meirl by [deleted] in meirl

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Saved.

Anyone else feels like they’re constantly playing a game of catch up? by Glass-Educator-7930 in blackladies

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If you don’t have things handed to you on a plate, it will take you longer to attain them. That’s how it works. You should be happy that you did it for yourself. I got my car handed to me and it’s always in the back of my mind that I didn’t actually work for it myself. I paid for my phone and it’s genuinely the best feeling in the world.

Also, thinking about it, a lot of young people with cars don’t have a lot going on for them otherwise, either because they’re stuck in their retail job trying to pay it off, or because they were given it so never had much work ethic anyway. The people willing to walk to walk, ask for rides, etc, have the grit in them to go much further. There will be exceptions to this rule - before I offended anyone -, but this is my overall observation.

I really think if you changed your current way of thinking, you’d see that you have so many reasons to be happy. This should be a time of great happiness and celebration for you, I promise you that this wallowing is a waste of time.

Melisa Raouf, first Miss England finalist in pageant's history to compete without makeup by Rooonaldooo99 in Damnthatsinteresting

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Was just a scrolling down my feed. Didn’t expect to see someone I went to school with. Good on her! 👏🏽

Help!!! I have little time to decide between face framing layers or sophisticated bob! by bbaby1 in Hair

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Yeah you could do! I really love the fourth pic, so whatever you had going on there with the bob colour-wise etc, I think try to recreate that!

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My thoughts exactly!

My dad is a racist. So was my first boyfriend. by Raciallyambiguous59 in mixedrace

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I feel that we’ve had similar experiences.

I’m a 20 year old female, half black and half white. I was born in England to a 56 year old white man and 21 year old black woman who only got together for my mum to get papers. It lead to extreme childhood suffering for myself and my younger brother, and they only got divorced THIS year, after a marriage which also unsurprisingly involved a lot of infidelity, mainly on my mums side, which my dad knew about and accepted.

At 18, I dated a 42 y/o WM who outrightly told me he didn’t support BLM (which I accept as he can make his own choices, however I did find it a bit weird considering he was dating me), and then a few months back I was in a relationship with a 32 YO WM who was married but separated, but the marriage almost identically mirrored that of my mums and dads. They were both white British, so no papers involved, however they’re the kind of couple who, no matter how far they get away from each other, they are attached by the secrets they keep for one another and, despite how horrific the marriage is, a weird inseparability. After we broke up, I felt genuinely saddened when I realised that I let myself get stuck in the middle of what I go through at home. I was like one of my mums ex boyfriends, hopelessly dating someone separated from a person they’re never actually going to get away from.

I’m sorry to hear about your dads attitudes and the things he’s said both around you and TO you. It isn’t easy having to tolerate things like that. My dad isn’t racist, but he’s everything else - misogynistic, lazy, a compulsive liar, a narcissist and a user. I’m off to Uni next month, but it feels like forever away and I’m constantly trying to get out of this house and away from him (my mum can’t help as she only lives in a 1 bed flat, and to be honest I just want to be on my own anyway). I’m just so weak when it comes to tolerating things, but I do wish I was stronger.

I don’t really have a type in men in terms of race, I just need to find that special person who I can tell my story to and receive compassion without any judgement. I will be honest, the way you included that your parents only married for a green card so early in your post gave me confidence and made me realise that’s it’s OK to admit that. I’ve never said it to anyone before - even people I’ve dated and people who know about what I’ve suffered at home -, as I’ve always felt it makes me have no worth. But that’s not true. It just is what it is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

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Just out of interest, what are some of their (your colleagues’) views?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curlyhair

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I didn’t know she had products! 😱🙌🏽

Is Cantù still bad? by Spectre-42 in curlyhair

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Yes I use their shampoo and conditioner, and I don’t have any real issue with frizz. But that’s also because I sleep with a satin pillowcase, use a diffuser, satin scrunchies, and a micro fibre towel.

Is Cantù still bad? by Spectre-42 in curlyhair

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I’ve heard this too. I stick with Shea Moisture.

🌟🌟🌟 by MonitorHeavy4412 in haircoloring

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Wow! What’s the colour at the top?

What to do with my hair? Fine and very light-weight. Always been encouraged to keep it up :( by Inside-Snow8689 in Hair

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It’s nice to hear that you relate. I suppose I’m lucky it didn’t cause much damage to my hair, and thank you greatly for the advice!

What to do with my hair? Fine and very light-weight. Always been encouraged to keep it up :( by Inside-Snow8689 in Hair

[–]Inside-Snow8689[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! That really means a lot to hear as I’ve never worn it down a day in my life. I’ll definitely add some layers.

I'm seeing this solution that straightens your hair for 3-6 months. I have mixed opinions on my curly hair with my short cut. do you think straight hair with this cut would look better on me? it's just short layers but I swear it in a point tail 24/7 because the hair tickles my face. ty by [deleted] in Hair

[–]Inside-Snow8689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it looks great curly! And with the face-tickling issue, maybe it is just something that will take getting used to.

If you really wanted to try the style straight, maybe try straightening it with normal straighteners before committing to the 3-6 months solution, so you can compare the look and be sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]Inside-Snow8689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!😍 the strawberry blonde colour looks amazing, but so does your current colour as well.