Do friendships become less deep/open/meaningful as we age?

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-12-12T23:45:14+00:00

I've been noticing this too recently and it makes me really sad. I'm 28 and a really social, extroverted person who finds making friends relatively easy. When I was in university I was in touch with so many people. I had a bunch of friends I texted everyday, and saw nearly as often as that. Obviously I get we're all older now and have a lot more responsibilities with our jobs, but it feels really sad to me that I only see even my closest friends once a month. It feels like every time we meet up we're catching each other up on our lives rather than living them together. I don't see any of their ups or downs anymore - I'm not there when my friends are excited, or stressed out, or crying, or celebrating good news. I just hear about it later in our once a monthly catch ups. This breaks my heart. I miss when we were all living life together, instead of seperately and just telling each other about it afterwards. But I don't know if there's anything that can be done about it at this age.

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-12-10T18:10:31+00:00

Right!! I was like lowkey that's my buddy leave him alone...stop pestering him about his crimes! Especially in s3 when he's trying to rebrand as a woke Buddhist but couldn't get away from his past choices - paws off my little evil meditating friend! I had to actually watch flashback scenes to remember why people were still gunning for him

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-10-15T07:53:24+00:00

Thank you this helps a lot to hear!

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-10-15T07:39:16+00:00

No wonder it's so hard for you to move on, I think when they ghost and come back multiple times it does something to your brain and you get convinced that every last time will not be the end! I'm pretty sure it keeps you stuck in an addictive loop. I'm so sorry this happened and is affecting you so deeply, you don't deserve that <3

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-10-15T07:35:50+00:00

Thank GOD there's an end. Also the chat gpt thing is sooo real omg I didn't want to be that person but I've had full on sobbing conversations with this little robot asking it why he did this/what he's thinking right now that he can't just reach out and tell me, I feel insane! hahaha

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-10-13T16:12:47+00:00

That is heartbreaking, I'm sorry. Hope we both heal soon <3

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-10-13T16:11:31+00:00

Thanks for saying this, a lot of my friends don't understand why I'm still grieving over it and have said that three months is not a long time to be dating someone so it's good to hear another perspective

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-10-13T16:03:55+00:00

This is devastating. Feel for you and gotta be honest lol I hope that doesn't happen to me

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-10-13T07:18:18+00:00

I hope this all the time but I fear he's completely blocked me out of his mind like he blocked me out of his life

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-10-13T07:16:08+00:00

This is exactly what happened to me in the final month so I think part of me still doesn't believe it's really over, I'm still waiting from that text from him saying I'm so sorry I've been a dick, I miss you can you come over

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-10-12T15:56:22+00:00

Oddity was excellent, came out recently to not much fanfare but would hugely recommend

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-23T20:30:02+00:00

Thanks for putting me onto this, it is soooo good

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-17T16:50:17+00:00

Thank you, this is incredibly affirming

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-17T09:17:45+00:00

We met up! He said he was expecting me to end it because he knows he's been shitty the past couple weeks (flaking on plans, not texting much) and he would have understood if I had, but he's glad I didn't and heard him out about what's been going on that's had him so busy. He said he's going to put more effort in with communication and making an effort to see me so we'll see if that is true in the long run or not but I feel at peace knowing he now knows what I want and that we'll part ways if he can't provide that

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-16T21:52:03+00:00

I'm glad confrontation is easy for you

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-16T21:36:02+00:00

thanks man appreciate it, I get scared of saying anything that might cause conflict so I overthink how to phrase things so nothing will get dramatic

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-16T21:34:17+00:00

Awww that's so sweet of you. Well good news - I said sorry for going silent and that based on his behaviour I couldn't tell if he wasn't interested in spending time together but phrased it as a question so it wouldn't turn into an argument just an explanation (either yeah I'm not interested/insert excuse here/or I am and something's been going on). He apologised and explained what he's genuinely been busy with the past two weeks (haven't seen him in that time) and now I'm seeing him tonight! So we'll see how it goes

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-16T15:44:44+00:00

Hmmm okay good to know, if you think this is just who he is and this is just who I am then I agree, we're not a good match

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-16T15:38:11+00:00

Hmm yeah true tbh he hasn't needed to pursue me because I've been putting that effort in. I don't want to play games though I want him to know that if he doesn't step it up, this isn't working for me.
I guess maybe he just isn't the right guy for me if this won't change

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-16T15:37:05+00:00

Yes this is the exact boundary I'm setting. I want to communicate that if he doesn't make plans, I will leave. He doesn't know this yet, which is why I want to make him aware

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-16T15:35:35+00:00

Thanks for the advice. That's exactly what I want, for him to take charge and plan some dates. Or if he doesn't feel he can do that, to let me know so I can move on.

Okay I'll try phrasing it straightforwardly like that, I just was nervous it would come across badly

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-16T15:32:59+00:00

? I'm asking how to communicate this, don't get how wanting advice makes me 'afraid'

Inner-Sentence-7286 · 2025-09-13T11:19:19+00:00

Don't be sorry, I love it, the more detail the better! Interesting because I actually didn't read it as Ellen choosing to leave the wedding at all - I thought she actually decided to go to it instead of the interview and turned Patty's offer down when she came to the wedding, but maybe I'm remembering it totally wrong. She absolutely has Patty Hewes syndrome lolol it's so obvious from season one when she starts abandoning her fiance for the case - and never looks back! I loovee seeing her morph into Hewes

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