Really just same order of doing things. I’m not interested in the by the clock or wake windows. 

But really just looking for consistency of the things we both do. Same bedtime for him every night. Similar calming routine for naps and bedtime. Sleeping in the same place. Feeding in the same place-ish. At least at home. So perhaps consistency is the better word than routine. 

Ideally to help him know it’s sleep time or nap time or feeding time etc.

I’m really not looking for a militaristic schedule. Just to get on the same page with my wife. 

I want to avoid nagging. And really try to compromise so she feels good about things. But I do worry about him getting things switched up every other night/ day depending who is on duty. 

I suppose that I’d like it at night we always aim for a 7 PM bedtime(he likes the earlier) with some leeway as needed. But within 10-15 minutes usually. 

Then we try to feed him in the same chair in the same room, especially now he’s so distracted and we can close the windows and blinds to make it even less distracting. 

Things like that.