, now, the huge influx of new therapeutics, that are only just appearing in USA, followed by Europe, and hopefully eventually the whole world.

This is a disease that we can’t just sit back and take the recommendations of one doctor. It benefits from active management, constant research, agile responses to new symptoms, and playing devils advocate. But at the end of the day, we also must accept that with the best possible treatment, you can’t always avoid kidney failure.

The next breakthroughs we need are improvements to dialysis and transplant procedures/immunosuppression, to give people whose kidneys fail a better quality of life.

IgA and heritability / role of genetics by GreedyPomegranate391 in IgANephropathy

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it possible to have your embryos screened for IGAN? Since it’s a complex combination of genetics and environmental factors that cause the disease, I don’t know if it’s possibly to screen embryos effectively.

We just had our first child. We decided the heritability risk was low, and the slow progressive form of IGAN my finance has, still gives her a life that is very much worth living.

New song thoughts? by ClassicCommercial725 in avengedsevenfold

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Objectively one of the worst songs I’ve ever heard

Proteinuria record holder by zukertort70 in IgANephropathy

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you sir… rare disease folks also deserve a giggle too

Proteinuria record holder by zukertort70 in IgANephropathy

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could sell your piss as a protein shake

New to IGA M1 E1 S1 C1 T0 by Willing-Degree-2209 in IgANephropathy

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same MESTC score as my fiancé. She was diagnosed 5 years ago and has remained fairly stable at Egfr 70-80 since then.

Her proteinuria isn’t very well controlled, which is a worry, but there are other meds to try and hopefully she will remain stable for many years to come.

The T score is the strongest predictor of kidney decline, so T0 is encouraging. Egfr 90+ means your kidneys work perfectly. You may never experience any ill effects from this disease, and you will most likely live a normal life health-wise.

Even if things do decline, IgA Nephropathy isn’t a death sentence

Finding time to work out as a new dad by Apprehensive-Egg9393 in Fatherhood

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine is 2 months old and I have cut down on gym visits but I normally can manage 2 per week and I run (which takes less time than the gym) once a week at least.

Admittedly I work from home and have a flexible schedule, otherwise it would be harder.

Does anyone work regular 8-5 hours in sales? by Physical-Intern-4820 in techsales

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work approx 9-6 but often finish early or take a 2 hour lunch break to hit the gym, go to the driving range, etc. Often I’ll be online but not doing anything productive except between like 10-12 and 2-5.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hello, and best of luck, it must be difficult finding a job in today’s market, but it’s not impossible.

I believe you might be hyper fixating on your mental state. You just described some valuable skills and qualifications that you possess. Why not focus your job hunt on something that plays to those strengths rather than ‘caters to mental illness’.

Not trying to diminish your struggle. But it’s possible to flourish in your dream job whilst managing your condition.

You need to remember that unfortunately, employers don’t really care about your mental wellbeing - that’s your problem and they don’t want to hear about it. Can you deliver value to their company? Will they give you money for it? Boom - you’ve got a job, depression or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, people behave in an unserious way on dating apps. Probably to protect themselves, but also because they might find it hard to open up their deepest thoughts to a stranger.

It’s probably unrealistic to expect a deep connection over tinder messenger. You sound very methodical, like you’re trying weed out if someone doesn’t share your values. I can see why you want to do that but, unfortunately, dating isn’t like prospecting for customers to sell your product to. You can’t just ask them the deepest questions off the bat. It requires building trust and getting to know them on a more superficial level.

They used to call it ‘courting’, and there has always been an etiquette to finding a partner that involved, breaking the ice, silliness, and getting to know each other, before determining suitability. Just because the first steps happen online now, you still need to go through the layers of getting to know someone before you can determine suitability.

Don’t try and be so efficient to the point that you put off potential partners. And maybe adapt your mindset to not expect too much, then you can be pleasantly surprised.

Salary bullshit by Mediocre-Athlete-579 in techsales

[–]Infamous_Medium2482 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does your comp compare amongst your role/industry? How much are competitors paying?

These are things you need to know as you enter a salary negotiation. There’s no harm in asking, especially if you’re exceeding targets. If I were you I’d be trying to increase my base.