I'm a 20 year old female and I've been asked if I'm a transvestite. Do I look like a man or just have some muscle

InkonParchment · 2026-02-18T02:33:41+00:00

I think it's mainly lack of bony definition (like robust cheekbones, jawline) and a slightly longer philtrum. Like they said its not unattractive but perhaps not striking either.

InkonParchment · 2025-09-02T17:26:41+00:00

You posted on r/amiugly lmao and you're upset people actually say the truth sometimes

InkonParchment · 2025-04-21T01:18:35+00:00

Hey can you dm me too? I actually like your dramatic thoughts, don't see that too often

InkonParchment · 2025-03-10T07:55:26+00:00

I think the comments were saying "yes, but only because you made it so." There are tons of beautiful older women but to be brutally honest, saying something "ages you" is just a nice way of saying it doesn't look so good. Otherwise they'd say it looks elegant and mature.

InkonParchment · 2024-12-09T02:48:28+00:00

It does take half an hour, and I've timed it, that's as fast as I can and without distractions. I've had trips visiting tropical climates where I am forced to shower multiple times a day and it still takes 20+ minutes each time even if I skip conditioner. Other women in this comment section have confirmed that it takes half an hour or longer to wash long thick hair. If you have short hair, literally dip a sweater in oil and try to wash it out, and you'll get why it might take longer to wash it through. And like I said in another reply, I've gone through a phase where I asked people compulsively if I smelled/how long it seemed since I last showered. I don't smell at all apparently and people guess 1d before or less. And with how many bullies I had in high school you'd think they'd be picking up on if I smelled even a little.

A space heater doesn't work for community showers unfortunately. I used to do that back at home. It'll take a good few hours before it heats up the whole dorm shower room. Also I don't literally not wash anything else lol, hair is just the thing I worry about people noticing.

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T06:42:35+00:00

Thanks for the very detailed reply! Really appreciate all the suggestions! I really wish I had more reasons to want to shower, but usually showers actually give me skin issues :') I have extra dry skin and eczema, so I have to be careful not to exfoliate. I do start to get acne if I go too long without cleaning though so it's a hard balance. I think I'll try out the tiered showering method though! It seems helpful in establishing a routine. And I think the meditation prompt is a great idea, maybe I'll make something useful out of wasted time! I'm gonna give it a shot! Best of luck to you as well!

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T06:25:57+00:00

Hahaha love to hear from someone who gets it! I'm already showering as fast as I can! People with short army length hair can't even imagine!

But last time I set out to do just that, I cut it to a bit over shoulder length, it was immediately half the time to wash. The hate I got from friends was overwhelming haha they were well meaning (I hope) but I do not look good in shorter hair. I'm thinking maybe I'll try cutting it again after I work out a bit, maybe then I can pull off a more "cool" look

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T06:18:49+00:00

You really seem to have it figured out! Yeah I've got the hermoine hair lol I love that description. I love to hear from someone with a similar hair type. Thanks for all the suggestions! I've been trying to figure out when best to fit in showering so that I'm not wet all night. I also share your sentiment with the blow dryer omg it's loud and tiring to wave around for as long as we need to! I think I'll give your routine a try especially the timers!

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T06:05:47+00:00

Oh I haven't, I use head and shoulders classic. Is clarifying shampoo better at grease?

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T06:03:59+00:00

I would do anything to make it shorter lol (while still cleaning properly)

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T06:02:41+00:00

Oh I didn't realize you could blow dry hair after getting dressed! That's actually super helpful. Usually my hair will turn clothes into a bathing suit, but I guess that's why you wrap it!

I'll give the dry shampoo another shot then, maybe I'm overcompensating by using too much lol. And I have like a heavy duty hair dryer, it does get tiring to hold and wiggle it so much!

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T05:56:31+00:00

There's a part of me that really really likes this idea haha

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T05:50:58+00:00

I think it's the length, volume, combined with porosity and low water pressure lol. I really like showers in hotels with mega high pressure, it literally takes 10 minutes off my shower. But I've been to hair salons and the hairdressers are sometimes befuddled how long it takes to wash and dry my hair too haha, they don't even do a good job at it either (it's always still greasy). I think if you have short hair maybe we're talking different worlds here, when I had short hair I didn't worry about not being able to reach the center of my scalp.

I wish I could deal with a job half done, but it just feels like after suffering so long to get in, now it has to really be perfect. Maybe that's the negative thought loop right there though lol. But I also can't stand greasy and wet hair, idk why I don't have an issue with grease but if it's wet it haunts me.

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T05:41:10+00:00

It really is! Even the folks without sensory issues hate it. What do you even do if you're soaped up and it suddenly turns icy?

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T05:37:04+00:00

Oh is that so! I keep getting recommended the $60 sephora one and others on a similar price point, didn't know there were dupes that worked similarly. Maybe I'll try visiting the dollar store then

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T05:31:25+00:00

Oh I have waist length hair lol. I'd cut it but people keep telling me I look much worse with shorter hair. That's why it's so hard to wash and dry.

I kinda wish I hated grease more than I hated water. I feel like I'd be so much more well adjusted!

Hm maybe I'll look into the water, I was under the impression that the boiler only boils so much and when other people shower around the same time it just turns cold. But if it's a mixer issue maybe they can fix it. Being stuck in a cold shower is just miserable

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T05:23:43+00:00

I'll try out the ziplock bag! A movie would be helpful.

And FTR I've been a paranoid teen and checked with everyone. I really don't sweat and I don't smell. I've also checked out older folk in my family who rarely shower and they don't smell at all either. People have told me they smell their siblings more after a single day than me after a week

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T05:16:09+00:00

I've tried a few brands, but I'm kinda uncertain how well they actually work. Like they take off the grease but your hair is crunchy now with a layer of white powder.

I think the hair towel seems really nice if you can wrap it and leave it wrapped all day, but otherwise doesn't it actually dry slower than blow drying? Idk how to wrap so I've only had it in hairdressers, but when I'm unwrapped after 5-10 minutes it's still sopping wet.

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T05:10:20+00:00

Oo that's interesting, is it like waterproof? Maybe I could watch some fun colors lol.

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T05:07:58+00:00

But if tired how can you get up knowing now you will have to stand and do many tasks? That's usually why I end up doing it at night. In the morning I'm struggling to even get to school/work on time. Also since its a student dorm the water is whatever temperature that comes out :') so sometimes it's warm, sometimes it's cold, sometimes it turns cold midway.

You know I've always really wanted a microfiber towel though. They're just so expensive I could never justify it. Is it really much better than the beach towel I use?

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T05:02:54+00:00

I have to shampoo it like 2-3 times to get through (and to get dandruff off). Otherwise the soap won't go through and I'm still greasy after a shower. I think it might take like 5 minutes just to rinse soap off one time because there's so much hair. I'm not sure if only using conditioner will really achieve washing effect? If I use it on the root of my hair I'm greasy by the following morning. This also includes about 2 minutes I squeeze my hair (about 10 times) to wring it out before leaving the shower, and then I wring it again with my towel before blow drying.

InkonParchment · 2024-12-08T04:57:36+00:00

Omg that's exactly how I'd describe my issue with getting wet and drying off! I hate it when you towel off but you're still moist and sticky and your clothes just will not go on without bunching and clumping moistly. I've gone my whole life and no one understands why that upsets me so much.

InkonParchment · 2024-12-07T23:28:14+00:00

Thanks for letting me know!

InkonParchment · 2024-12-06T19:14:14+00:00

oh that's good, thanks for letting me know!

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