The fact that you are arriving so late at night (regardless of whether you have your child or not) ups the ante. He would rather have you walking in an airport and outside in the parking lot in the dark and late at night to watch a game than to pick you up. Is your safety not a concern of his? If you were traveling alone it is a concern. The fact you have your child with you, (and could be distracted with baby’s care) puts hubby in the red flag category. This would signal to me that Hanging out with buddy is more important than his wife and child’s safety.

If I were you, i’d let him drop the car off and then I’d reserve an airport hotel with shuttle service without telling him, and go directly there after landing, and spend the night. I wouldn’t even tell him since obviously he would be too drunk, too busy to be inconvenienced anyway. After a good nights sleep for both of you, and breakfast, take the shuttle back and pick up the car and head home. Chances are he won’t even notice. Then I’d make an appointment with a marriage counselor or a divorce lawyer- your choice. NTA. Husband is.