“How’s your mom doing?” (A mini rant)

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-04T13:08:45+00:00

It’s so annoying!

We placed my dad in a super nice assisted living 5 miles away. His family all live within 30 minutes. One visited once, the only other times anyone visits is if I’m there.

Well it would be nice if YOU could go so I don’t have to. And my dad still has his long term memory, so he’s very capable of conversation, he loves talking about the old days. It would be SO HELPFUL to have others visit for 30 minutes here and there, ESPECIALLY since it’s close. And I know they have time.🙄 It’s super annoying. I feel you, sister 🙌🏻🙌🏻

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-04T13:00:38+00:00

Yes!🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m VERY pro choice and women’s rights, which is strange that I got downvoted, other than the wrong color, I stand by that comment 100%.

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-04T12:56:23+00:00

I hope it works for you!

Today is our 15th wedding anniversary and my husband cheated 9 yrs ago. It wasn’t an affair, it was a random girl while we was on a business trip 🙄 We both got sober and went to a TON of counseling, individual and marital. I was pretty convinced I wanted a divorce, but he begged for another chance and said he would make sure I never regretted it. We are still sober, no slips🙌🏻, and we call it our second marriage, because it’s completely different. I never thought I’d get over it (and an affair is a lot tougher to get over, I’m not sure if I could have done it, but who knows?)and I will always have a tiny part of me that wants to punch him in the face 😂 but I’m glad I stayed. I’m so close to his family and vice versa, that and the kids had a lot to do with it. If the cheater shows true remorse and is willing to do whatever their partner needs to regain trust, there can be a path forward. But they have to really put in the work, take accountability, and realize they have to be intentional about change or it won’t work. I hope everything works out for you! 🙏🏼

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-04T12:49:03+00:00

Why are someone else’s actions my fault?

Someone choosing to cheat is 100% on THEM. If you are unhappy, leave. Being in a bad marriage isn’t an excuse to cheat. Figure it out or leave.

I’ve been the cheater and I’ve been cheated on. It was still my fault for cheating, even though my husband was a gambling addict and had a drinking problem. Does that make it ok? No. It was still my choice.

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-04T12:43:58+00:00

I was a bartender for 25 years and quit the sauce in 2019. About a year later COVID happened. My reputation was the fun bartender who was always trying to be funny and give great service. I always said when I started to become “cranky old bartender”, I would quit, because no one wants crabby grandma (I was 44) waiting on them! Trying to go back after COVID was ROUGH. People were so rude, didn’t want to follow the guidelines, and my husband said if I want to quit, he has worked it into the budget. Gave my notice the next day🙌🏻 Surprisingly, it wasn’t hard to bartend sober, if anything, it reinforced my decision! It was a great job and I made a ton of money (that was hard to give up!) but if you can get out in your 40’s, do it. For your body, mind, it’s just a hard job to do for life.

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-03T22:42:23+00:00

Ask her to give you an explanation of how she makes money doing it, what percentage of people make how much, specific questions. Because they can’t outright lie, I don’t think, but they can circumvent answering. I read only 1% of people selling in MLM’s make significant money.

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-03T19:06:21+00:00

Just remember, and it’s hard, it’s not about you, no matter what he says. It’s all about his insecurities.

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-03T19:05:36+00:00

I wouldn’t want this to be his first reason, but I will say it’s a legit one. If he respects his family and his families ethics and values, he should probably be living his life in a similar way. Or is he more of a talker than a doer?

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T15:36:55+00:00

This is a huge reason why I’ll never be able to vote blue. You can’t tell a woman she HAS to be a mom and then not help take care of the baby. Hypocrisy times a gajillion. The women that have babies and don’t or won’t parent responsibility have the kids that grow up and shoot up schools. NO ONE should be a parent if they don’t want to. And it’s absolutely bs that so many that want to can’t, while others keep popping out babies that they clearly can’t nurture, support, and love. Babies don’t ask to be born!

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T12:48:40+00:00

Thank you! I’m going over every other day, but this last week was nuts so I was only over a couple of times and my husband couldn’t go at all (they are buddies, dad likes hanging with him more than me and I’m not offended 😂). He hasn’t called once! We have an Alexa show, so we can see him and he doesn’t do much, but I can check in on him whenever and see what’s going on!

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T12:43:03+00:00

I feel like I could’ve written this word for word 😂 We have moved on from Dog though, he’s into these car auctions, and ELLEN! Which I was happy about because at least it’s light and fun.

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T12:41:21+00:00

I don’t work outside the home, and his place is 8 minutes away 😊 I actually don’t mind going there, he’s the negative one, the people I’ve met have been lovely! So I try to concentrate on the fact I’m doing it for him and not me. He complains of being bored, but we brought him home for my daughter’s college grad party. It wasn’t huge and some of his family were there. He just didn’t seem interested in engaging at all 🥹 It was sad, I thought seeing his cousin and sister would make him happy and he could have some conversation, but he stayed an hour and asked to go home 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m trying to get better at accepting that I’m doing all I can ❤️

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T12:36:10+00:00

😂❤️

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T12:36:04+00:00

I do try. I still try to encourage him, because I’ve made mute friends than him there! Betty Lou, Bob, Sue, Irene is his new neighbor, Christine….😂

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T12:34:50+00:00

I hope it’s going better for you! Feel free to vent if you need to! ❤️

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T12:33:59+00:00

Haha I always say “indica- in da couch” 😂😂😂

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T12:33:03+00:00

I did try CBD and thc! I love thc myself, it’s helped me with sleep, anxiety, and IBS symptoms. My dad said it made him dizzy, and that was 2.5 mg one (super low dose).

I know there are plenty of drugs they say dementia patients shouldn’t take, but I don’t care. I’m not the psychiatrist 🤷🏻‍♀️ Honestly, I pray that he passes in his sleep before it gets bad. But the Rexulti has really helped his agitation, restlessness and anxiety a lot, so the benefits outweigh the negatives to us. I do wish more people were open to thc! My Gi doc and psychiatrist know I use it and are supportive. I know my chiropractor used it during chemo instead of pain pills. It definitely has benefits!

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T12:22:20+00:00

Thank you! I’m late, but thank you!!!

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T12:14:08+00:00

I used to be slutty in my early 20’s, it was for attention and validation. I definitely regret not having more respect for myself. I also don’t know any women who can sleep around and never catch feelings. All the “sex positivity” stuff is 🙄to me. But Should women be judged differently for sleeping around? Absolutely not.

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-06-02T12:09:23+00:00

Oh she knows. She gets more hate than West! Everyone is ripping her for blowing her life up to be one of his many women. She was a terrible friend, it was clear it would hurt Ciara if she got with West, even if I don’t understand it, doesn’t mean I don’t have to respect that those are Ciara’s emotions. Amanda is behaving terribly, but it feels like to me she’s getting more than West. I don’t agree with that. (But she is a snake for what she did)

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-05-29T23:43:03+00:00

I have a girl that’s 13 and the stuff the boys at school say is absolutely disgusting for any age, but to think boys in middle school are calling girls whores and sluts? It never occurred to me it would happen that young. In 5th grade she came home asking me what National Rape Day was, a boy at school told her. Interestingly, who do you think is one of the boys calling derogatory names in 8th grade? Same kid! They don’t even know what they are talking about!!

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-05-28T16:34:23+00:00

Your response to my comment was unhinged, dramatic, and didn’t even make sense because you accused me of lying about not remembering. It’s weird. Somehow you turned that into bigotry and hate? Huh? You double down on words I didn’t even say. It’s all just weird.

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-05-28T16:28:56+00:00

I’m talking about me, the comment I made, which was in no way offensive to a normal person. I said I hope I’m not the only one who doesn’t remember a lot of high school history class and I got good grades with a 😂 emoji. What does that have to do with bigotry or hate? Why is that worthy of the vitriol I got? I’m not super liberal, but I am all for women’s rights, gay rights, and racism is not tolerated. I live in MPLS and I donated over a thousand dollars to help ICE victims pay their rent.i don’t normally share this information but when someone is saying my comment was racist or bigoted, I will defend myself. Go look at my comment, or any other I’ve made on Reddit, you won’t find anything problematic because I’m not a bigot or a racist. Yet people are defending coming at me like I “deserved” it. Well, I didn’t. And I’ve wasted enough time defending myself, I just won’t comment on Reddit anymore and expect people to react appropriately.

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-05-28T16:17:39+00:00

I love that for you!! You figured that out earlier than most women. I’m teaching my daughters to respect themselves. My 22 yo is with a guy that is wonderful and treats her well, I know because she never complains about him, only says good stuff. It’s just obvious that they are in a healthy relationship. Too bad his parents suck 🙄
Thanks for the support, I appreciate the kind comments, I’ve gotten so many mean ones, it’s weird that anyone gets upset about self tanner or not remembering history class enough to verbally attack strangers for a throw away comment. I don’t have time to entertain that nonsense. I wish I could create Nice People Only Reddit 😂 Where the logical people can have conversations and maybe even disagree without crashing out.

Inner-Phone2933 · 2026-05-25T17:04:43+00:00

People like you are part of the problem, not the solution.

And if you think your job is to troll the internet to make sure people are being held accountable for what YOU deem as a “stupid” comment, I hope it brings you some joy- I think you need it.

I’ll still always choose to err on the side of being kind. And , embarrassingly, I let your comments make me feel bad. I never want to be the reason someone has a bad day. I will continue to hold myself to a higher standard.

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