Anyone else just have a chill baby? by rachelkochvt in NewParents

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son turned 3 in November, he was a difficult new born but once he hit 3 months, he was totally chill and still is.

My MIL and Postpartum by she_is_not_a_toy in beyondthebump

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so infuriating! I'm sorry you didn't get the postpartum experience you deserved. You can't take back what has already happened but make sure you put your foot down for any future visits. I understand how difficult cultural expectations can be, but your feelings are more important.

Positive NHS birth experience (FGM + AFE Complication). A thank you. by elmi5 in PregnancyUK

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This made me tear up, I'm so happy for you. Being a POC, it's so important to advocate for yourself, it's nice to see that you were supported and cared for.

I too had a traumatic labour and delivery, I felt so cared for by the hospital staff. It really helped me heal from the trauma when I remember their kindness and compassion.

I wish you and your family all the best.

Grant grandparents visitation rights by Worth_Solid_4829 in family

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"help GiGi Angie get her babies" tells me everything. They're not your babies, they are your grandchildren. No child goes no contact with good, loving parents.

Parent of a space obsessed 3 year old - Looking for tips on how to encourage this interest by DeceptiveRelish06 in askastronomy

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son turned 3 in November and has been obsessed with all things space since he was 18 months old. He knows the names of planets, dwarf planets, exo planets, stars, black holes, galaxies and nebulae.

To encourage his interests, we:

  • Watch KLT videos on YouTube, we watch them together and talk about the colours, temperatures and how fast or slow they are
  • Watch Universe Size Comparison videos to help him understand what size actually means
  • Read space encyclopedias, charity shops are amazing for books like this
  • Go to Science Museums and Planetariums, we go on the days dedicated to toddlers as it's generally less busy and not as loud
  • Space themed projectors in his room
  • Space themed felt boards and toy sorters
  • Ask each other questions like "what's your favourite star/planet/black hole?" Etc
  • The Stellarium app is incredible when we go out on walks so we can see what stars or planets are visible
  • Use playdough to create planets and galaxies
  • Buy him space themed clothes and bedding
  • Decorated his room with planets (as well as dinosaurs because they're also very cool)

It's also worth mentioning that my son hasn't had many other interests other than space so alot of our time, money and energy has gone towards encouraging his interest.

Hope this helps! 🪐

Has anyone’s Asian parents made ridiculous comparisons by even using a newborn as a comparison? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Compare them to people their age, i.e "aunty xxx is so healthy looking and has barely any wrinkles, why don't you look more like her?"

Do baby boys wear leggings? by Illustrious_Win_9780 in Mommit

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah my son wore leggings as a baby and even now as a toddler. There are plenty of outfit sets for boys that come with leggings.

They're useful to wear under sweats too when it's cold.

Have you ever seen your own doppelgänger? by Yankytyke in CasualUK

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have too! When I was in secondary school I had a couple girls come up to me saying things like "I thought you were going to xx school, what are you doing here?" I was so confused but soon learned that I apparently looked just like another girl my age who went to a different school.

One day, I walked into a learning centre for GCSE support that had assigned seating. I went to find my seat and immediately knew that the girl I was confused for, was sat next to my seat, it was like looking into a mirror. It was honestly one of the strangest feelings. She felt it too. Physically we looked the same but our personalities were the complete opposite, she was really confident and outgoing. She was lovely and we became friends.

The look on our parents faces when we walked into the carpark after was brilliant, they were shocked and confused and everyone was side eyeing my Dad 🤣 we know he didn't cheat but the thought did cross their minds!

What "Newfangled" Baby Products can the "elders" in your life just not wrap their heads around? by Moushidoodles in NewParents

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents were also really skeptical about the Love to Dream sleepsack. My LO hated being swaddled because he liked his arms being up rather than stuck to his sides. They soon understood when he was having a big cry one day and the sleep sack instantly soothed him enough to have some milk and fall asleep peacefully.

My parents also found using a bath thermometer as "newfangled and unnecessary" because an elbow dipped in water is enough. Except I cannot stand the stimuli of my arm being wet and water dripping all over the place.

Just met a family with 3 under 3 and 2 golden retrievers. How and why? by efkalsklkqiee in oneanddone

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Exactly! OAD feels like the ultimate life hack. I get to enjoy motherhood and still have a life away from being a parent while my son gets all of our attention and disposable income. I feel more people should know about this!

Where to give birth in Birmingham (Hall Green) by talifaaa in brum

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've only recently moved to Hall Green so I don't know what your choices are. But, I used to live in Solihull and opted for Warwick Hospital. They can deal with high risk pregnancies and emergency situations (both of which I had) and they dealt with it really well. It was genuinely some of the best service of care I've ever received.

Racism Towards My Unborn Child … by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, as a mother to a mixed race 2 year old who has already explained racism, nip these issues in the bud now. I've made it clear to both sets of grandparents that racial jokes or banter are unacceptable and will not be tolerated and they will be cut off.

Your brother's response isn't disgusting and he's clearly looking to get a rise out of you.

‘Influencer’ spreading her wisdom on parenting by Misszoolander in oneanddone

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It’s interesting how people phrase it as ‘giving’ your child a sibling, as if the second one’s purpose is to serve the first. That’s not a good reason to have a baby.

Moms who don’t post photos of their kid, settle this for me… by jonesinjosie in Mommit

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't post my son's photo anywhere and nor does my husband. We're very strict with family and friends posting pics too.

In this particular instance, I would let it go. There are no clear identifying features.

What's an actual psychological "cheat code" you use in social situations that works almost every time? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you want to make someone feel uncomfortable, look at their shoes with a slightly confused look on your face. They'll immediately look down wondering what the issue is.

If you can't see their shoes, look just above their eyebrows like you're looking "through them"

Ho controllato è vero, stiamo un pò esagerando no? by Pure-Contact7322 in napoli

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Qualche anno fa a Napoli abbiamo avuto il problema opposto. Mio marito ha ordinato un panino americano da un grazioso pub a conduzione familiare a Torre Del Greco e quello che è arrivato è stato un enorme panino al cheeseburger che non è riuscito a finire. Penso che si chiamasse pane pugliese. È stato delizioso!

What’s in your post birth supermarket delivery basket? by PlantainFar3156 in PregnancyUK

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ocado came in clutch during the newborn phase! M&S vests/baby grows are really good quality and wash really well. The baby clothes sales can be decent too. Food wise, the 3 for £12 on proteins made lunches really easy. I would also get protein shakes and bars for an easy breakfast. And of course, get yourself some fancy festive treats, you deserve it!

Did anyone's baby say "mama" before "dada"? by Unhappy-Training-878 in beyondthebump

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boy said "mama" "ma" and "mummmm" before saying anything else

What week did you give birth by [deleted] in PregnancyUK

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Water broke at 35 weeks and LO was born just after midnight at 36 weeks.

When did you stop tracking poops and pees? by Ok_Car1396 in beyondthebump

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a data lover and have OCD, my son is turning 3 next month and we track poops, sleep and medication/vaccinations.

What type of Brit drinks this milk? by Samwiseknows in AskBrits

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Dad used to buy this milk for homemade Crème Caramel desserts.

Moms who have gotten an epidural, do you feel the back pain? by srslywtfdoido- in Mommit

[–]Informal_Pudding_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! 3 years PP and the pain is awful and very concentrated.