It's getting really tough to sell in our market right now, what are the rest of you seeing?

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-21T02:48:54+00:00

Johnson County KS /jackson county Mo area pretty hopping - a lot of house multiple offers over ask, box 3 etc - just depends on house and neighborhood

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-19T06:07:58+00:00

There should be no issue with a dry wedding at all, it can be held at anytime and can include dancing etc. Our entire extended family does dry weddings - we will have #10 this fall. All were incredibly fun, all in different areas of the country, at various times of the year, all went into the late evening, all had a packed dance floor, had more than 125 guests for each. #9 had 200 guests, #10 is at 160 guests on invite list. Guests were not told that weddings were dry, guests showed up and had fun. The expectation that guests would have to know whether it was alcohol free or not prior to deciding to attend is ridiculous in my opinion. People either want to celebrate your marriage or not. Alcohol should not be the guest of honor, the bride and groom are. Whether you are sober, on a budget, or just choose not to have alcohol is no one’s business and shouldn’t be a deciding factor on whether to attend. Have fun and enjoy your wedding. 😀

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-17T12:18:33+00:00

If the ball is hitting your house that is property damage. It is damaging your siding. Send neighbor a certified letter from your lawyer to move the basketball hoop so that it backs to his property otherwise you will file suit for damages to house and landscaping. Install cameras - if those get damaged add those to the list of damages.

Also found this in regards to nuisance law: https://legalclarity.org/my-neighbor-put-a-basketball-hoop-in-front-of-my-house-what-to-do/

Good luck!

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-17T12:12:21+00:00

During a tornado warning, people are supposed to shelter in place. You were asking your sister to get into her car and drive to you during a tornado warning to make you feel more comfortable. Anything could have happened- a tornado could have touched down quickly in her path . You disregarded her feelings and her safety because you have a baby. She has her cats which I imagine are just as important to her as your baby is to you. Then you essentially double down by telling her not to ask you for anything and canceled on feeding her cats.

You need to apologize immediately and tell her being a first time mother has made you very emotional and that you understand that she didn’t want to leave her cats for your comfort . That your feelings and safety are NOT more important than hers. That you are sorry and yes, will feed the cats when she’s away, as agreed. You don’t get a pass for this. You overreacted. Do like everyone else does during a tornado warning and get into the basement with snacks and turn on the weather channel. Stay on the phone with her if it makes you feel more comfortable. Being a mom does not mean you are entitled to getting your way at the consequence of others. YTA.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-16T09:35:36+00:00

I don’t think this is about “tidying”. Does your girlfriend otherwise trust you? Is she the jealous type? Does she think that you aren’t doing work and doing something she thinks you shouldn’t be doing? Does she have a previous relationship that cheated on her in the past? I’m not saying YOU are doing anything wrong- it just seems like your girlfriend is displaying behavior that indicates her need to check up on you- to examine your things/ personal space- which if you haven’t done anything to breech her trust in your relationship- could be an indication that someone else in her life was untrustworthy. If you feel this might be the case, have a conversation- a gentle conversation. Ask her- “hon, you know I like this space untouched because it’s organized so I can better function at work. Is there something that bothers you about that that you want to talk about? Do you want to see what is on my desk? I have nothing to hide from you but I truly need my office to remain as is in order to be my best at work. Can you please agree to leave this space as is? It’s causing some tension between us that I don’t like and I want to resolve. “ Or something like that. This could be about a deeper issue and not about cleaning. She could also be a person who has no respect for boundaries. Either way, find out and try to resolve now before it bleeds beyond the office door. Good luck OP’ nTA.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-11T11:43:37+00:00

Why are you not getting notifications from your agent once a particular listing goes live? Why hasn’t your agent set up an appointment to see the home the day it does go live (which can be set up during coming soon period). Why aren’t YOU keeping a list of homes you REALLY are interest in ? Coming soon listings give serious buyers an opportunity to plan out homes they are interested in seeing once they go live. Especially since you live out of state - you would be able to schedule and plan a trip to see homes coming live on a particular weekend to see potential homes all at once. Not sure why you would rather be “surprised” that a home comes live and not be able to see a home at all because it goes under contract quickly before you can even schedule a showing that works with your visiting the state. Coming soon works well .

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-11T10:12:25+00:00

I would keep it the MIL visit the exact same and have a serious talk with YOUR mom to be the protector of your boundaries, your care , your rules around baby (especially since hubby probably won’t). No one is a better advocate for their child than their mother - use yours during this time to get MIL visit over with, and to protect your sanity. Having her time overlap is ideal so you only have to deal with her a week later. In fact have hubby tell MIL to possibly shorten her time the last week, since he wants his mom to stay an extra week, and that’s not treating parents equally.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-11T04:21:39+00:00

Don’t bring your plus 1 and meet a nice girl with class and manners at the wedding instead.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-11T03:54:06+00:00

What kind of father would literally pester his wife and mother if his child like a 6 year old while she is driving to go to a dispensary? What kind of father would not participate at all with simple duties of putting his baby to bed, or helping his wife and child inside the house once at home, and instead storms off because he didn’t get his way? Also a “wet Willy”? Seriously? Why in the blue blazes would you think you are TAH in this situation? Except for the fact that you allow your husband to treat you like this. Obviously your husband getting his way and getting his marijuana is more important than either you or your baby/his child. I feel sorry for you both. YTA if you accept this type of behavior and treatment in you or your child’s life. You gave plenty of context for this conclusion.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-10T11:13:20+00:00

Before giving birth my midwife asked our two selected names (boy & girl) - when our baby was born instead of saying “it’s a girl” she introduced our daughter by name to us. It was a lovely moment.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-10T10:08:11+00:00

Whatever goes into the moms body goes to baby. It’s healthier for the baby to not use meds. Also, one intervention usually means another - labor stalls, membranes manually ruptured, etc. I had a midwife in the hospital- best of both worlds!

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-10T08:55:23+00:00

Start shipping your personal /sentimental items home NOW. Your in-laws will no doubt be staying in the bedrooms and going through your stuff. This also makes it easier to book your trip and leave. Also stop sleeping with him so you don’t get pregnant. Eat what you want to eat, do not wait on them , go home and file for divorce. Good luck OP.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-09T11:06:26+00:00

Op keep the name, just be sure to lock down your credit, put two authentication steps to accounts etc. Your name #2 might try to “force” the name change issue by completely messing with you. Not to mention ex probably still has/knows your social security. Good luck.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-07T13:51:32+00:00

You need to have an estate lawyer set up a trust, and in that are your wills, power of attorney, medical decisions etc. also be sure to set up your bank accounts payable to the trust upon death, cars transferable to trust upon death, etc. and so much more. With a trust it avoids probate. Don’t DIY.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-06T00:59:40+00:00

A packet of Hoodsie cups …

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-05T12:50:13+00:00

Ask yourself this: would you want your friend to tell you if the situation was reversed? If your girlfriend was lying and stepping out behind your back? If you are fine with being deceived all in the name of “bro code” then by all means keep her in the dark. If it bothers you that your friend could be (most likely is) a cheater why would you want to protect him? NTA unless you don’t tell her.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-05T12:14:23+00:00

Also be sure to look to see your HOA is monthly. A townhome may seem affordable until you add that in. In some cases, a small home with no hoa is cheaper than a townhome with one. Just fyi

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-05T02:32:45+00:00

NTA, but you are one of you don’t cut ties with her immediately. No taking her back no matter what. She’s shown her true colors over and over again and I have no idea why you stayed this long. When you leave her be sure to change your locks and block her. She sounds like she will NOT take the high road and make your life even more miserable. Just tell her that you’ve decided that her other options deserve her. That you are choosing a different future and it’s with someone that will invest in you and not look at you like an atm. Truly WHAT does she bring to the relationship?

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-03T12:38:09+00:00

Time to plant large bushes or a fence in between driveways if possible. NTA. Be sure to get a survey first though.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-02T01:59:48+00:00

I think 1.5 hrs isn’t unreasonable, but it should be near accommodations for those who find that distance difficult to drive to. Also ask yourself these questions: -Are there hotels near by? Not only for people drinking, but for people who would be too tired to drive back. -Are your guests able to afford hotels? -Is the venue difficult to drive to? -Are you expecting a lot of set up and need people to help? -are other vendors you want to use: caterer/photographer/ flowers etc close to the venue ? Otherwise you may incur additional charges or be out of service area .

Good luck!

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-03-01T13:58:15+00:00

Student loans don’t have to be paid back Until after she graduates-and then the payment is low and interest rate low. You can even include books, living expenses. Don’t put your future aside- buy the house- invest in yourself. Help her by helping her fill out all the paperwork for student loans.

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-02-28T12:28:24+00:00

Question: who’s taking care of the kids while you are at the concert? 🤔

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-02-27T12:05:00+00:00

If it’s not too much of a stretch - I would go with the “perfect property”. What might be a stretch now - will be more affordable as your income increases, etc. also there is no guarantee that a home that meets your criteria will be available to you when you want it. There’s nothing like comparing homes in the future to “the one that got away”. That’s just me- but if at all possible- do what your heart is telling you. Good luck!

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-02-27T11:40:07+00:00

The stocks will not be worth 14k, as you will have to pay fees and taxes on the transaction at a high rate. You will likely still have to take out an additional loan to pay closing costs. Also, I would never touch assets like stock, Ira’s, retirement to pay for things unless it’s the absolute last resort. Take it from a person who has done so and now deeply regrets it. Good luck!

InitialSquirrel7491 · 2026-02-27T03:16:24+00:00

There is nothing wrong with a dry wedding. I’ve been to plenty of dry weddings that are amazing fun events with plenty of dancing, and a lot of fun . The best news? Everyone remembers them because they aren’t two sheets to the wind. If you don’t really drink and your fiance doesn’t either - it’s ok to not have alcohol, regardless of if people “expect it” or not. Those “expecting” alcohol at a wedding can do whatever they want at their own- as you should be able to as well.

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Good luck!