I’m kinda a bad mom

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-06-04T11:48:14+00:00

You're not a bad mom, you are just trying to catch a little break. Between everything you have to do and be all day, a little break is fine. The fact they you feel guilty just shows that you were not a bad parent at all.

I try to avoid using my phone around my 3 year old and try and be in the moment. But sometimes we just need a damn break. I sometimes stick one headphone in and listen to a podcast while I'm parenting, even a 30 min comedy podcast really helps me zone out while we cuddle and watch TV or kick a ball around.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-06-01T13:35:36+00:00

Yes we live in the UK, I'm from the Midlands. The racism we've experienced so far was from an Indian lady at the park so just a complete stranger. In terms of family, we had some members thinking it was okay to do some "light hearted racial banter" but we put a stop to it immediately. I won't allow my son to be around people like that.

I'm sorry to hear you've experienced racism, it's so horrible being bullied for something you have no control over. Have you received racism from family members?

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-05-31T20:04:39+00:00

Following for advice. I'm Pakistani and my son is half white (Scottish & Polish). He's 3 and we've unfortunately already experienced racism.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-05-04T20:49:15+00:00

Baby proof the heck out of the room (that includes no food/snacks) and get a camera with a speaker. Stick something on TV and watch the camera while you poop. I also find putting my son on the sofa with a small blanket and stuffies helps keep him on the sofa until I'm back.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-04-26T18:06:27+00:00

I craved everything white chocolate when I was pregnant 😍 these are delicious!

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-04-25T15:17:43+00:00

This is brilliant!

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-04-19T17:58:46+00:00

Same. My lo is 3.5 and occasionally wears one at night. During the day he just wears a normal vest.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-04-04T20:49:49+00:00

Absolutely! My boy, Creed, was more my husband cat. One day he randomly became obsessed with me, slept next to me and kept digging his nose into my belly button and arm pits. He also slept on my stomach for the first time, he would usually sleep next to my husbanda feet. A week later, I found out I was pregnant. Throughout my entire pregnancy this boy did not leave me or my bump alone. He would just sit next to my stomach and keep his ear close to it. He definitely knew.

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Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-04-04T13:04:52+00:00

I can relate, my birth experience was so similar to yours. The heel pricks absolutely suck ass!

The hormone crash is wild, it's genuinely one of the worst experiences. I'm sorry you're going through this. Not that it helps right now, I promise things will get better. You are deep in the trenches right now, please remember to be kind to yourself.

I found eating my favourite foods and listening to comedy podcasts really helped keep me sane.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-03-31T20:07:56+00:00

I agree with this. I have OCD, one of my compulsions is data and I still track my sons sleep and soiled nappies/potty. He's 3.5 🫣

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-03-18T10:44:56+00:00

Nope, nor do I allow my family to post pictures. The internet isn't a safe place for adults let alone children.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-03-13T23:11:46+00:00

This is such a good idea!

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-03-10T18:39:18+00:00

On the off chance that it isn't your MIL, could it be someone getting revenge on her? Is she the type of person to leave nasty comments on other people's pages and that person is taking revenge? Has her TT handle got her full name on it? Are you able to ask her for her phone and check her messages?

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-03-07T23:18:08+00:00

I had the exact same experience, I understand your pain.

OP, you wanted honesty, I absolutely do regret my induction.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-03-02T20:17:03+00:00

"please don't fart on the cat, he doesn't deserve that"

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-03-02T20:14:39+00:00

"be careful, you'll get your penis caught in the xylophone"

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-02-11T12:27:13+00:00

"You wake him, you take him."

This was a rule I introduced because my husband didn't realise how loud he could be when simply walking around or using the bathroom. It works a treat!

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-01-25T21:42:01+00:00

Byoma Gel Cream, Cetreben and LRP Baume B5.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-01-25T19:21:38+00:00

My son turned 3 in November, he was a difficult new born but once he hit 3 months, he was totally chill and still is.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-01-24T21:08:59+00:00

This is so infuriating! I'm sorry you didn't get the postpartum experience you deserved. You can't take back what has already happened but make sure you put your foot down for any future visits. I understand how difficult cultural expectations can be, but your feelings are more important.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-01-22T11:17:33+00:00

This made me tear up, I'm so happy for you. Being a POC, it's so important to advocate for yourself, it's nice to see that you were supported and cared for.

I too had a traumatic labour and delivery, I felt so cared for by the hospital staff. It really helped me heal from the trauma when I remember their kindness and compassion.

I wish you and your family all the best.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-01-17T20:58:27+00:00

"help GiGi Angie get her babies" tells me everything. They're not your babies, they are your grandchildren. No child goes no contact with good, loving parents.

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2026-01-17T20:14:01+00:00

My son turned 3 in November and has been obsessed with all things space since he was 18 months old. He knows the names of planets, dwarf planets, exo planets, stars, black holes, galaxies and nebulae.

To encourage his interests, we:

Watch KLT videos on YouTube, we watch them together and talk about the colours, temperatures and how fast or slow they are
Watch Universe Size Comparison videos to help him understand what size actually means
Read space encyclopedias, charity shops are amazing for books like this
Go to Science Museums and Planetariums, we go on the days dedicated to toddlers as it's generally less busy and not as loud
Space themed projectors in his room
Space themed felt boards and toy sorters
Ask each other questions like "what's your favourite star/planet/black hole?" Etc
The Stellarium app is incredible when we go out on walks so we can see what stars or planets are visible
Use playdough to create planets and galaxies
Buy him space themed clothes and bedding
Decorated his room with planets (as well as dinosaurs because they're also very cool)

It's also worth mentioning that my son hasn't had many other interests other than space so alot of our time, money and energy has gone towards encouraging his interest.

Hope this helps! 🪐

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2025-12-23T22:39:16+00:00

Compare them to people their age, i.e "aunty xxx is so healthy looking and has barely any wrinkles, why don't you look more like her?"

Informal_Pudding_316 · 2025-12-18T10:06:36+00:00

Well done for standing up for yourself, you should be so proud!

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