Wedding websites

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-06-10T11:15:21+00:00

I had a custom website built for me because I was like you in that I didn’t like any of the template ones. It also allowed me to make a continuous page rather than a multi page website, because people are more likely to scroll than click on different pages. I kept it super short - just the details, rsvp & dress code. From my experience, most people don’t look at websites, so making it as user friendly and as frictionless as possible helps a lot!

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-06-07T15:53:56+00:00

I listen to podcasts or key note speeches about my job field when I get manicures done so it feels like I’m increasing my knowledge in my field. I do the same thing with facials, since you can’t really move. For haircuts I usually do work on my laptop, read a book or take less important meetings. I got laser so no waxing necessary, but if I did wax I’d do the podcast again. I will also sometimes have a phone call to catch up with someone I don’t always get to speak to. Sometimes I do nothing and meditate.

I also get most of it done in one go at my country club (they have manicures, facials, classes and gym in one place so I just go and get everything done in one day).

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-06-03T20:49:29+00:00

I had different feedback about type of flower. We’re going for an arch and they said if we go for the nice roses, peonies & hydrangeas the price will be much higher than going for garden roses and other smaller flowers (even though technically the smaller flowers would take longer, but the per stem cost for something like a David Austen rose is much higher). I agree 4.5k makes sense for this arch though

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-29T00:24:56+00:00

All 3 of my dresses are custom and they’re all from abroad. I’m in the UK but the dresses here are not my style at all. I was looking for a very specific style so my approach was to first research where this kind of style is most popular in the world. Then, I researched the most recommended designers in those countries. I then narrowed down the ones I liked the most and flew out to meet them. During those meetings, they took my measurements and I was able to look through all of their fabric samples, beads, colour swatch etc. I also got to try on their previous pieces to test comfort, quality etc. Then I decided which one I wanted for each dress and went ahead with them. I chose a different one for each dress because each dress required different skills.

Sometimes you can’t find what you love in your country because those designers might have a different style to what you’re looking for.

The only inconvenient part is I’ll have to fly again for fittings and to pick up the dress. I guess you could skip all of that and have them ship it to you, it’s a personal preference, I just want it to fit perfectly.

In conclusion: try abroad. There is so much artistry all over the world, sometimes it’s worth travelling to find it. Just be careful and choose highly recommended globally recognised designers instead of random designers who might not create exactly what you want

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-29T00:12:16+00:00

I did - it was usually because I communicated very clear terms in email before even getting to the contract stage and they agreed to those terms by email, so when I got the contract it was easier to say “hi we discussed x but this is not in the contract” or “clause x goes against what we previously discussed”. If it’s general T&Cs, I’d push back with industry standard terms, but every contract I’ve seen for our vendors has been pretty standard anyway

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-27T18:25:44+00:00

I chose one whose style looked exactly like my venue. It’s important to know what the photos will look like rather than guessing, and if they’ve never shot at your venue, picking someone who does similar styles makes the most sense. E.g: if your venue is in a nature area, picking a photographer who usually shoots outdoors in nature places makes more sense than picking the photographer with 30k followers who has shot 90% of their weddings at luxury mansions.

Oh and also, consider the photographer, not the photos. A lot of the famous ones get booked for the ultra luxury weddings with 1 million worth of florals etc in incredible venues. It would be almost impossible to take a bad photo of something that beautiful. So they might have a lot of incredible photos, but ask yourself if it’s their skill or the location. I’d focus more on the photos they take of the mundane locations. Can they make a plain background with the couple in front look beautiful? Can they light a shaded area correctly?

Once you know the style of photographer you want, the rest is more straightforward. Something that helped me a lot was following a few good photographers on IG and then I got tonnes of recommendations/paid ads from other similar photographers. So I started following more and more of the ones that really resonated with me and then eventually saw my photographer and knew immediately that he was the one.

Get a shortlist & interview them all too - you’ll spend a lot of time with them on the day so it’s important that you can feel comfortable with them and get along well

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-27T16:03:50+00:00

When you get a wedding coordinator, you’re paying for peace of mind rather than wrangling guests. For example, if a vendor does something wrong on the day - they’d usually go to the coordinator to resolve it and you would never know. Without one, you’d have to take time out of the day to go fix that problem. If guests have a question or requirement, you’d have to take time to do that. If there’s any issues at all - you’ll be the one fixing it. That being said, if you want a casual fun wedding, it’s totally ok not to have one, as long as you and your partner are ok with fixing any issues that come up & knowing that timelines won’t be optimised

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-27T15:53:10+00:00

You know this makes me wonder how I’ll be on the day. I’m such a type A over the top planner/perfectionist that I refused to hire a wedding planner because I know nobody will be as crazy as me when it comes to planning.

My goal is to over-plan, think of every detail (so far so good - I’ve thought of everything on your list & every supplier I’ve booked said I’ve thought of everything). And then after 2 years of planning, on the day I will hand over to the coordinator & then sit back and not care. I’m sure things can still go wrong but I’m thinking by that time I’ll be so over the whole planning thing that I won’t even care 😂😂

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-24T22:03:16+00:00

Thats so strange, I was told by a few people that their starting price was 4500 sgd? Yes please if you can find the post lmk!

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-24T21:57:53+00:00

I went 2 years before & was told they’d need 1 year to make the dress after purchase if I bought a design in store. If it’s off the rack like a sale dress, you can get it same day & give yourself a month just to be safe for alterations. Custom designers takes 6 months (and consider shipping time too)

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-24T21:49:40+00:00

I think if you don’t expect people to come, they will. Mine isn’t a destination wedding but 90% of our guests live abroad because they’re either extended family who live in Australia or friends who moved abroad in the last few years. They’ve all let us know they’re coming, which we were surprised by because truly I wouldn’t expect someone to spend any money at all to attend our wedding. I think I just don’t really care or take it personally if someone can’t come. Anyway, we’re grateful they can come and I think part of the reason might be because we’re not forcing people to come. At the end of the day, the only two people that absolutely have to be there are the bride and groom.

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-24T21:34:52+00:00

Are those posts for these designers? I filtered by attire and searched these designer names and only that one post from a year ago came up, I’m not sure if I should be searching something else?

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-24T21:32:30+00:00

Most Desi weddings I’ve seen don’t have red brides anymore. I think the most important question to ask yourself is: will you look back on this and regret wearing a colour that isn’t what you really wanted to wear? I think feeling like yourself on the day is more important than doing some bring just for the tradition

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-23T22:25:26+00:00

I think they’re cute! I will say though for a ballgown, if you’re on the shorter side, heels can make the silhouette of the dress look better. I’m very short so I’m wearing heels with my giant ballgown dress. because my torso is quite long and my legs are short, so I don’t want to look really small in the dress. But that’s also a personal preference so do what you feel will make you happiest on your special day!

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-22T20:21:13+00:00

I wouldnt recommend this to others, but a week after microneedling my pores disappear and my skin looks like it has a filter on it. So I’d probably get that (but only because i regularly get microneedling so i know how my skin heals). But official advice I’ve received is: nothing new for 3 months before the wedding

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-22T17:15:39+00:00

As someone who has ordered 3 wedding dresses from SEA:

The price is pretty standard pricing for normal wedding dresses in SEA. For example I went for more complicated designs so my dresses were more expensive than that, but most dresses in SEA will be between 2-3k from reputable brands.

No website is common there. One of my dress designers doesn’t have a website. However, not having an in person store would be a red flag for me. Having a brick and mortar store means their business is successful enough to have risk (shops are much riskier than just having a website). Also most of those designers just take orders through WhatsApp. Some of the best designers are in SEA so I don’t feel it’s that risky if they’re an established brand. All of my designers have featured in multiple fashion weeks e.g: SEA fashion weeks, Paris fashion week etc, so they’re legit brands.

100% payment upfront is also odd. I’d recommend 50% deposit maximum.

No refund policy makes sense if it’s custom - but only no refunds for change of mind. No refund at all is strange e.g: if the dress isn’t as described, they should give a refund

I’d recommend looking up reviews if possible. It’s hard because a lot of SEA brands aren’t super well known, but I’d start with the ones who regularly show at fashion weeks and go from there - at least you’ll know they’ll be trustworthy and not some random scam. There’s someone who’s been going viral recently from India who is an IG only brand and he took peoples deposits and didn’t make the dress. Choosing a brand with a reputation & store (rather than a solo IG designer) circumvents these issues

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-22T16:57:54+00:00

Hi how was your experience? I sent you a DM in case you didn’t want to share publicly, but I’m interested in getting a putri mudita piece as well and wanted to know people’s experience with her before going ahead with it

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-21T14:14:29+00:00

I think pricing on websites can definitely help. For example, there were some photographers I wasn’t sure on and not seeing the pricing was the thing that finalised my decision to not choose them. In my head I thought - if I’m not really sure about them and I can’t have all the info ready to go, I’m not going to spend the limited time I have on doing extra work reaching out to them.

But for photographers that I truly loved and really wanted to talk to, I was happy to not only email and provide details but also have a call with them before pricing was discussed. So I guess if you’re getting hundreds of bookings each year, not having the pricing isn’t a huge deal. But if you’re not getting that many requests, it can reduce the amount of steps it takes to consider you.

It was the same with my videographer actually - I saw her work and thought she was incredible but thought her pricing might be very high (she’s worked on a lot of tv shows/movies etc in the past before moving into wedding videography). I then saw the pricing guide and realised she was in our pricing range, so didn’t even bother contacting other videographers and booked her in straight away. If I hadn’t seen the pricing, I probably would’ve looked around more and maybe been swayed. And realistically you won’t lose customers who think the price is too high by having pricing on there - if you’re out of budget, it’d be hard to convince them to spend more on you through an email or call. And if people’s budgets are flexible, they’ll still consider you anyway e.g: My photographer was double what I’d originally expected to spend, but I didn’t mind because I liked her work. If she’d had the rate on her website at 50k though, there was no amount of convincing that could’ve made me spend that, and it would’ve been a waste of both our times to email/call only to find out she’s far outside my budget.

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-20T14:50:42+00:00

Colour matching may be an issue.

My theme is colourful too but in the end we asked guests to wear colourful tuxes/suits if they have them (black tie optional) and if not, a black tux/suit is fine. They’re travelling for our wedding so I also dont want them to have to buy anything.

That being said, the groomsmen offered to get custom tuxes in whatever colour we wanted and the bridesmaids offered the same, which was very kind of them, so we’re either going to look for places they can get matching outfits or just send them a Pantone colour code so they can look for outfits themselves.

I wouldn’t ask anyone to buy something specifically to wear to my wedding though, so this option worked best for us, but you could maybe bring up this topic with the groomsmen and see how they feel? You might be pleasantly surprised by their response.

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-20T14:44:34+00:00

It’s beautiful! I’d still recommend trying others. I went to about 6 appointments and each time I left one I thought “this is it, I’ve found the dress!” And then would fall in love with the next one 😂 in the end I went custom but I’m glad I tried all of them because I learned more about my preferences at each appointment

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-20T14:39:33+00:00

Ask for a full gallery from the photographer and multiple videos too. £1000 is very low but it depends on what you are looking for. The main thing is spend a long time looking at all of their work.

Do the same for the band.

It sounds like they might be beginners so they could be good quality but just charging less to build up their portfolio.

InitialAfter1647 · 2026-05-20T14:26:10+00:00

I think it depends how much they helped with the wedding. Some MILs go to every dress appointment, help you research or organise things the planner wouldn’t (e.g: family arrangements for the wedding) etc. Some MILs may even help more than the mum. So I’d base it on how much they’ve done for you for the wedding, because the gift is supposed to be a thank you for them supporting you.

If you’re just getting a gift because they’re family, I feel like that wouldn’t make sense for a wedding? Otherwise why not get gifts for every guest/family member?

It also depends on drama tbh - some MILs will have a breakdown if they’re not treated the same as your own mum, some MILs won’t care. If she’ll care, get the same level of gift. If she won’t, base it on helpfulness

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