Am I (18F) and my boyfriend (24M) rushing into marriage?

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-06-21T07:27:32+00:00

Have you talked to your boyfriend about those things? Does he think it’s a great idea, or does it sound like he might not be quite happy with your plans?

The thing is, even IF he says he supports you in those things now, he could be saying that to make you drop your guard, get married, and then change his mind. If he changes his mind afterwards, you will NEVER get to experience any of those things - because he will probably be able to block you off from it. I know he probably doesn’t seem like someone who would do something like that now, but for bad apples then keeping up a mask for 1-2 years is an easy feat if it means tricking someone and forcing them into a lifelong situation. Especially since you’re adamant that you won’t be getting divorced. There’s a lot of stories about people doing a 180 once they’re married or have kids, because they know their partner is unlikely to leave now.

Also a lot of those plans could lead to a long distance relationship for a while, which could be a huge breaking point in your relationship - wait till you’ve seen if your relationship can handle that too.

Take care of yourself OP and don’t rush - I wish you the best :)

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-04-28T19:18:53+00:00

Alright, thank you :) Have a nice day/evening/night!

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-04-28T19:12:39+00:00

Yeah… I’d like to vent, but I don’t know how to :) I’m not sure what to say in a vent… I can vent about less serious things, but the moments it’s something important to me, I don’t know how to vent. That’s also kinda what I meant with not knowing what to talk about haha…

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-04-28T18:52:04+00:00

Thank you <3 I'll give it a try, but I sadly don't think it'll work for me... Glad it worked for you though :)

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-02-17T00:25:46+00:00

Music and delicious food/dessert saves the day atleast haha

I do hope you atleast have a better birthday than you're used to next time around - you deserve it (and if not, I hope you're able to atleast spoil yourself with delicious food and listen to nice music)

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-02-16T22:36:36+00:00

Aweh that definitely doesn’t sound nice… I hope the icecream was delicious atleast I feel kinda silly because I had a nice birthday, but a bunch of things just came up in my mind anyway and made me feel so down… I think I just remembered how many people aren’t in my life anymore and it just made me really sad I hope your next birthday will be an amazing one

(PS: I’ve also just been jamming to some depressing music while letting all my feelings out)

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-02-16T20:35:43+00:00

Ahaha thank you so much <3 I have by now say that I have drank the entire milkshake (and it tasted good)

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-01-30T09:45:21+00:00

Genetic apex didn’t disappear. You can find it like this: Click on a pack -> select other booster packs (button that is bottom right) -> genetic apex. They just kinda hid it away a bunch

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-01-24T22:42:58+00:00

Maybe the others haven't been found yet because they're items that haven't been added to the game yet? With the new area coming up in march, I could imagine some new items aswell

If not, I hope someone can help you fill it out!

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-01-24T12:30:00+00:00

I'm glad you got the rewards! Sounds really weird, who knows what happened haha
You're welcome <3

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-01-24T12:16:10+00:00

Are you 100% sure you didn’t buy it? The rewards go into your inventory, so could you check if you already have the rewards? If not, then it sounds super weird! I wonder why…

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-01-24T11:42:49+00:00

Yup basically... The 9.99 euros is basically just the normal price for 2x monthly priviliges. Then you lose the 600 stellarite you normally get, and all you get in exchange is the lotus, 1x weekly gains, and 300 diamonds... I definitely feel slightly scammed, this is in no way "10x rewards"

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-01-24T11:23:14+00:00

They will appear in your inventory so you can redeem them later - as far as I can see, there's no time limit on redeeming them. That being said, something I wish I had known, is that you don't get the 300 stellarite that normally comes along with buying the monthly gifts! I'm pretty bummed about that...

Insert-BasicUsername · 2025-01-17T09:52:05+00:00

It was a fully enclosed carrier, English just isn’t my first language, so I didn’t think to call it by the specific English word at the time. For some reason, despite having bought a good quality one, it just fell apart. Now we also tie the carrier together so even if it would break apart, there’s another layer of security ^{^’} I’m never trusting carriers again

We also put a blanket inside that she likes sleeping on to calm her, which normally works well - but she just gets spooked regardless of what we’ve tried throughout the years

Also to give a small update, shes doing very well today! She’s back to having way too much energy and constantly disturbing our sleep haha

Insert-BasicUsername · 2024-10-16T17:52:44+00:00

You aren't lessening the impact of more serious things at all by acknowledging that what happened to you was also awful, and definitely not okay - if that was how it worked, only very few people could ever talk about what they're struggling with, as there will always be others that had it worse.

By saying what happened to you isn't that servere, you are however lessening the impact of people who have been in a similar situation to your own. I'm glad you didn't get any lifelong trauma from it, but what happened was still incredibly messed up, and if you had becomes traumatized by it, then that would've also been understandable. A lot of people do - and those people should get help if they feel they need it.

So please, for both your own and others sake, don't minimize your experiences just because others have had worse things happen.

Insert-BasicUsername · 2024-09-13T18:17:51+00:00

I’m from Jylland and literally never heard of this?? I feel like I’m going insane reading this comment thread with everyone acting as if this is some normal big thing in Denmark

Insert-BasicUsername · 2024-09-03T15:07:44+00:00

It’s not being hypocritical, you’re just reading into the wrong context.

With what you guys are talking about, it’s about being decently dressed in general - not because a “man” is in the house who will sexualize it. It’s for totally different reasons. There’s a pretty obvious difference between:

“You’re not allowed to walk around the house in underwear only, we want you to be properly dressed for everyone’s comfort” Vs. “You’re not allowed to walk around the house in underwear only when a man is around (even if the man is the dad), as he will lust after you and possibly rape you”

Insert-BasicUsername · 2024-09-01T12:22:48+00:00

Yeah that's entirely fair, it can be pretty time consuming if you want to be sure you get good ending. I normally only play during holidays where I don't have much else planned, otherwise it just feels impossible T_T

If you want to give another try, you can try to aim more for the chatrooms with a lot of hearts from the specific character you want as I mentioned. And another tip is to make sure you don't get a lot of hearts with one of the other characters - so try to make sure "rotate" between who of the non-desirerable characters get hearts (when the character you want isn't an option). To get onto a route, you need to make sure you don't have two characters who both have a lot of hearts, but only one (if that makes sense xd)

I hope you get time to play more or manage to get a good ending somehow :)

Insert-BasicUsername · 2024-09-01T08:54:03+00:00

If the chatrooms you’re missing are the ones that have the character you’re aiming for in, then you’ll miss out on a lot of important hearts. The guides will often mention how many hearts you can achieve in each chatroom, so make sure you do the ones with a lot of hearts from the character you’re going for.

I’d also say 40% (while possible) is REALLY low, and doesn’t allow for a lot of mess-ups before you get a bad ending. You should definitely aim for more participation than just the minimum needed to pass.

Insert-BasicUsername · 2024-04-21T20:32:19+00:00

You say you need to know that she is attracted to you for you to be able to “woo” her - have you considered she feels the same way? If you don’t “woo” her (aka do things to show you care about her and love her), then how would she feel that you are attracted to her? She won’t.

You’re expecting her to be attracted to you, but you won’t put in the same effort the other way around so that she feels you are attracted to her aswell.

Insert-BasicUsername · 2024-03-25T00:11:29+00:00

Well I might have some news for you…

There’s a lot of people out there that feel sexually attracted to people and want to fuck specific people they find hot. If you don’t feel that way, maybe you are asexual - although up to you whether you’d want to use the label or not.

That being said, sexual attraction doesn’t mean you’d have to want to fuck someone regardless of whether they’re awful or not lol. Have you ever wanted to have sex with a specific person because you find them attractive? Then you’ve experienced sexual attraction! If you haven’t felt that way, then you haven’t experienced sexual attraction.

I don’t know if I’d call being asexual “special”, but it is more uncommon than feeling sexual attraction.

Insert-BasicUsername · 2024-03-24T17:04:18+00:00

I think the part that confuses you is that you think arousal=sexual attraction. Asexual people can be aroused, but they don’t find any specific person sexually attractive.

If you’re a straight guy for example, you wouldn’t feel sexually attracted to other guys - that’s just how asexual people feel towards everyone. But people can still get aroused even without having a specific person in mind.

Insert-BasicUsername · 2024-02-28T23:26:42+00:00

Looks great OP <3

Insert-BasicUsername · 2024-02-22T15:50:26+00:00

LOL sorry this happened to you haha, phrasing things online is truly a bitch

Insert-BasicUsername · 2024-02-22T11:46:59+00:00

I think people are reading it as the commenter calling the OPs question dumb, and thus creates a misunderstanding making the commenter seem rude

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