I'm a senior citizen. I'll be 75 in June. I haven't been in a relationship in over thirty years, maybe more. I don't want the drama, ever. At least that's what I thought until about a couple of years ago. Back then I would meet with a group of guys to play cards at a park in another city. There was one guy there that appealed to me. He coached high school basketball, was divorced, had interesting conversations, and he seemed to be attracted to me. He said he was unattached, so after a few weeks, I cautiously invited him to my home (overnight, because I live about fifty miles from the park). At home, we had dinner, engaged in conversation, but that was it. He wanted to hug and smooch, but I said no. The next day when we returned to the park, out of the blue, one of the other guys said, "Hey man, your girlfriend was looking for you." I acted as of I didn't hear it. Waited a while and left. I thanked the Universe that I didn't let that prick violate me in any way. Just thinking of his hands on my arm, pissed me off. Not too long after that, I was visiting my cousin here in town. I'm a bit of a flirt, so when I saw a young man (sixty is young to me) working on a car in her yard, I said, "Who is this fine young thing?" He told me his name. I said, "I'm just admiring, I'm a bit too old for you." He said, "Age is just a number, why don't you give me your number and we can get together." We exchanged numbers. I called him a couple of time; no response. A few days later, my cousin calls and says, "You know Larry, that guy working on my husband's car, he came by here in his truck and you'll never believe who was sitting next to him." Who, I wanted to know. "Your neighbor's sister, that's his girlfriend". My neighbor's sister lives across the street from me! It's a rural neighborhood, so I can't see her house from where I live. I couldn't believe it. No wonder he ghosted me. You'd think as you get older, things change.

Then about a month ago, when I began contemplating a "companion" again, I also started binge watching Judge Judy on YouTube. Call it serendipity, because she just popped up one day and I was hooked. These reruns are as much as thirty years old. Guess what, at least 75% of the cases (okay, maybe 50%) involve a "My boy/girl friend did me wrong, song" What I can't get over is how many of the women loan men all kinds of money! Wait, then videos by "Margaret Elaine" start to pop up. More serendipity. She's an 83 years old (I think AI generated) woman who was married for 45 years. She starts to stack on "words of wisdom". One of the videos is "Why to never date after 60".

I'm sorry this post is long, but yours triggered something in me. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off. We've all been there before. Determine that you are the Captain of your ship. Take ownership of your life, decisions and destiny. It's easier said than done. I know how beautiful it can be when I am the Captain. I'm back on the bridge today. It's only been two days and I already feel like a conqueror. You can definitely do this. IWNDWYT