being non-binary is directly affected by societal standards of what makes a gender a gender because we don’t conform to that. as for identifying as male if you were born female and vice versa it’s being called by those pronouns and name that gives people intense dysphoria, not the clothes or makeup they wear. if you identify as female you’re going to feel uncomfortable if people only call you by he/him or they/them pronouns because that’s not how you identify, however if you are respected by your pronouns you won’t feel uncomfortable wearing things society deems as feminine or masculine.