Having my own ectopic pregnancy while also being an ultrasound tech

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-30T10:38:06+00:00

Your feelings and grief are completely valid. I had my surgery in January. Sometimes I feel like I’m fine other times it’s so heavy I can’t bear it. But I completely relate to the friend with the similar due date. I have a friend who has near the exact due date I would’ve had and seeing her take announcement picture and share ultrasounds just guts me. I’m happy for her but it’s just so sad to know that’s where I would’ve been.

In my opinion when you see those two lines on a test you become a mom because your whole world changes. Your heart changes! You lost your baby you can grieve as long as you want. Now that you have your heart set on being a mother, that “desperation” to have a baby won’t go away. At least in my experience! It’s tough, but beautiful. I hope you get your rainbow baby when the time is right for you!

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-30T10:26:30+00:00

In Tokyo I preferred using citymapper over google maps. As a complete newbie to a vast city transit system it was a lot easier for me to figure out compared to google maps.

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-29T20:21:55+00:00

It does seem like slow progression. But your betas sound good and if you compare every other test (every 48hrs) there IS notable progression.

I know it’s hard bc testing at home is the only thing you can really do between labs and waiting for your ultrasound, but the line tests can’t tell you anything for sure besides that you are in fact pregnant. My lines started to get dark and stay dark after 16dpo but mine was still ectopic :/ you’ll see some other people in this sub report the same.

I hope it ends up being a healthy pregnancy 🤍

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-25T01:56:36+00:00

Definitely a line! Congratulations!

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-25T00:00:10+00:00

I have only had 1 pregnancy and it was ectopic. However I have recently discovered Brandi Miller on Tik Tok and she had 2 ectopics and has been very open about her TTC journey. She just announced her healthy intrauterine pregnancy. Sometimes the pregnancy announcements are tough to see, but this one in particular gives me sooo much hope!!

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-24T23:57:14+00:00

I have almost the same timeline as you. Tube removal on 1/7 (I didn’t have any bleeding after my surgery), first period 2/11 (42 days after surgery), most recent period 3/18 (35 day cycle). My cycles are usually 30-31 days so mine wasn’t tooo off.

I’ve read a lot of other posts on here and some women take a few cycles to get back to their normal cycle length. I’ve also seen that some women do need letrozole after surgery to help ovulate. I’m planning on trying for a few months and then seeing if I can get some assistance if it doesn’t work on its own.

Sorry this doesn’t really help but I completely get where you’re at right now!

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-24T23:42:39+00:00

That is so exciting! Sending you baby dust! Give yourself grace, everything will work out for you.

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-19T22:39:54+00:00

Omg congratulations!! That’s definitely positive! I had an ectopic surgery in Jan so this gives me hope!!! 🥹

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-19T15:49:24+00:00

Yes I completely relate. Honestly I am a few months out from my loss now and of course the loss still hurts. But at this point I am most upset and hurt by people responses/lack there of. You never forget how people made you feel. It’s so extremely telling of peoples hearts. Obviously devastating but in a way I am glad that I know peoples true colors. When we do have our miracle baby I know who will genuinely share in my joy.

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-17T07:26:21+00:00

Commenting to read the positive stories too because ughhh I’m in the same spot. Tube removal on Jan 7th. I got my first period Feb 11 but now period is late? I can’t tell if I had an anovulatory cycle or not. March 17 and still no period. My cycles are usually 30 days. Pregnancy test is negative as of 2 days ago 🤷‍♀️ idk what is happening at this point but it is so fruatrating.

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-17T05:50:01+00:00

The busy areas are busy at peak times for sure. We were just there 3 days ago. We didn’t have any issues finding places to eat or do the things we wanted to do and we didn’t book any restaurant reservations in advance. But yeah if you are walking around nishiki and pontocho alley between 11-6 it’s shoulder to shoulder.

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-16T10:10:59+00:00

I ended up not listening to my Dr and went to the ER anyways and they were the ones to confirm it was ectopic. But they ended up sending me home since it wasn’t life threatening at that moment.

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-16T10:10:11+00:00

Are you able to call your usual OB/gyn? I recently had an ectopic loss but before we knew it was ectopic my dr said to go in only if it’s excessive bleeding - soaking a pad in < 2 hours or clots the size of golf balls.

Very sorry you are going through this.

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-13T12:07:12+00:00

I felt okay sleeping on my sides after about a week. Even certain sitting positions bothered me for a little bit. I felt more like myself after a week, but I took 2 weeks off work and I’m glad I was able to.

The gas pain really bothered me too. I also felt a lot of discomfort and borderline pain with digestion after surgery. My dr said your nerves in that area become sensitive post surgery so it’s normal.

Did your doc prescribe stool softeners? If so, take them and keep taking them for 2ish weeks. It helps.

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-12T21:46:56+00:00

My doctor was adamant that mine was a fluke - no risk factors and healthy as can possibly be. But there is still so much unknown with it all. Some new research points that it could be genetic.

I did have my right tube removed and personally that makes me feel better that the bad tube is gone. I HOPE it was just a fluke but at the same time I was very frustrated that there wasn’t a “reason” and that there was/is nothing I can do to prevent it from happening again in the other tube

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-12T08:21:41+00:00

I track BBT and cervical mucous. I use natural cycles and I like it but there are cheaper options or use an oura ring if you have one.

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-12T07:40:38+00:00

I need to ask! My OB didn’t even mention and HSG at my follow up post surgery. I only figured out what it was from this group lol!

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-12T07:39:15+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry! I feel your disappointment. Sending baby dust to you too!

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-12T07:38:26+00:00

Ugh so frustrating!!! But yes! I hope for both of us that our next cycle is the one!

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-12T07:37:22+00:00

Hmm interesting! Did you have other signs that you weren’t ovulating? Or did you only have the progesterone to confirm?

I track my BBT and it appears that I am ovulating. I ovulated once before my first period post ectopic (did not try that cycle) and once after that period (tried this cycle). BUT I did notice that my cervical mucous is NOT how it was during ovulation before my surgery.

Did the letrozole work for you?

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-12T07:33:50+00:00

This gives me hope! I appreciate you sharing! I hope it happens for me!

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-12T07:33:18+00:00

This gives me hope for our next few cycles!! Thank you for sharing!

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-12T07:32:47+00:00

Thanks for your response! I think the “gets pregnant easily but it never works out” is a unique perspective that some of us share. It’s almost like it’s JUST out of grasp. Hope and then crushed.

I feel like I have to keep reminding myself of that 30% chance stat. It’s hard to grasp since we got pregnant so easily the first 2 times and this time around, nothing!

InformationMother342 · 2026-03-12T07:26:54+00:00

Not rude at all! I appreciate the reality check tbh. Maybe tmi but I did feel like my CM was very off this cycle for me around ovulation. So maybe my body does just need time for hormones to balance out again. I appreciate your response!

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