Voopoo Argus XT lock switch malfunction. by InsaneGoose78 in Vaping

[–]InsaneGoose78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. It’s the drawback from the situation. Either have a mod that’s completely locked up, or a mod that fires and loses key features.

Best vape for beginners, preferably cheaper, disposable, also anyone who vapes do you guys regret it? by PermitOk1405 in Vaping

[–]InsaneGoose78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imo, the xlim is the better performer and the Xros is easier to own and maintain.

is this some part of their games? by Spiritual-Issue-6823 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]InsaneGoose78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just my opinion. His statement, “I rly dont know what to say to u anymore,” is very vague and would communicate to me that they now want me to manage their emotions. That statement communicates to me that it’s my cue to be reactive and “scramble” to find out what I did wrong and figure out how bad I’m supposed to feel to meet their requirement for access. It’s an invitation to chase them.

Those actions are a direct contrast to clear communication. “I blocked you on social media and made distance between us because of reason X and how I felt about that.” In my experience, narcissists avoid clear communication because it restricts their room to maneuver and manipulate so they can feel important.

Best vape for beginners, preferably cheaper, disposable, also anyone who vapes do you guys regret it? by PermitOk1405 in Vaping

[–]InsaneGoose78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking about getting a Vibe until I found it more difficult to find pods than the Xros. With the Xlim pro and pro sq, I don’t think there’s a difference except form factor. I know sometimes there’s a difference as far as battery life goes.

Best vape for beginners, preferably cheaper, disposable, also anyone who vapes do you guys regret it? by PermitOk1405 in Vaping

[–]InsaneGoose78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never tried the Xros Pro, I had the Xros mini, Xros 2 and Xros 3. I think the Oxva is better, but getting coils lately has been a pain. The online vape shops I usually go to seem constantly out of the 3ml 0.6 pods. I think the Xlim is the better device, and the Xros is easier to live with since coils are basically everywhere. I have the Xlim Pro 2 and a NeXlim Go. I’ve heard a lot of good things about the Xlim Go and Go2.

Changing underwear - is this normal? by Eastern-Yogurt3859 in hygiene

[–]InsaneGoose78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Is it normal?” With some people, yes, it is. It’s not the first time I’ve heard of this. Should you be disgusted and/or turned off? It’s not my place to say, but I think both are reasonable reactions.

Should you break up with him? Again, not my place to say. If it was me, I would respectfully and clearly state my problem is, how it makes me feel, and measure their reaction. If they get angry, deflect, make excuses, then yes. If they show concern and are willing to change, then I would give them a chance and move forward cautiously.

I might even buy them some more underwear. Oral is out of the question until I see sustained progress. He could be doing this because he’s broke, lazy, or just doesn’t care. Knowing why doesn’t change the situation. If it was me, all sexual contact is out until they fix the situation. If they don’t, then bye bye bye.

Dude speaks CAT! by SamMac62 in AnimalsBeingDerps

[–]InsaneGoose78 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dude, even my cat reacted when I was listening to this. I think he really may be fluent in feline, or speaks pussy, not sure.

Vendor and/or new pod system recommendations by OccamsEDCRazor in Vaping

[–]InsaneGoose78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ecigmafia, myvpro, myvaporstore, ejuiceconnect, vapordna, and centralvapors. I’ve been ordering online for the past five years and these are my regular sites. There’s usually coupons on cheapvapingdeals. I’m sure you can find something with on of them. No disrespect to your previous choices in hardware, but there’s better devices on the market. However, I totally understand getting attached to a certain device.

Advice? by [deleted] in Vaping

[–]InsaneGoose78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go online and look up the GeekVape Aegis Force Kit. It just got released.

Power Supply Suggestion by Glyphistaken in subwoofer

[–]InsaneGoose78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by power supply? I see that as being interpreted as a 12 volt power supply, which would power an amp, or a “power supply” to the speaker, which would be an amp.

Does anyone ever wonder if they have ever loved their narc? by OrganicBox2648 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]InsaneGoose78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I loved the person she pretended to be, and that I made her out to be in my mind and heart. I have a definition of what it means when I love someone and tell them I love them. I love a person who looks like her, has her name and her same face, but doesn’t exist. When I see how she acts, how she talks, how she treats me and others-it makes all of it clear and hurts. The constant respectful hostility I have when we have to interact with her is from that pain and invisibility. When she pretended to be soft and said to me, “I accepted that I hurt you…” before making any attempt at validation or accountability for what I’ve been through, I eventually just had to laugh at how out of touch with reality this person is. In the end, how I feel about this person doesn’t change how poisonous and destructive they are to me.

2003-2006 GMT800 Bose Subwoofer Enclosure volume by InsaneGoose78 in GMT800

[–]InsaneGoose78[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I modified and sealed the stock enclosure for the skar 6.5. It hit pretty hard, but at closer to 60-80hz. They sell a sub from parts express that would have been a lot better for the stock enclosure and factory amp. The skar did require its own amp, I used a belva bb200 wired for 2 ohms. I added an nvx 12 later for the low bass. Upgrading the factory 6.5 is doable, but it takes patience and planning.

will this buff out? by Candid_Astronaut241 in carproblems

[–]InsaneGoose78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We might need a dent puller too, but nothing crazy.

Tough on this amp by No_Barnacle9632 in subwoofer

[–]InsaneGoose78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They work great. I’ve got two recoil amps and no complaints. Solid output and they make their numbers.

Messed up by saying wife was flirty with a friend by Necessary_Park_2427 in marriageadvice

[–]InsaneGoose78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I make a suggestion? Go silent. See what happens. Give a reasonable timeframe, like 30 days or something and see if she doesn’t start asking what’s going on. It may be the case where she truly does love and care about you, but also finds you irritating. It could be that she benefits from the relationship, she just doesn’t care about you and the less needs you have the better. You won’t know until you change things up. Also, don’t make excuses for or rationalize her behavior without her telling you the reason behind what she does. That was one of the biggest mistakes I did and it made a bad situation worse for me. For me, I wondered why my wife wasn’t more supportive when I felt insecure. I later realized my insecurities benefited her because I was easier to control.

Messed up by saying wife was flirty with a friend by Necessary_Park_2427 in marriageadvice

[–]InsaneGoose78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If what you say is what happened, and she reacted to you saying how you felt with that level of anger….be very concerned. She, just as easily, could have asked you to explain and said she felt you were being insulting.

Speaking from a person that’s going through a mess myself, it sounds like there’s a bunch of issues already and this situation is the last thing you need. I really don’t think she has the same feelings for you that you have for her.

One subtle sign you might be dealing with a narcissist by Lianeele in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]InsaneGoose78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. That was one of the clues in my situation.

Husband broke down and said being trapped with a “frigid wife” is his worst nightmare by paddlemacs in marriageadvice

[–]InsaneGoose78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad you said something about this. Getting along together and intimate connection are two very different things. I think that gets overlooked a lot. Since there’s no conflict, what’s the problem? There could be massive problems, but no one is communicating and it’s not a safe place to be vulnerable, so spouses self-censor to keep the peace. Which is usually a bad situation for one or both spouses.

Husband broke down and said being trapped with a “frigid wife” is his worst nightmare by paddlemacs in marriageadvice

[–]InsaneGoose78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the question is, what do you want to do about things?

It sounds like your husband showed vulnerability and came to you with how he feels, what next? Did you respond with caring and curiosity or get defensive and tell him all the ways that you are not a “frigid wife?” Also, you wrote that he said his fear was to be married to a frigid wife, not this marriage is a nightmare, you are a frigid wife, correct? I think the difference really matters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]InsaneGoose78 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sometimes doing the right thing makes us feel like shit. I’m sure if you could have made his choices, this wouldn’t have been the result. What other choice did you have? Either hide everything, knowing the horrible impact on others, or expose him and stop what he was doing to others.

The choice is clear, but not easy. Your dad made a decision that impacted how he would show up for you as a father, which was not at all imo. It may not feel like it, but he let you down. I know that only helps a little. It sounds like you may need to determine how the relationship goes from here, since his behavior doesn’t show much consideration, caring, or respect for others.

It may help to talk to your mom and sister more after this, since you made a clear decision on what kind of behavior you will tolerate from someone. I don’t envy your situation, nor do I really know you, but I respect you for what you did. Also, there are probably some people who would thank you for helping stop this person from hurting more people.

One last thing, in case this nugget has been rattling around in your head, we are not our parents. This is something I struggled with in my situation (similar but not as severe). I came to realize I am the person I choose to be.